What do you think about experimenting?

[Tenkotsu]

I kind of want to experiment with another guy, mostly I wish I could do it with someone close but they would never accept :P

I'm scared of what might happen, that I may feel very dirty with myself, that someone finds out or that I might "like it" and confuse myself more :confused: I'm 17 and I'm not sure what to do.

Do you think that it's ok to experiment to "know" or that it's not a good idea since it will only confuse you?

[CaliKid24]

i say do what would make you happy, if u want to experiment then theres nothing wrong with it.

[Scarface]

Experimenting can be a double edged sword although helpful sometimes when trying to discover who you are it can also make you more confused as you may still like females and males alike. Just know that making a decision on you're orientation is something you have to find withing yourself. When you finally discover who you are as a person whether it's with men/woman or both you are born who you are. There is no rush to find out, just take your time and do some soul searching and I think you may be able to come to your decision whether sooner or later. If you ever need someone to talk to I'm always here

[Aspiringanonymous]

Coming from someone who has been deeply affected by 'experimentation gone wrong' - before you do anything, just make sure to be fully aware of the possible outcomes - and acknowledge each of them in full. So that, in case something unsettling does arise, one does not waste time and energy regretting what happened instead of tackling the increased uncertainty in a productive manner, as I did for many months.

I believe that being open to new ideas and experiences is never truly a 'bad' thing - sometimes it can produce unwanted and troublesome consequences, but even in that is an opportunity to grow and reach heightened clarity in the journey of understanding oneself. In the long run, I was thankful for what happened to me, as at some point the layers of profound confusion began to peel away and I emerged with a very different perception of the self and the world - new, but confident, for the very first time.

Do not fear confusion, for it is here that inner clarity and strength is born, out of the struggle against the obscure. One poses questions and uncertainties to receive genuine, confident answers - and at some point, they will arrive - although at times more difficult and less directly.

All experiences convey some degree of insight. What is there to lose by being open?

[Tenkotsu]

Experimenting can be a double edged sword although helpful sometimes when trying to discover who you are it can also make you more confused as you may still like females and males alike. Just know that making a decision on you're orientation is something you have to find withing yourself. When you finally discover who you are as a person whether it's with men/woman or both you are born who you are. There is no rush to find out, just take your time and do some soul searching and I think you may be able to come to your decision whether sooner or later. If you ever need someone to talk to I'm always here

Well I guess I really need to be sure about it, because in my country it is still a big taboo =/

I know I can still wait more to be sure and think about it (I think a lot about it), but I'm scared if someone finds out and what might happen or if it doesn't help me and creates more problems.

I wish I could do it with a guy is close to me and I trusted, to feel safe, but I seriously know it won't happen.



All experiences convey some degree of insight. What is there to lose by being open?

Yeah, I want to experience some things and be sure of what I am rather than pretend to be someone to please others or out of fear, I really want to know what I'm still not sure what to do.

[CuriousDestruction]

i can't advocate experimenting but i strongly urge caution. like Maya said, it can go very very wrong. if you choose to experiment, make sure you do it in a safe environment, with a trusted person. and also make sure you're ready for it emotionally. and if you engage in sexual intercourse, be safe, use a condom.

[foreverjd14]

i would love to experiment with another guy but my school isn't exactly gay friendly and the gay kids at my school aren't people i hang out with

also my friends wouldn't be for it in any way shape or form most of them are very religious and don't really understand homosexuality at all

[Tenkotsu]

Yeah, my friends are very religious or have a macho attitude that would not make them understand or they would feel tainted or something :S

[josh93]

Well it aint bad experimenting if you feel comfortable with it.

[Zeh Crazy]

I want to experimet. I'm bi, but I've never been with a girl, but I would love to sometime. Experimenting can be a good thing because it helps you find out what you're attracted to and who you're attracted to.

[The Joker]

I'm cool with it, the results might not always be what you want though.

[BlackBetty]

IMHO, if you are confused with your sexual orientation, it would be best to experiment. You need to know what you like, and what you don't like.

[James0025]

I have experimented with another guy befor it felt
so good and fun i would do it and even though I did experiment
with him I am not gay

[Lord_Cosby 13]

I think experimenting is good,especially if it's to find yourself. If it's a close friend,though,you could feel awkward around each other if you do experiment. It could be a double edged sword.

[charlie w]

As long as you guys are both okay with it then it should be fine

[boy15]

expeerimenting is good i think because so you can find out what you like, so experiment a bit its not bad

[Eskimo]

It seems interesting and I would like to.

[Luna892]

I think its perfectly normal... I'd choose someone close as well just so you know that you'll be comfortable!
I talk about it too ma best mates which may seem hard to belive but we're so close... if I ever did experiment I would be so comfortable with my best mates :P

[GeneralCrash70]

It's fun, anything but butt sex tho...

[emt.Cam]

It's totally your call, not for me though.

[DeEnd]

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[ilovegirls15]

i wouldn't experiment with a guy .... ever

[cole]

i want to with some of my friends, i think it's normal

[dynamiicz]

I would love to expirement but sadly, I don't know anybody who would.

[neenasen]

I would definitely read this book! it sounds really interesting!
= )

[Ben_E]

Experimenting is generally done between good friends not strangers, so you already know the person and know them well, so thats the first hurdle outta the way. I started just J/O in the same room as my best friend back to back. Then we both decided to J/O each other, first time was a little awkward after cumming cos your not horny and sorta don't wanna J/O your friend, but seeing they did you, you do it anyway. After awhile it's totally normal, feels great, you both have fun and enjoy it. But the worst thing for me was being paranoid someone would find out what we did. But now i don't care if people know. It feels good and we both have fun so why stop?

[Midland]

A good tip that I've seen in a few of PeterAlexander's posts is to set a maximum level that neither of you want to go past and to stick to it.

[Short Circuit]

Just make sure BOTH of you are ready to do this. It can make or break a friendship.

[KenBoy6]

Its all your choice

[OregonStateDude]

Well, I am all for it, for obvious reasons.

I'm scared of what might happen, that I may feel very dirty with myself

I can understand that. In fact, the first time that my friend touched my willy, I asked him if he was sure he wanted to do this (he's straight).

A good tip that I've seen in a few of PeterAlexander's posts is to set a maximum level that neither of you want to go past and to stick to it.

LOL, thanks for the shout out. But yeah, my friendship with Justin means everything to me, so there was no way I was going to pressure him into doing things that grossed him out. We knew going in that it wasn't two straight guys fooling around.

[wolfguy]

you know i am 13 and it seems like your freinds are not dirty but you might be surpiresed you should ask if you can ask a ? and that they would not freak out and if you could stay freinds

[BeyondOne]

If you do, make sure you can trust them.. That's all I have to say lol

[TheMatrix]

Please don't bump old threads. This one is from 2 years ago.
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