i'm a f-cking retard

[Antonioc]

i started cutting around 6 weeks ago, and when one of my really close girlfriends found out, she was so sad. i went on and off, and i didn't even think about it, but last night i saw her arms. (I just realized she's always in either a long sleeve or a sweater). I thought she had stopped cutting in december, and she said she did, until she figured out i did, and it killed her inside and out to know that i did that. so, she started again. and i cried when i saw her arms. the cuts were all over, and most of them were literally at least half an inch deep. things like "fuck up" were there too... and something told me it was going to leave some pretty bad scarring. apparently she was thinking that she wasn't a good enough friend to help me, so she hurt herself to make it feel better. she describes cutting as: "...it's like that first breath you take after you've been holding your breath for a long time... it's like I can breathe again" . i cried so bad. and now, i'm cutting myself for making her cut herself over me cutting myself. i'm so fucking stupid. why am i doing this to us? tmrw, she'll probably find aa way to see my arms, then hurt herself for making me want to hurt myself... i just wish she could understand that it\s like, not her fault. i picked up the blade, and i used it. end of story. she shouldnt do ANYTHING to herself for something that's not really her fault. i just want to fill myself with all the pain i can for hurting her.

[Scarface]

Maybe you can be the motivator and stop and maybe that will send a signal to her that she's helping and then she'll quit too. You're not an idiot it's an addiction. I guess it was a chain reaction. Don't let the cycle continue this situation can only get worse. Cutting is only a temporary numb technique that never lasts and only creates more problems on top of the problems you already have. You both have to stop together you can both be motivators for each other. You can do this. Whatever the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve, just keep a positive attitude as hard as that may seem and distract yourself from even thinking about it. Get involved with friends and take her with you that way it helps both of you. I hope that you both stop because it's not helping either one. If you need anyone to talk to I'm always here feel free to send me a VM anytime, I'm always here

[Brighter.Tomorrow]

I'm really sorry to hear that.

Maybe this could be something to help you both stop. Motivate each other, and with the support of each other, I'm sure you can get through it.

Cutting can be a very addicting and harmful thing, it truly help nothing, I learned that from cutting myself.

If you ever need to talk to someone, you can VM me.

[Mike321]

Like the other have suggested, you can help each other out.
Keep eachother motivated and be there for eachother
Cutting is really not worth it in the end, even though it seems like it at the time
Good luck to both of you

[Amyxoxo]

Well as has been said maybe if one of you stops then the other will take the hint.
You, in my mind, are lucky as you will have someone there to do it with and support you.
Just try it, suggest it to her.
:) xx

[xgeekyrocksx]

im so sorry to hear that, and its a very confusing situation. :/
try and help each other, talk about it some more, explain how you feel and how it really isnt her fault. Hopefully she'll understand what you mean...
i hope everything works out for you so, so much xx

[1_21Guns]

she's an (ex)cutter, and her friend cut.
its automatic reaction to blame yourself.
try making a pact between you to stop, its always easier when your not trying it alone.
shes blaming herself for your cuts
and your blaming yourself for hers.
but where are either of your cuts getting you?
nowhere.
is it really worth all this? all the guilt, pain.
for what reason?
so you can feel "better"?
your both better than it, and it's never worth it. ever.
good luck, feel free to VM me if you need to talk to someone.
oh, and your not a retard. your human.

[dstnyisurs]

You have to both stop. I'm sorry you have to live with that regret, I've felt pain similar to that. It's hard, but the key is using this for you both to stop before you get too deep and you can't crawl out of this pit.

[ErykaInspire.]

Cutting isn't an easy habit to break, hopefully you're not too addicted to it, yet. Try to cut down and tell her how much she means to you. Let her know that hurting each other indirectly isn't the way things should be. Next time you see her, don't ask to see her arms, Just hug her. Tell her you care about her.
Cutting can turn into a psychological disorder, so to speak. It can become so addictive that you think you HAVE to do it. Like she said, it's like breathing. You have to.
Take the first step, as you've shown you're strong enough to by typing this out. Stop cutting and spend more time with her, she obviously cares about you.
Now show her how much you care. <3 x
Best of luck, hun.