younger friends/crushes

[Billy15]

like most of you know i am 15, live in a very homophobic rural tennessee and until recently didnt know anyone around here who i thought was even remotely gay and to be completely honest, still dont for sure. a few months ago we got some new neighbors and they have a 12 y/o son and for one reason or another we have become really good friends and hang out together almost every day. the thing is (and it could be my imagination) but he seems gay to me, acts gay (a little) and is always defending gay rights, which is something that guys around here just dont do lol. anyways the last few weeks he seems to me to be almost flirting and when were out fishing or just goofing off in the woods and has to pee he always seems to make sure that i see his junk and doesnt seem shy about it at all. he is always wanting to wrestle and is always saying stuff like i bet you cant pin me down and when i do he seems to like it when i am on top of him.

i know i am 15 and he is 12 (will be 13 in july) but the thing is i am beginning to develop a crush on him and i think he has a crush on me but weve never discussed it openly or anything like that. my question is am i being stupid, is he to young, am i just feeling this way because ive wanted a real bf for so long, is this just a puberty thing or do you think what i am feeling is natural and there is nothing wrong with feeling this way? truth is i m all mixed up about this and am not sure if what i am feeling is right or wrong.

[nick]

An age difference of 2-3 years is not huge, but all the same 12 is a bit young. He could be gay or bi and may have a crush on you, but at the same time he may not have any sexual feelings at all and just be playing around. What strikes me is that, in your community, if you were found doing anything together you as the older guy would get blamed more, people might even think you'd somehow corrupted him. So all I would suggest is that you are cautious and think carefully.

[Tanner]

Ok, so i kinda have some of the same things that nick said. but if you have ever watched/babysat kids, they are very *honry*. kids like to fight, to wrestle, to challenge others. You never know. But, at the age of 12, i dont think that i was having crushes on other boys. Now i do and have been bi for a long time, before 12 if i think about it. BUT. when i was 12, i was telling myself when i thought of those thoughts that i was gay, i was verbally harassing my self. at a point, i even prayed to god to not let me be gay. But, now i have accepted my self.

But look, relating to your question, I'm not sure that he might like you. Now i could be wrong. Kids (note i use kids) are just trying to be little shits. To say it in a good way. some kids like to see if they can beat you in wrestling and such. look. i don't know your whole situation, and i don't even know you. but tell me one thing. how is he acting "gay". That is what im wondering. Oh also. if your going to be in a relationship, or do things, make sure that no one finds out. kids have big mouths. Sometimes things get out. Because if something got out, the 3 year difference is alot when hes 12 and your 15. not when your 23 and hes 18, for example. But sorry if i rambled.

But you NEED to follow your heart. kids are curious. if you want to know if he likes you or wants to do something with you, ask him. It might be harder than it seems (trust me i know) but its a lot better than wondering forever.

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Hope i helped :D

[Scarface]

This decision is all up to you, but the way I see it is age is just a number. If you both in the end fall for each other then go for it. In July it would only be a 2 year difference between. I see nothing wrong with that.

[AlwaysConfused]

jeez are we livin the same life or wat theres a 12 (now 13) year old in my neighborhood that wants to do all the things u described. except defending gay rights. he doesnt like gay pple so to speak but anyway i agree with JustNick he is a lil young and aftr a while hopefully ull get over this person.

[mzakpitt]

there's a kid just like tht down the street only im 14 so it's only like 2 years age difference...but i mean maybe try watching some porn with him and see wat happens...tht's what i would do anyway.

[PatrickZii]

I would simply caution to use caution. If the area is as homophobic as you say, any relationship could potentially be dangerous. Not to say you shouldn't do it if the feelings are mutual...just be careful :)

[Carfreakjack]

Well be careful. Take it very slow. I don't think here is a problem with the age difference. But with him being only 12, that's a small problem. But if he is a smart 12 and Knows stuff like about sex and sexuallity u might b alright. With him not being shy about peeing in front of u in the woods next time ur in there try doing the same to him. Maybe he'll say somethig but u might have to make the first move. With him being younger he might not make the first move. Maybe ask him if he knew what porn is. And maybe slowly led to u to watching it together and then on from there.

Keep us posted!!

[volcomdude]

i think that you should talk to him about what your thinking

[BlackBetty]

Remember, he is still immature, he is 12. Like Nick said, he could be just playing around and being a kid.

