View Full Version : Struggling to cope.
Keats
May 18th, 2010, 04:38 PM
i just can't cope anymore,
cuttings got really bad again.
i'm even doing it at school between exams.
i know i need to stop.
but whenever i try something always seems to happen and set me back.
i don't know how to hide it for summer.
i'm so fucked.
Antonioc
May 18th, 2010, 04:46 PM
don't know how to hide it for summer.
Long sleeve shirts, thin sweaters, wristbands and make-up.
Keats
May 18th, 2010, 04:48 PM
have to wear short sleeves at school with no jumper, summer dress.
and i've tried putting make up on them but it doesn't do much to hide them, just kind of dumbs them down.
Scarface
May 24th, 2010, 07:06 AM
I was told by a good friend of mine to combine bio oil and aloe Vera, it helps lessen the scarring. Is it something that triggers you to cut or is it just the urge you get? Maybe if you tried talking to someone about this, because cutting only causes another problem combined with every other problem that you have in your life. To even be at the extent to cut at school is taking it to the next extreme just keep in mind that every cut you make is going to be another cut your going to have to hide for summer. Try seeing a school counselor they always have good advice and could help you.
Distractions are another good thing to consider when trying to cut go outside of your routine plan your day differently even wear multi colored sox, just make yourself think and keep your mind off of your troubles. Try hanging out with friends more go see a movie play video games. It will keep your thought altered and thinking about more positive things.
Try to think positively even though as hard as that may sound, you have think of all the good things that you have in life instead of always wallowing in misery in cutting. It's a nasty habit. A habit I had myself, but finally quit. Wake up in the morning and say "I can do this" keep saying it to yourself and gain a little confidence and once you get yourself in the mind frame that you want to quit badly enough that you just do. Try getting rid of your blades anything to detour you from doing it again.
I hope everything works out for you and if you ever need someone to talk to I'm here, shoot me a VM anytime.
ExEmoBlood
May 24th, 2010, 08:25 AM
Long sleeve shirts, thin sweaters, wristbands and make-up.
What the hell? Don't give advice to hide it! If you do something, you face the consequences. You can't run and/or hide from your problems.
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One shouldn't worry about a way to hide evidence here, anyway. It's about getting help and advice about trying to stop. And I believe that's what this thread is about. Not about a way to hide the harm.
Barnsey, have you ever asked yourself what the reason is for your cutting? Take some time to do this.
There are many ways to relieve stress. You don't have to settle for cutting yourself.
((forgive me if I seem snappy. I had a rough weekend, and I'm trying to cope with exams on my end, as well.))
Asylum
May 24th, 2010, 08:59 AM
yes it is true that you shouldn't run/hide from your problems, but coverin up scars and cuts has a plus side to it... i mean you get stared at by strangers made fun of by people, so I can see why he offered advice, but I agree he needs help.
Hun you need help. you seirously don't want to live like this the rest of your life do you? Constantly paranoid about being found out, people seeing it. Cnstantly in fear of what others might think if they saw. Not to mention all the emotions that are causing you to use that to cope. Will your not always going to feel this way. Emotions don't last forever. I know this i going to be really hard, but the turth is if you can't stop on your own, then you need help. I know that is really hard to get becaue of parents. But thye love you and will always be with you through this. Even if they are the most awful parents in the world, if you got help, its your first step out. However to stop, thats of course if you want to, yoru giong to need to want to stop. It'll be hard.. but there is hope, there is a light at the end of the tunnel for you. There will be a day when you will wake up and not want to cut anymore for the rest of your life. This sounds great doens't it? hmm... not wanting to cut? Not wanting to hurt myself? Able to deal with problems better... sounds impossible at the moment rihgt? Wrong! you can do it have hope and get ehlp. Don't set yourself up for failure liek arghh I'm goign to fail or idk if i can make it otnight :( don't give up Will, bcause I know you can do this. You can fight the urges your stronger then that. I know its hard hun, but you can do this :) I have faith in you.
Ways to cope:
when i'm angry- punch a pillow, scream, run, blast music while moshing,
whnen i'm sad- cry, eat something sweet (like ice cream or a cookie), hug a pillow, hug a stuffed animal, call a firend, write down emotions, write a song, write a poem
when I just have the urge- Distraction!!! dstraction is the key do anything and everything to keep yourself busy
when I need to focus- drawling, coloring, expressing oneelf through nay form of art or music, wriing poetyr or a story. alsopour cold water on head
when i go numb also for anxiety attacks- pour cold water on head, feel cltohing (if i pubblic try fixing shirt, fixing hair, play with an object, perhaps like a basebal or someting. try to remeber how it feels. also look around you pick out an object and describe it. i see a white lamp with a silver pole round circle bulb. yes say the stupid obvious things.. it will bring you back.. these also work for when hallucinating
the need to see blood- use ketchup, food coloring, anything red on yourself
the need to see scars - draw on yourself, use a henna tatoo kit
play happy music it will cheer you up, negative things do affect ones sub concious.
also if it s a bad day and you are ranting about the negatives in your head.. try thikning ok.. what good came out of today? you must think of a positive with the negatve thougths. because positive thoughts add up. it cold be as simple as my grandma got sick and went to the hospital... what was the positive she isn't day.. today i had a good hair day.. today parents dind't scream, today sster didn't hurt me.
try using scar remover stuff at the store, watches work, i don't know where your scars are... but those braceltets everyone makes and wears like 20 million of on their arms. you just braid three or four hemp string things and walah!!! bracelt mke 20 of these, and it covers up a good part of your arm or ankel! :)
pouring ice cold watter on myself has saved me from cutting lots of timse... exercise is also good (it's like hurting yoruself but in a good way :) ) hope these help. PM me if you need someone to tlak to!
ExEmoBlood
May 24th, 2010, 09:08 AM
I'm saying that if one is found out, one might be more motivated to stop doing it.
Keats
May 25th, 2010, 04:36 PM
i'm barely sleeping anymore.
like 4 hours a night tops.
2 last night.
it's during the sleepless nights when it looks most appealing.
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