Confused about my feelings for her....

[Art_dude]

There's this girl I know (Audrey) that I've known for years, and in the last 2/3 years I've known her we've become verrry close friends. Unfortunately she's busy so I don't get to see her as much as I used to.

For years she had always asked me to teach her drawing, but it never really happened. I guess I saw an opportunity recently to get to see her more and have the benefit of teaching, so we decided that she'd come over once a week for like 2 hours and I'd teach her.

We've been doing it for about a month, and I've loved every minute of it. I don't know why, but having a sort of 'teacher student' relationship has given me the opportunity to see her in a completely different light. I've had a crush on her for ages, but something has intensified this past month getting to see her work. I guess there's something so personal, so private and emotional about drawing that comes out during the artmaking process that only made me want her more. I feel like not only do I know her as a friend and confidant, but now I know her (and vice versa) as an artist on a highly platonic and emotional level. Oh, and it doesn't help that she happens to be ridiculously hot....lol

Anyway, I'm really confused about what to do. I so badly want to profess my feelings to her and experience something I think would be incredible, but I don't know if she is ready. She's been sending such mixed signals. There'd be moments where we'd be talking and we would really connect for that five seconds we looked at each other, but then she'd pull away and start working again... I feel like she wants to know what we can be but she's too confused. She makes certain moves on me that tell me she feels the same way, but then there are other times she talks about some other jerk she's into...I'm so confused...

I want to know what to do from here. It's clear that we're moving into a new stage of the relationship whether we want to or not, so I really need advice on how to handle it....

[Scarface]

It's really great that you are teaching her to draw, you're right drawing is a very personal thing because it's what you create it's your feelings it's like music. It's original and expressing things on another part of the mind that only some can comprehend. I'm sure this is all very confusing because of all the conflicting emotions, but you have that connection with her and she might have the same feelings as you do.

Just analyze what she does and take things slow. Every time she comes over just make slight hints and let her know in a subtle way how much it means that you have the opportunity to teach her drawing and that it's cool to have something in common with her. In terms of the "jerks" that you speak of that could be her trying to tell you that she likes you because she's trying to get you to admit that you have feelings for her. It's a jealous technique.

Just take things slow just continue to see her and just gradually get closer to her show her that you care about her, get to know her better. I hope everything works out for you just don't give up. If you ever need someone to talk to I'm always here shoot me a VM/Pm anytime. Good luck :)

[steve1234]

You seem to have a wonderful friendship with this girl. She enjoys your company by the sound of it
You know, she may just be asking you to teach her, as she just wants to be around you.
I think you should tell her your feelings, you get along very well by the sounds of it.
Of course, she may just really like you as a friend. But, you will never know unless you talk to her about your feelings.
I reckon Goose's advice is great, probably better than mine. I hope I have been useful though.
Anyway, good luck! You deserve it.

[Art_dude]

"Just analyze what she does and take things slow. Every time she comes over just make slight hints and let her know in a subtle way how much it means that you have the opportunity to teach her drawing and that it's cool to have something in common with her. In terms of the "jerks" that you speak of that could be her trying to tell you that she likes you because she's trying to get you to admit that you have feelings for her. It's a jealous technique."

That's what I've been trying to do, but I will make it an effort to show more hints at how special I think what we share really is. You completely nailed how I feel with your post. I feel like you know me and her XD And OMG you may be right about the whole jealous technique... I never would've thought of that, but now that you mention it, I've seen that happen in middle school all the time...Of course she may just genuinely want to vent, but it's definitely a possibility. Thanks so much for your entire post btw. It really helped and really spoke to me :)

And thanks to you too steve!!! Ahh this is why I love my VT fam so much :) Any other suggestions tho are still of course appreciated ;)

[ILOVEYOU]

Mate, i really dont see anything left to say, as Ronnie and Steve have already said the major things. what you should be doing is to try to compliment her, and.. be like "its official" if you know what i mean..
according to what you've said about she, and what she does when she's with you, the things she says when she's with you, they are all nice signals and you just need to get them and answer them in words. oh i thought of something,.. you may want to test her drawing level by the time that she's been learning for some time.. ask her to draw two lovers Kissing, or such thing.. ask her to draw a Romantic scene.. like that.
and also that i know you're very good in Yoga and Tantra, you may wanna teach her some yoga too.. ask her about it, and see if she likes it, tell her a little about Tantra and what it does on a human soul, explain how important "not" having any stress is, and i'm sure she'll love it, and she'll think inside that "aw.. he's very calming, i feel safe with him".. and thats actually what you want, you want her to trust you.
if you think she's Hot, and you may wanna feel her that way too.. just give it a little time, let her like "Open" herself with you, then you can simply tell her that you like her and you can feel free to ask her out.. Anytime! ;)
Good Luck..

[xRAPiiDG4MERx]

if i was you, id give her the pen/pencil and take her hand while giving it to her, hold her hand gentley, and look into her eyes, move your head closer and closer (slowely) and just before you kiss her, whisper 'i love you' and continue to kiss her. good luck guys and girls