Advice to those who think they're fat

[anon123]

This is some personal advice that I'd like to give to anyone who has self image problems or who thinks they're fat. There are healthy ways to control your weight.

First, you're most likely going through puberty and your body is going through a lot of physical changes. Chances are, you're not even fat but you just feel self-conscious, like everyone is looking at you and talking about you. They're not. This is a self-image problem and it can be overcome by simply looking at yourself and loving yourself for who you are.

If you really want to do something to change your weight, don't starve yourself or take diet pills. EXERCISE AND DO CARDIO! The best way is to join a school sport. If you don't like it, you can quit. Theres no sense in playing a sport if you don't enjoy it! Most high schools have an open weight room after school, chances are your weight room has treadmills and other running equipment. The best and most healthiest way to lose FAT (keyword: FAT) is to run or jog at least 30 minutes a day at least 3 times a week. The more you exercise, the more energy you will have and the better you will look!

Instead of feeling sorry about yourself and feeling like you're fat, quit crying and do something about it! Most of the time the people who have self-image problems are girls, so start exercising and love yourself!

[xXDyingToBeReedyXx]

T it can be overcome by simply looking at yourself and loving yourself for who you are.

When I look into the mirror I see oozing fat. How am I supposed to love myself when I can't even look at myself without cringing?

[Scarface]

Instead of feeling sorry about yourself and feeling like you're fat, quit crying and do something about it! Most of the time the people who have self-image problems are girls, so start exercising and love yourself!

First of all it's not always girls. All teenagers are self- conscious about themselves. I'm sure that everyone at one point of another is worried about they're body and it's okay to be. There is a healthy and proper way to go about loosing weight. You are correct on the exercise, but there has to be a diet implemented because if you exercise and not diet it's all worthless.

Getting motivated and doing it is one thing. Don't just jump right into working out and straining yourself make small steps and set goals that are achievable yet sets a challenge. Point is don't beat yourself up over your body if you have any concerns about it consult your physician that way he can say what might need to be done.

[dbrkk]

I'm glad this was posted. I struggle heavily with my body image. I've suffered an ED for awhile now. I've been recovering for the past 9 months or so now though. Although I eat "normally" now, I have horrible horrible body image issues still. I do have to agree with Ronnie..girls aren't the only ones with these types of issues (living proof right here!)

[peterrichet78]

I also want to suggest one way who want to loss fat.
'Drinking black tea can help to burn fat and speed up metabolism. This makes it an ideal drink for those who are looking to lose weight, or who exercise regularly.'

[dbrkk]

I also want to suggest one way who want to loss fat.
'Drinking black tea can help to burn fat and speed up metabolism. This makes it an ideal drink for those who are looking to lose weight, or who exercise regularly.'

Nothing I do seems to work anymore.. I exercise regularly, eat well, avoid junk food, yet I don't seem to lose weight or look any different :/

[ShatteredWings]

Yeah.. that whole 'magic remedy' thing is a load of bull.

[dbrkk]

Yeah.. that whole 'magic remedy' thing is a load of bull.
Yeah, I'm with ya on that. Same with that "calories in vs calories out". There's definitely wayy more to it than that.. (living proof right here!) Doesn't matter if I eat 1500 or 150 calories...I simply cannot lose weight :/

[Eskimo]

drink water when bored, thats my trick

[1_21Guns]

Instead of feeling sorry about yourself and feeling like you're fat, quit crying and do something about it! Most of the time the people who have self-image problems are girls, so start exercising and love yourself!

Actually, a lot of people with self image problems are male, however boys don't feel as open to talk about it, and keep it to themselves.

Other than that, good post. For actual suffers it's not so simple, but yeah, good post.

[dbrkk]

Actually, a lot of people with self image problems are male, however boys don't feel as open to talk about it, and keep it to themselves.

Other than that, good post. For actual suffers it's not so simple, but yeah, good post.
Yeah, I feel so ashamed about it! :( For most people who suffer from this though, the issue isn't to lose weight, but to accept yourself. (I know this totally contradicts what I said above...I must've posted that during one of my "bad moments")

[1_21Guns]

Yeah, I feel so ashamed about it! :( For most people who suffer from this though, the issue isn't to lose weight, but to accept yourself. (I know this totally contradicts what I said above...I must've posted that during one of my "bad moments")

i really get how you feel with the whole acceptance thing...
but yeah, thanks for strengthening the whole guys get it too and just don't say anything.

