Tired of my Family

[Rainstorm]

My family. Is horrible.

Just a bunch of fat drunks with a whored out mom on the side.

That may be an exaggeration, but it sums my household up quite nicely. My Dad is lazy and only ever drinks, smokes and talks to siblings on the phone. My Mom sits on the computer and stares at webcams of other guys showing their dicks, and my Sister is a total slob.

Literally, that sums up my family. And how do I come into play?

I'm the one who cleans their mess (which they put on me), deals with the shit they put on me (Laughing at me taking pills for being depressed), and basically deprived of basic needs most others get (Havent been to the Dentist in 8 YEARS. My 2 year old cousin has been more times than me). And I can't take it anymore.

Friday I called my Grandma and finally broke down, and started crying on the phone to her. And when my Grandma talked to my Mom, she said "Oh no, everythings fine." And then told her about my medication, which I didnt want others to know of. Thus, I get the shit again and get the brunt based on me.

My Dad doesnt do shit. There is mold growing all over this house, water stains on ceilings, our yard looks like shit, walls need paint, carpets fixed, and plenty of other stuff. But, all he does is go to work, come home, and yell at me because he's to tired to do work. He talks to family all the time, and seems to think the house is fine.

My sister = Princess of home. Never does a thing.

I've tried negotiating and being nice. I've done so much cleaning and work here. But, I've had enough. I dont know what to do. I'm at my breaking point.

[Hollywood]

Well, to be honest, there isn't much you can do when it comes to family. Even though it seems like total bullshit (and it is), they give you a place to live and food. That means they care enough about you to not kick you out on the street.

You just have to roll with the punches. I know it sounds stupid, but you can't really do anything, unless you want to risk getting kicked out. Just be patient, in four years, you can get out of there and never talk to those people again.

Another option is to contact Child Protective Services. They may be able to do something about that if they believe you are being mistreated and your living conditons are unsafe.

Best of luck.

[Rainstorm]

Well, to be honest, there isn't much you can do when it comes to family. Even though it seems like total bullshit (and it is), they give you a place to live and food. That means they care enough about you to not kick you out on the street.

You just have to roll with the punches. I know it sounds stupid, but you can't really do anything, unless you want to risk getting kicked out. Just be patient, in four years, you can get out of there and never talk to those people again.

Another option is to contact Child Protective Services. They may be able to do something about that if they believe you are being mistreated and your living conditons are unsafe.

Best of luck.

Oh believe me, I've been threatened on being kicked out before. Just when I try to do it, they drag my sorry ass home so they dont get thrown in jail.

And I've looked in CPS, not sure on it yet.

[Art_dude]

Being patient and 'waiting it out' for four years is a lot to ask. These are people you have to interact with for the next four years. And the rest of your life if you choose to keep them in your life. Start sowing the seeds of compassion and understanding now, rather than later.

I'm so sorry that the situation is what it is. Every human deserves the right to a stable, happy, and providing family. It sounds like you've had some hurtful incidents happen in your life, and you're past your emotional boiling point. I think it's good that you found refuge in your grandma - is it possible to see/ talk to her more often? She might be able to provide some insight into your mom or dad's life which can significantly help you in understanding their behavior and how to deal with them (not to mention the great catharsis of talking with a confidant.)

I think you need to try and go back and understand when this all started. Has your home life always been like this, or is it more recently that this unhealthy dynamic started? Identify the root of the problem and attack it from there. There's an explanation for why a family functions the way they do whether it's good or bad - find out why this happened. Once you know that, half the battle is over.

If you can provide us with some more information into the history of your family, and your childhood, that can really help us in offering insight into the situation. Feel free to PM me if you want to take this further. :)

[Rainstorm]

Well, the two main problems are my Dad and Sister. My mom can be bad at times, but she'll actually try and understand what's going on with me. And she really does care for me.

And my whole life has been like this. My Dad doing nothing and my Sister acting like a bitch. It's gotten worse lately, what with me on my pills and such.

[ilovebentley7]

Thats to bad that your family has brought you up this way, and this is how they are treating you. From my point of perspective.. I see where your coming with from your mom because my dad does the exact same thing -sits on the computer all day and looks at porn. While my mom is just a helpless soul. and my sister is princess.

I've told my mom before how I feel, how I've wanted to commit suicide, ect, and she does the same thing..brushes me off. Tells others I'm fine. Ignores it. I don't get any pain medication.

but
if your family can't do anything for you, you always have your friends. I considered my closest friends my sisters because they help me through a lot of stuff.

You can never 'do' enough cleaning, cause you always have to clean. I live with 5 other people and pets, and I always clean. always. its never clean. I feel like i've been overcleaned, but you just can't stop, right? Idk. I suggest finding peace within yourself rather than trying to be satisfied by your family. Im no therapist, but I've found running, baking, and take hot baths help me settle out my day. Why care about your family once they've reached the 'no return' point? Care about yourself. Do things that make you happy, that satisfy you.

Anyways, I probably didn't help much. but, i hope things get a little bit better.

[Ryhanna]

That souds really bad...

I would definatley contact higher authority. I understand your hesitation, it's family after all, but it doesn't sound like a good faimly. They need some help, you need some help.

[Jess]

do you have anyone else outside your family that you can talk to ? Teachers? Friends?

btw I'm sorry about your family. they seems like jerks

[PatrickZii]

Ugh, that sucks. Count the days until you are 18 and can leave I guess.

[Rainstorm]

And now my Dad wants to kill me... great :(

[nick]

And now my Dad wants to kill me... great :(
He better bloody not!!!!

[Jenna.]

They sound like total psychos. If I were you, I would try to find someone else to live with for a while. Do you have an aunt or an uncle or even a friend nearby that would let you stay with them? You should definitely look into that. Or get CPS involved, especially if your dad is threatening to kill you.