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Lifeguard18
May 23rd, 2010, 02:53 PM
last night i was having the best time ever at a carnival with my friends and made new friends too :D

as me and someone else were looking for someone, i came across and old friend. she didnt recognize me at first lol. but once she saw me she was like, Holy shit you look so different. I said, i look that different? she said yes etc etc. she is openly gay and has a girlfriend and doesnt care what anybody thinks about her, i wish i could be more like that.

as we were talking, she asked me, Are you "out?" i asked, "who told you that?" she said, "I heard someone at a party say it. They said did you know Ant My Last Name is out?" I said, Holy crap, Ant's out?" then i said, "Do you know who the person was?" She said no.

we kept on talking a little more and she started saying dont be afraid of who you are (which im not) and dont care about what anyone thinks of you because you will get people like that. which is true.

i have and idea of who this person might be saying stuff to other people. i didnt tell her (this is a different girl) by myself, my other friend did the same night i told her. she was like, I just had to tell her what you said to me. Im sorry ant. i accepted her apology but i was going to tell here later on during the summer.

Last month, me and a friend hung out with each other. she wanted to go the the park and i said ok lets go. the swings were already taken so we walked through the woods and all. on the way back to the park she asked me, "is it true?" i said, "True what?" she said, "Just think very hard." i said, "I dont know what you are talking about." I really did but i wanted her to keep going. She said, "It begins with a g and ends with a y." I said "Im not gay." this is where my friend told my other friend that i was bi and she apologized for it comes in. "Well, last summer i was having a sleepover with with her (the person who i didnt tell i was bi) and she said she got a text saying you were gay." i said "Well, shes lying, im not gay, im bi."

so later on we were on the swings and she told me that the girl told a few other people. i was like whoa whoa whoa hold up a second how many people did she tell? she said, "only a few people and they dont care if you are or not." she only told around three people, as far as i know. im not saying it was her, i dont blame people right off the bat but i have a little feeling she is telling people.

we were mostly talking about this for the rest of the night til we went home to play wii were we got our minds of that subject.

back to the carnival. now, the person who i didnt recognize me i havnt talked to her in two and a half years. and she goes to a different school than i do. if that rumor that is true about me is going around like that, it could end up back at my school and later the other school. its a tri county thing so there is three high and middle schools. if it gotten that far, im so fucking screwed.

i dont know if i should just start telling people, make a post on facebook which is a bad idea, or take the wrong road and have the rumor spread which is the way i DONT WANT TO COME OUT!!!

and the thing that gets me is that i trusted her with that secret and she goes and tells people, is beyond me. im sorry, back to the swings part. she told me that this girl said being gay and bi is against of what she believed in and thats why she didnt show up to school on the day of silence.

ugh SCREW THIS SHIT!

and im sorry if i wrote an essay lol and if it was a little confusing.

Scarface
May 24th, 2010, 12:25 AM
I don't exactly see what your asking about. Coming out can be a very touch subject however. You want it to be just perfect where only a few people know and everyone is accepting. Once you tell one person sometimes they will do that for you. I started off by telling A close friend of course he was very accepting and nothing changed. I didn't do the facebook thing because that is not the best place to do it social networking sites are very open and everyone sees it sometimes causing problems. I finally came out to a few more of my friends and soon enough when I was comfortable more people found out. You will get people that don't like your decision and people that do. You will then find out your true friends.

The best way to approach your burden at the moment is talk to the alleged person and ask why they did it and explain to them that you weren't exactly ready yet. We also have a generally large school district, I don't think it's going to matter who is bi/gay in a school that you don't even go to. I don't think it should matter to anyone else as long as you're comfortable with yourself and your sexuality you shouldn't have to worry about it. Just take it slow when coming out it works out so much better that way. If someone asks if you are and you're not comfortable with coming out simply say that you don't feel that they need to know whether you are or aren't and move on.

Just be happy with yourself and don't let these people get to you their thought should be irrelevant to who you are as a person. I hope everything works out for you. If you ever need someone to talk to I'm always here.

Lifeguard18
May 24th, 2010, 01:21 PM
I don't exactly see what your asking about. Coming out can be a very touch subject however. You want it to be just perfect where only a few people know and everyone is accepting. Once you tell one person sometimes they will do that for you. I started off by telling A close friend of course he was very accepting and nothing changed. I didn't do the facebook thing because that is not the best place to do it social networking sites are very open and everyone sees it sometimes causing problems. I finally came out to a few more of my friends and soon enough when I was comfortable more people found out. You will get people that don't like your decision and people that do. You will then find out your true friends.

The best way to approach your burden at the moment is talk to the alleged person and ask why they did it and explain to them that you weren't exactly ready yet. We also have a generally large school district, I don't think it's going to matter who is bi/gay in a school that you don't even go to. I don't think it should matter to anyone else as long as you're comfortable with yourself and your sexuality you shouldn't have to worry about it. Just take it slow when coming out it works out so much better that way. If someone asks if you are and you're not comfortable with coming out simply say that you don't feel that they need to know whether you are or aren't and move on.

Just be happy with yourself and don't let these people get to you their thought should be irrelevant to who you are as a person. I hope everything works out for you. If you ever need someone to talk to I'm always here.

Thanks. I totally understand what you are saying. This makes me thinknon how many other people know already and if they go to my school or not. People I don't even talk to know.

Scarface
May 24th, 2010, 01:36 PM
Thanks. I totally understand what you are saying. This makes me thinknon how many other people know already and if they go to my school or not. People I don't even talk to know.

their thoughts should be irrelevant to who you are as a person.

This is what has to come into play here because you have to be comfortable with who you are as a person. It shouldn't matter because is everyone going to know "joesomebody" (example) when they don't even go to the same school? It's going to be water under the bridge.

As for the kids that attend your school some will accept you and some won't though your true friends will and that's what's going to matter in the end. Do you think it's going to make a difference 10 years from now whether you were gay/straight/bi? No, so don't take what anybody says against your preferences seriously.

Lifeguard18
May 24th, 2010, 07:38 PM
This is what has to come into play here because you have to be comfortable with who you are as a person. It shouldn't matter because is everyone going to know "joesomebody" (example) when they don't even go to the same school? It's going to be water under the bridge.

As for the kids that attend your school some will accept you and some won't though your true friends will and that's what's going to matter in the end. Do you think it's going to make a difference 10 years from now whether you were gay/straight/bi? No, so don't take what anybody says against your preferences seriously.

Yeah. I'm going to start telling more people about me. Like you said, this will show go my true friends are and aren't.

CantBeTamed
May 28th, 2010, 01:39 AM
Well They Way I Look At Is Is Well Goose Is Right For One Im In A Similar Situation Its Seems Like Everyone Knows So Why Hide It If They Ask Just Tell Em Thats Basically What Im Doing

aerobooster
June 1st, 2010, 06:10 AM
i have no idea what you are saying