[dbrkk]

i really get how you feel with the whole acceptance thing...
but yeah, thanks for strengthening the whole guys get it too and just don't say anything.
That has proved to be the hardest thing so far... I've stopped "experimenting" with calorie amounts, my weight is considered 'healthy', I don't overexercise anymore... So everything else is pretty much good, except the acceptance thing. So you struggle with that too? :(

[1_21Guns]

That has proved to be the hardest thing so far... I've stopped "experimenting" with calorie amounts, my weight is considered 'healthy', I don't overexercise anymore... So everything else is pretty much good, except the acceptance thing. So you struggle with that too? :(

yeah, i tend to go from one extreme to the other. most days i cant stand the way i look, and will try to starve myself as much as i can, then some days ill be fine with how i look.
and well done :)

[dbrkk]

yeah, i tend to go from one extreme to the other. most days i cant stand the way i look, and will try to starve myself as much as i can, then some days ill be fine with how i look.
and well done :)
That's kinda how I am, except I'll resist the urge to starve, purge, etc. I'll just try and distract myself (listen to music, go for a drive, do something prouctive around the house, etc).
Thanks btw! :)

[1_21Guns]

That's kinda how I am, except I'll resist the urge to starve, purge, etc. I'll just try and distract myself (listen to music, go for a drive, do something prouctive around the house, etc).
Thanks btw! :)

eventually when i get that bad some days nothing distracts me, but i've developed a general outlook of if i eat, i eat. it doesn't matter. i still dread my weight going over a certain number though.
and welcome :)

[BeautifulDisaster]

This is some personal advice that I'd like to give to anyone who has self image problems or who thinks they're fat. There are healthy ways to control your weight.

First, you're most likely going through puberty and your body is going through a lot of physical changes. Chances are, you're not even fat but you just feel self-conscious, like everyone is looking at you and talking about you. They're not. This is a self-image problem and it can be overcome by simply looking at yourself and loving yourself for who you are.

If you really want to do something to change your weight, don't starve yourself or take diet pills. EXERCISE AND DO CARDIO! The best way is to join a school sport. If you don't like it, you can quit. Theres no sense in playing a sport if you don't enjoy it! Most high schools have an open weight room after school, chances are your weight room has treadmills and other running equipment. The best and most healthiest way to lose FAT (keyword: FAT) is to run or jog at least 30 minutes a day at least 3 times a week. The more you exercise, the more energy you will have and the better you will look!

Instead of feeling sorry about yourself and feeling like you're fat, quit crying and do something about it! Most of the time the people who have self-image problems are girls, so start exercising and love yourself!


In my opinion, this is very insensitive and clearly you don't understand just how severe & damaging low self esteem can be or how awful & life ruining eating disorders can be.

All of this just reeks of misunderstanding & ignorance to be honest, I don't think it's a very good post at all, eating disorders are so much more complex than this. So much more.

[dbrkk]

eventually when i get that bad some days nothing distracts me, but i've developed a general outlook of if i eat, i eat. it doesn't matter. i still dread my weight going over a certain number though.
and welcome :)
Yeah sometimes I'll have times like that.. Not so much anymore (whew). As for the weight thing, I'm trying to teach myself not to care so much about it. It's hard cuz I'm nearly overweight by BMI standards now..but that shouldn't change how I live my life, right??

[1_21Guns]

Yeah sometimes I'll have times like that.. Not so much anymore (whew). As for the weight thing, I'm trying to teach myself not to care so much about it. It's hard cuz I'm nearly overweight by BMI standards now..but that shouldn't change how I live my life, right??

if your happy, what does your weight really matter?

(hypocrite of the year over here, but yeah :))

[dbrkk]

if your happy, what does your weight really matter?

