Who to live with

[Icilim]

Parents are divorced and since im turning 16 soon they decided that I would get to choose who I wanted to live with. How should i make the decision with not hurting one of them

[Haven]

To be honest, either way you go you're going to end up hurting one parent or the other. I don't really see a way that you can let them down easily or go about it without upsetting the parent which you don't choose. You can always try, but in the end they're still going to be really upset over the idea that you didn't want to live with them; Chances are they'll go into phases and all saying "You don't love me. You don't want to be around me. etc." All in all though, you know this isn't the case. Just try to reinforce that you do like them, and that you do want to keep a steady connection with them - despite choosing to live with the other parent. In the end, in their mind they're probably losing a kid. Which hurts, but that's why you need to try and keep a steady relationship with them to show them that that's not the case.

How should you go about making the decision? Well, to be honest, I don't think that it would ever really be right for me to say choose ____ or choose ____. But what I can say is to choose the parent you get along the best with. The parent that hardly gives you trouble, hardly upsets you, and the parent which really things just go along smoothly with. Choose the one you feel comfortable choosing and living with for another two or so years, and just go about it in a manner which you feel most comfortable with.

I'm not really sure how that whole process goes, but I know that if you're younger that you can choose to live with one parent x amount of days, and the other y amount of days out of the week/month. Would it be possible, if you want and can't/don't want to make a decision, just set up a schedule where you visit both parents every now and then?

[The Dark Lord]

offer to share between both parents but i think your parents have been unfair by making you choose. To be honest, either chose the one who you are closer to or just flip a coin and take the decision out of your hands

[Icilim]

yea thats a good idea. I hate having to decided

[Aspiringanonymous]

OP banned, thread :locked: