Sick of having to change

[green]

So I have just started highschool and my friends from my old school aren't in my classes. So I decided to try and come out of my shell a bit and make some new friends. So in my English class there is a girl in the desk next to me. I started to talk to her and stuff and for like half a term it was fine but then we got put into groups. A new girl was at our group and i hated her cause she was in the locker above me And was a complete bitch. So the other day I started to be a bit like my old self and I said that spmthing the first girl said was racist. But I didn't realise that the other girl had said spmthing like it to. Then she was all up in my grill like why the fuck is it racist when I say it!!! Then didn't talk to me for the next two periods. This has happened before where I had to change my personality to make friends then tried to make them like my old self and they get angry at me for it. What should I do I realy want to be popular but I don't want to be the douchebag popular guy like we have at my school. The ones who have no future cause they let people like me pull them through with group assignments and pick On kids cause thier diffrent. Help

[Kahn]

You don't need to strive to be popular. Don't change your personality for the betterment of others. Be you. Being popular isn't the best sometimes yet many people want to be popular. It brings attention to you, and a lot of the time it is unwanted. Make friends that you can relate to and you'll be much happier.

[steve1234]

Ive done that before. When I finished high school, and moved on to sixth form college (which you can do at age 16), I decided to have a fresh start, make new friends and try to be different. But, I this didn't work out, and I just went back to being my old self. I just don't care about trying to make friends anymore, so I just stay with my small group of friends who I hang around every now and then.
So, I agree with you, I am also sick of changing myself all the time to try and make people like me.

Just be yourself!

[Hollywood]

Never change who you are to please others. That's crazy, and in the end, it will come back to haunt you. You have to be yourself, and if other people don't like it, then it is their issue, not yours.

As for the popularity, there's no need for it. It doesn't get you anywhere in life, if anything, it gets you in trouble. In ten years, the "popularity" you had in school won't matter at all, what matters is that you keep your mind on school first.

Keep your personality, and find others who relate to you, and I guarantee you will be much happier.

Best of luck.