(hypocrite of the year over here, but yeah :))
Well, I wouldn't say I'm 100% happy either. My issue is looking in the mirror. That's the ONE thing.. I can NEVER see the person others see. I always see a huge, disgusting, obese person. :/

[1_21Guns]

Well, I wouldn't say I'm 100% happy either. My issue is looking in the mirror. That's the ONE thing.. I can NEVER see the person others see. I always see a huge, disgusting, obese person. :/

same. even though theres no way on this earth im anywhere near obease, i'm actually borederline underweight according to BMI.
i still see fat though. crazy huh.

[dbrkk]

same. even though theres no way on this earth im anywhere near obease, i'm actually borederline underweight according to BMI.
i still see fat though. crazy huh.
Yeah, there's no way in heck you're fat.. I know that it would take a lot more than just that to convince you otherwise (I know how stubborn this type of thing is). It's interesting, I look at pictures back when I was underweight. At the time, I thought I was fat. But I look at them now, and think how sickly I looked then!

[1_21Guns]

Yeah, there's no way in heck you're fat.. I know that it would take a lot more than just that to convince you otherwise (I know how stubborn this type of thing is). It's interesting, I look at pictures back when I was underweight. At the time, I thought I was fat. But I look at them now, and think how sickly I looked then!

yeah i do that. i saw a picture of myself last summer, i actually said to a friend
wooow. i look really thin in that O_O

[dbrkk]

yeah i do that. i saw a picture of myself last summer, i actually said to a friend
wooow. i look really thin in that O_O
That's why I like pictures... SOMETIMES they help me see myself for how I really am. Or more likely I'll just think it was a "lucky angle".

[1_21Guns]

That's why I like pictures... SOMETIMES they help me see myself for how I really am. Or more likely I'll just think it was a "lucky angle".

yeah i get that an awful lot.

[dbrkk]

yeah i get that an awful lot.

So basically now I'm kinda at a loss for what to do.. I dunno what else I could possibly do to help me think of myself positively.

[1_21Guns]

So basically now I'm kinda at a loss for what to do.. I dunno what else I could possibly do to help me think of myself positively.

guess you have to come to realise that everyone is beautiful in thier own way. and such like. i wish i could help, but i guess you have to do things that make you feel good about yourself, give yourself something to be proud of.

[dbrkk]

guess you have to come to realise that everyone is beautiful in thier own way. and such like. i wish i could help, but i guess you have to do things that make you feel good about yourself, give yourself something to be proud of.

Yeah, that's an idea. I've felt virtually stripped of any positive qualities. Years and years of bullying and negative talk in general from people have caused me to believe there's NOTHING positive about me. lol sorry I'm totally taking over this thread...

[1_21Guns]

Yeah, that's an idea. I've felt virtually stripped of any positive qualities. Years and years of bullying and negative talk in general from people have caused me to believe there's NOTHING positive about me. lol sorry I'm totally taking over this thread...

yeah we're going off topic :P best leave this convo where it lies,
VM or PM me if you want to continue :)

[MyNameIsJack]

When I look into the mirror I see oozing fat. How am I supposed to love myself when I can't even look at myself without cringing?

that's not you, eating and exercising is the best solution.

[dbrkk]

that's not you, eating and exercising is the best solution.
Well no, not necessarily. I find it more likely that she just has a really distorted view on her body. I'm willing to bet everyone here who's said that they see themselves as "fat" aren't fat at all...but they can't see that.

[1_21Guns]

Well no, not necessarily. I find it more likely that she just has a really distorted view on her body. I'm willing to bet everyone here who's said that they see themselves as "fat" aren't fat at all...but they can't see that.

probaby very true.
we find it easy to pick out own flaws. out.
my best friend does it, she thinks she's fat.
shes a UK size 8 for heavens sake.
we all look in the mirror and don't see outselves.
we see flaws.
but everyone has them, and part of accepting our bodies is kinda realising and accepting that.

[Eskimo]

I think it's safe to say that we all can be at least a little uncomfortable with our images sometimes.

[dbrkk]

probaby very true.
we find it easy to pick out own flaws. out.
my best friend does it, she thinks she's fat.
shes a UK size 8 for heavens sake.
we all look in the mirror and don't see outselves.
we see flaws.
but everyone has them, and part of accepting our bodies is kinda realising and accepting that.
Majority of the time, the flaws are sooooo incredibly small, that nobody really notices them. But to us, they seem HUGE. I find that so hard to accept sometimes..but I know it's true