I don't feel that my girlfriend like me.

[CLScar]

My girlfriend, Holli, is a very sweet girl. She's the most quiet girl at our school and I have been dating her for about a month and a half now.

The thing is, she does not seem to want to take our relationship too quickly. I don't think I'm going to fast for her, but last week, I tried to give her a hug and she backed away. The closest we ever get is holding hands, which isn't very often. She also never talks to me and when I try to talk to her it's almost impossible to start a conversation.

Am I doing something wrong? Am I going to quickly?

[HillBillyWilly]

I think that she may just be really shy around other people and doesn't like to hug or hold hands in public very much.

[rlb3810]

Did you put on deoderant jk you might be taking it to quickly

[CLScar]

Did you put on deoderant jk

haha. yeah I put on deodorant. :what:

I guess I could try and slow things down. I really like her though.

[rlb3810]

Also I am coming at this from the view point of someone who is almost 18 and I think that your pushing it a little. Start off by just sitting by her and ask her what is on her mind. Most girls like a guy who will listen. Also at this point in your life you are only 14 and your hormones are raging. Go put putting or go out with a group of friends. Just relax all things will come in time.

[CLScar]

Thanks man. You seem pretty smart.

Speaking of which, how do you send a friend request on here? I would like to send you (rlb3810) a friend request if you don't mind.

[rlb3810]

go onto my profile and then look at my friends and in the bottom right hand corner it will say befriend____

And no I do not mind I enjoy talking but you cant send me a personal email untill you have 100 post. I am free to talk anytime.

[CLScar]

Cool. Thanks much. In the mean time, I'll try and get my messages up and not get banned. :P

[rlb3810]

Hi I am Robert

[CLScar]

Okay. I'll e-mail you and tell you who I am and everything. One Sec...

(edit) Sorry, it takes me a bit. I'm on a slow internet connection.

[Hollywood]

Alright, we need to get this thread back on topic. Also a reminder, you guys can VM these things rather than posting them in a thread.

You say she is shy around other people, yes? It sounds to me like she is just a bit loveshy, very common for people our age. Kind of new to the dating game, and she's probably just a bit confused about where to go. I would take it slow, and if you love her enough it won't bother you to wait.

Don't worry about it, maybe talk to her about it sometime and ask her why she is so shy around you if it's bugging you. Just let her get the feel of the relationship and eventually the loveshyness will fade away.

Best of luck.

[CLScar]

Thanks Hollywood, both for the help and getting this thread on topic again.

I'll try and talk to her, but I'll wait a while to see where our relationship goes first.

Thanks. :)

[NeedyTeen]

Talk to her first of all. but shes probably just really shy. and like others said, she probably doesnt want to do that stuff in public.

you are taking things slow..just take them a bit slower. a girl who's that quiet needs that.

also about the conversation thing. it's kinda like me and my bf. if he doesn't talk then i wont start up anything. i dont know why. it's also a thing of being shy...start up with anything funny. i bet she'd like that.

[CLScar]

Hmm. I'm not generally one for humor.

[pixie1234]

right, helloo :)

urmmm i think that what you said about going slow... in my opinion you arent moving too fast but she may feel otherwise. are you her first bf? if so this might be a little sacry for her.

like rlb3810 said try sitting down and talking.... s much as she needs to be happy in the relationship you do too so talk about how you feel and how she feels. its really hard but it pays off to be upfront.

good luck

really hope you sort this
ashleigh :) xx

[Clawhammer]

Okay, here's my advice. Sit down with her and ask her if she gets uncomfortable around you or is she just still a little shy, etc. Just ask and then listen as much as possible, let her do the talking. Chances are she's still just shy, most girls around that age are still somewhat socially awkward with guys, at least where I come from. Best of luck to you.

[BlackBetty]

See if she still has feelings for you... By the way it sounds, she is standbackish. Maybe she wants you to be the dominant one and for you to take charge.

[KillerKing]

Has she ever had a relationship before? If not then it might be that she's new to this and a bit scared and nervous hence why she would want to take it really slow but its also a good idea to find out how she feels.

[iamniokekun]

I have found that it's better to start out as friends first. This way you two are comfortanle around each other.

[zoom zoom]

My girlfriend, Holli, is a very sweet girl. She's the most quiet girl at our school and I have been dating her for about a month and a half now.

The thing is, she does not seem to want to take our relationship too quickly. I don't think I'm going to fast for her, but last week, I tried to give her a hug and she backed away. The closest we ever get is holding hands, which isn't very often. She also never talks to me and when I try to talk to her it's almost impossible to start a conversation.

Am I doing something wrong? Am I going to quickly?

i really think shes really..... shy i mean you need to give her time. i mean my GF now didnt hold my had for a month, and i got a first kiss from her on 2 months. and shes really shy. so maybe you should give her time. i mean you just cant push her into doing something. so give her some time. let her grab your hand or hug you. just sit back and watch.

[swimfreak85]

try talkin to her and if she injores u txt or call her

[CLScar]

An Update:

I'm heart broken, yet again. She had to move. I feel really bad too, I missed her call that she made to me before she moved. :(