rly need help/ sneaking

[NeedyTeen]

okay so i have a question. have u ever dated behind ur mother's back. my mom forbids dating and i am in relationship. i feel guilty though. we arent doing anything wrong. no sneaking out nor making out. it\s rly innocent. but what do u think. am i doing something wrong? my mum has said liking a boy is nothing wrong, i think it's the whole bf/gf thing she doesn't like.


also another thing. ive been waiting for him to kiss me. ive posted about it before. now i heard he is actually going too. but i kind of dont want to anymore. why? i rly wanted to before but now its weird.u think cuz im getting those guilt feelings?

[Scarface]

I did that with one of my boyfriends he used to sneak out of his house at night and come and stay with me. that went on for about two months. it's better however just to be honest and say that you're seeing a boy because if she finds out later on and also that you were sneaking out that wouldn't go over very well.

Your hormones are raging wild it's a part of puberty you have very mixed emotions. Don't feel that you are being forced to kiss him though when you feel right about it then you can make that decision. Don't rush anything just take everything slow. If you ever need someoen to talk to I'm always here feel free to shoot me a VM anytime. Good luck

[Kahn]

Actually I disagree with Ronnie. Don't tell her now. Let the relationship evolve and grow so you can confront her with a more mature and more close partner. If you've just let it go on until you know it will be intimate it might make the situation better. There is no point for getting in trouble for a week long relationship.

Besides, when you're a teenager you're supposed to be able to do this kind of thing. Forbidding it is not wrong but it is taking away something enjoyable.

About you and him kissing. It may be because you are nervous. I'm always nervous when I first kiss someone. Just let it happen and don't think much of it because when you think about it it won't turn out the way you want it. Don't let it stress you either because if he loves you he won't care about when you want to kiss him, he can wait.

[DayBreakArt]

I completely agree with Adam. Don't feel guilty about this. Dating is part of being a teenager.

As for the kissing thing, if you don't want to kiss him then don't. It probably is your nerves but you'll know when the time comes whether you truly want to or not want to kiss him. He may be a little hurt that you don't want to kiss him but assure him that you just aren't quite ready and you're nervous (if you are).

[Hollywood]

I've never dated behind my mom's back. Of course, I've never actually been in a relationship longer than a few weeks.

Sneaking out is one of the most common things teenagers do. If you are in love, I see no problem with doing it. Things like that can really boost the love and trust in a relationship. As for telling her, I also believe you should wait until the relationship is set in stone, so to say. That way, if he breaks up with you tommorow the secret will always remain just that.

And as for the kissing, talk to him about it. Just tell him you don't feel comfortable doing that just yet. It's all about the interests for both of you.

Good luck.

[NeedyTeen]

thanks everyone. i am not sneaking out. when i see him outside of school it's on group gatherings which she knows about. she just doesn't know i am seeing one of the guys in the group. i think i will tell her one day, but as you said, when the relationship evolves more. we are only teens anyways, you never know what may happen.


as for the kissing, it's like weird cuz i rly wanted him to kiss me. i was getting angry why he wasn't. but then i forgot about it, and once i forgot i heard he was going to. i don't know why i feel this way now. i am nervious, and i do want to know how it feels to kiss someone. but i dont know. i guess ill see what happens next time i see him. if this feelings dont go away, ill talk to him.

thx everyone

[LNM1335]

I hope it all works out for you! You are an amazing girl! :)

[Jess]

I don't think my mom would me date and if I was in one I wouldn't tell her but I will never be in one anyways

[NeedyTeen]

^ That's what I thought. but then i met him so i just tried it out.

[Jess]

when you're older she can't do anything because it's normal to be in a relationship and you'll be mature so you can tell her when you're older maybe

[DeEnd]

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[NeedyTeen]

I'm not so needy anymore, lol. And it's not age that matters, let's just say it's society that comes in the way of dating. But it all doesn't matter now, I'm thinking of breaking up for other reasons.

[swimfreak85]

well any of the girlfriends i had (bout 4/5) i never told my parents. if i am goin out with someone for more thn a month or 2 thn i think ill tell my parent but anything under no.

[janthem]

she probably thinks you are too young to have a bf! but just explain to her tht being in a relationship at this age isnt bad

[NeedyTeen]

No, it's not age. like i said its society. but anyways, ive learnt that he isnt worthy of sneaking around.