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Brilo
May 22nd, 2010, 09:47 AM
right well basically there is this girl i like. i walk home from school with her and last night after a party we walked home together but im not very confident, so the situation is i think she knows that i like her but im not sure, her friends say she dosent like anyone. should i have said something on the walk home from the party last night?
Blood
May 22nd, 2010, 10:30 AM
Well you could've, but I'm sure there'll be another time for you to tell her.
Contra
May 22nd, 2010, 11:32 AM
You could have said it, but you will have other opportunities to do that, don't worry. (Do you?)
BeautifulSilence
May 22nd, 2010, 11:33 AM
Well asking about what you could've done in the past isn't going to help you...
I suggest that you bring it up as soon as you feel comfortable to ask her how she feels about you. You can brace yourself for being knocked back because from what you've told us, it would seem that she isn't overly keen on anyone.
Until you go for it, you won't know. So, just jump right in at the deep end and prepare for the worst, but hope for the best. She may like you too, but hasn't told her friends out of fear of being rejected.
Brilo
May 22nd, 2010, 12:24 PM
i no i should just go ahead and do it but im not confident enough, but i would hate to see somebody else with her
Marcie
May 22nd, 2010, 12:52 PM
i no i should just go ahead and do it but im not confident enough, but i would hate to see somebody else with her
Here's a set of questions I ask my self when I need to make a decision like this..
What's the best thing that would happen if you tell her?
What's the worst thing that could happen if you tell her?
What's the best thing that could happen if you don't tell her?
What's the worst thing that could happen if you don't tell her?
Ask yourself those questions and use your answers to look at the good and bad, and see if the good things that could happen outweigh the bad and vice-versa.
Then make your decision accordingly.
Hollywood
May 22nd, 2010, 10:40 PM
Here's a set of questions I ask my self when I need to make a decision like this..
What's the best thing that would happen if you tell her?
What's the worst thing that could happen if you tell her?
What's the best thing that could happen if you don't tell her?
What's the worst thing that could happen if you don't tell her?
Ask yourself those questions and use your answers to look at the good and bad, and see if the good things that could happen outweigh the bad and vice-versa.
Then make your decision accordingly.
I completely agree with this. As for the asking her at the party, don't worry yourself over that. It's too late, can't do anything about that now. But there will be plenty of other chances, don't worry.
As for the confidence, you can't do anything but build up the courage. Force yourself to just say it, you'll never get the chance if you just don't say it. You need to say something before someone else does.
Good luck.
ILOVEYOU
May 23rd, 2010, 01:08 AM
Yeah.. there'll always be a second chance, so.. be prepared to change your talking direction into a relationship line :P.. and then simply ask her out, believe me a girl wont fight you for asking her out, they'll like it anyway, either way their word is yes or no. giving it a try would be Great. :)
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