Am I being selfish?

[TaintedBlood]

Most of you have read my post "Why won't she leave me alone?" and J and I have a friend K. K is stuck right in the middle of this bull. I want K to be my friend but J wants to be friends with her too.

When K and I are hanging out J has to follow us around and she is always trying to get K's attention. I leave because J is there and I don't want to start anything with her.

I talked to K and I told her that I felt a little offended that she hangs out with J even though K knows what is going on, what has happened in the past, and why it all happened.

K just says that if anything gets worse between J and I that she will stay friends with me and leave her. But, it still kind of hurts me that she is even hugging and laughing with J after K has seen how much this is effecting me.

How should I handle this? Am I being selfish?

[Kahn]

Well I know it is hard to accept that your friends might be friends with your enemy, but it is true. You may feel distraught that your friend is hanging out with someone you find intolerable, but it is their choice of friend. You have no power over that. What you are doing is inflicting peer pressure onto her and making her decide whether she wants to stay friends with you or stay friends with J. So yes you are being a bit selfish, yet at the same time reasonable. Let her be friends with both of you and when J is around ignore her. If it really comes to the point where you two are about to start something leave. Do not cause a fight and do not argue with her. Hope this helps.

[Contra]

I read your post "Why won't you leave me alone?" and what I understanded was that J is the one who doesn't want to be friends with you anymore, right?
Then, you should keep hanging around with K, and ignore J, like Adam said. And I know that works, because I have a similar situation and that's what I do. Whenever my ex-friend tries to talk to me, I just ignore her. This may seem harsh, but it feels so good... :p
Good luck. :)