What should I do?

[morris13624]

So I had been talking to this girl for the past two weeks and we had gone out to eat three times and then to a movie most recently. I never made a move or even put my arm around her in the movie and it really upset me. I texted her the night after the movie and put it out there that I was to afraid to make a move because I thought I would do something wrong and because I really liked her. To my surprise she answered back I shouldn't be afraid and that I would have been fine and she thinks I am adorable. So here I am sitting on top of the world feeling the best I have ever felt. All of this happened on a Saturday night so the whole next week we were both busy so we never got to see each other. We made plans to hang out that Friday since she was leaving on a trip for the school choir on Saturday. I was so excited for Friday because I was going to make my move and possibly ask her to go out with me like a relationship type deal. Well Thursday night I got asked to work Friday and I made sure it was okay with her and I reluctantly said yes so we made plans to hang out Tuesday since that was when she was going to come back from her trip.

Sunday night that weekend she texted me and asked me if we had anything between us and I was confused at first so I responded idk I want there to be something between us so then she proceeds in telling me she made out with a guy on the trip and that it meant nothing and she was sorry. I flipped out and it really scared her away and I felt like a total asshole and I apologized in school the next day. We talked for another few days until I told her that I was talking to my ex about me and her and how I freaked out.

Needless to say this pretty much made the whole thing with her go back to stage one again. I apologized and I still feel bad now but now shes telling me that she cant stop thinking about her and the guy making out on the trip. She tells me she knows that nothing else will ever happen with him she even told him that but she cant stop thinking about it. Ive been trying to be understanding and I have tryed to be helpful I mean I even told her to be happy do what she wants and that she shouldn't think that nothing is going to happen between them because of me unless she wants us to be together.

I am graduating this year which is in like 2 weeks and shes only a junior. I am going to a community college and still living at home so its not like we wouldn't ever see each other again after summer so I am just really confused as to what to do. I really want to just text her and just try and have a civil conversation and not have to worry about any1 else but every time I text her it ends going right back to that. She says she needs time she really doesn't know what she wants and its just killing me. Sorry for writing an essay haha but any advice on what to do would be awesome. Should I text her? Should I give her more time? Am I seeming obsessive? I really don't know anymore so like I said any feedback is appreciated.

[Hollywood]

I think you should just give her time. You are already set on going out with her, but obviously she needs to think hard about her choice. Don't get too riled up over it, but don't keep asking her if she's made her mind up yet. In fact, I wouldn't even mention any relationship stuff for a while. You know she is thinking about it, so just let her think it over and don't force anything on her.

For now, just keep going on like before, if possible. Just keep being friends, talking, texting, hanging out, ect. Don't try to make any moves, just be friends. It sounds like the thing with the other guy was a "one night stand", if you will. Doesn't seem like anything can come from that, so like I said, don't worry yourself.

If she does choose someone else, don't get depressed. You've still got plenty of time to get into relationships. Just try not to think about it while she thinks.

Best of luck.

[Contra]

You should wait some time, but if it takes too long, start thinking about moving on. There will be many more chances of relationships for you, I'm sure.
If you can't forget her, expose your real feelings to her and tell her you don't mind about the making out incident, then maybe she can forget that and you can have a good relationship.

Good luck :)

[Kahn]

Give her time to sort her feelings out. It seems that she has been driven off by your anger, not by you as a whole. Let her sort out her feelings for you at this point in time. It's better to wait then push something that might just make her more and more distant from you.

Continue to talk to her however. Do not bring up the idea of dating or the idea of a relationship up because, like I said previously, it might drive her away from the thought.

[morris13624]

So I just want to thank you guys for your advice but its pretty much over now because the ex that I mentioned in my first posting...well we hung out Thursday and it ended in us making out in my front yard. Now its like I don't know what to do because I told her that we shouldn't had broken up and I had matured a lot and all this bullshit which I shouldn't had said and I did anyway and now its been a few days and I still haven't talked to the original girl that I made this thread of but I'm pretty sure she knows that I made out with my ex and not I just don't know what to do.

I mean should I at least tell the girl I tryed to hook up with in the first place and try and get her back or do I just stay with my ex and not say anything or do I stay with me ex but still tell her idk I am really confused and my friends keep asking me which one I have the feelings for and I can't even honestly answer that because it was like I missed the first girl a lot and then I made out with my ex...I mean it was really great like it took my breath away and now I don't even know how I should feel.

[Contra]

If you feel good with your ex, then you should stay with her. But if you think it's not going to last, you can go back to the other girl you tried to hook up with. Or just move on and forget about both of them.