Age isnt really nothing but a number. If you all do have feelings for each other, then you need to talk to him about it so it wont leave you guessing.

[cristian123]

billy dude, i think your still in the couris stage like me

[cokeboy]

hey billy itz kewl hes a little younger than u nothing wrong with that
i mean as long as u both are having fun and no ones uncomfortable with it
do what ya feel is right. have fun wrestling with him and fishing. maybe u can talk to him about ur feelings or even ask him why he always make sure u see his junk when hes peeing outside.

[CuriousDestruction]

definitely nothing wrong with it. we all get crushes on people sometimes, even asexuals. he's young, but so are you quite frankly. it may be hormones or it could be curiosity, it's probably both. PM me if you wanna talk about it.

[lizzard]

He might kinda like you and want you to like him too, but hes a little young, but not like young as in he has no idea what he means

[SneakBrain]

who care just fuck him out

[Harley Quinn]

:arrow: Relationships and Dating

[ericboi]

Billy, my advice is to be VERY careful. Not so much because he's a little younger but because you live in an area that's so anti-gay. Life could get horrible for you if you and he start a relationship and the wrong people find out.

[charlie w]

Billy, my advice is to be VERY careful. Not so much because he's a little younger but because you live in an area that's so anti-gay. Life could get horrible for you if you and he start a relationship and the wrong people find out.

agreed with Eric, also keep in mind that he could just be mucking around with you as you are older, i did that when i was 13.
Just be cautious

[jimmycouch14]

Billy, please be careful. The age thing might get you in trouble (the under 14 thing). Why dont you ask him for a sleep over, see if he does anything when you go to "sleep."

[Eskimo]

Yes do be careful, especially in a homophobic area, you need to make sure that if anything at all is going on between you too you need to completely hide all signs of it, as for age, its ok its only a few years. In my opinion.

[KillerKing]

I definately agree when it comes to being careful in an homophobic area and i don't think the age matters. But, he might have feelings for you or he might not as he is 12 but when i was 12 i was sort of like that and having those sorts of feelings too. However, i didn't understand them and he might not either. He could just be goin with what feels right and not understand that he's possibly gay. I would suggest bringing up something about girls in a convesation, like ask him he fancys any girls or has got his eye on one in paticular. His reaaction will give you a rough idea of his sexuality. Then you can take it from there. But if you were to decide on the realtionship path i would wait a while until he grows up a bit in his head, as its been said the age doesn't matter, but it's whether he understands what he wants.

[swimfreak85]

i say try talkin to him bout gay people and ask if he is...or even tell him that u might be gay...i agree with the sleep over thing

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[soccer8]

to me that isnt stupid it depends on who you are and who he is but dont go to far with the boy

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[Muscleteen92]

Billy, my advice is to be VERY careful. Not so much because he's a little younger but because you live in an area that's so anti-gay. Life could get horrible for you if you and he start a relationship and the wrong people find out.

Billy, please be careful. The age thing might get you in trouble (the under 14 thing). Why dont you ask him for a sleep over, see if he does anything when you go to "sleep."


Agreed, be careful

[Billy15]

thanks guys you are all awesome and your comments mean a lot to me and so does this place because it's all i got and the only place i can come to and know i'm not being judged or put down.

i haven't been here for a while (long story sorry) but so you guys know nothing has happened with me and my friend. we are good friends and spend most of our free time together and he still flirts and gives off mixed messages that keep me confused (but what doesn't lol) the thing is he is younger then me and as much as i like him and would love to have a bf i am torn between
the age thing and also the possibility that if we did do something and it got out somehow it would be horrible so we're just best friends.

i am almost convinced that he is gay because he told me he doesnt like girls and admitted one time that he looks at porn and the only thing he talked about was the guys and how he couldnt believe how big they were lol. he also still makes sure i see him when he's peeing and one day when we were playing a game, he was rubbing himself right in front of me and when he seen that i was looking he kept doing it like he didn't care if i seen or not.

i wish more then anything that he was my age because he is so cute and i like him so much.

glad to be back guys.

[derick15]

if the 12 y/o is acting like that, then there's a problem in his home where there is someone abusing the 12 y/o when he tries to wrestle the 15 y/o and pees around him! there might be some child molestation going on in the home where he is living , you might want to investigate on that even as your 15 older than him ? you need to stop the cycle of him following the abuser's doing it to the 12 y/o boy.........