Never been in a relationship- WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?

[bridget]

This probable sounds really stupid and desperate but i really need some advie so I know how to fix it.
I’m female, I’m 14 and I’ve never been in a relationship.
Every time i ask this same question everyone’s answer would be: who cares, your too young, be yourself answers but i want to know the truth.

I don’t mean to sound stuck up but people get surprised when I say that I’ve never been in a relationship because I’m apparently 'pretty and beautiful' but appearance isn’t what only matters.

Around my friends I am really outgoing and im described as 'funny' and 'nice'. But when I’m not with my close friends (everySINGLECLASS!!) I’m shy and boring :( I made new friends but they are also shy and boring, I hate school now :(

all of my friends this year are suddenly getting into relationships and i know that just because they are doesn’t mean i have to but i feel left out and at my school its weird if you haven’t gone out with anyone even when you’re in year 7i think its really stupid.

When I’m with my friends and around guys i guess i act crazy(not in a bad way) and they think of me as a friend and crush in one of my friends instead. In class when I’m with my boring friends I’m probably seen as a 'nerd' and believe me, im NOT A GOODY GOODY NERD!! At school i don’t hang around with the ‘popular group’ but my hilarious group of friends probably are a bigger group then them.

ad anothe thing is that i dont have a cruch on anyone but i dont know all of the guys in my grade or know tem well enough to judge them.

please tell me what to improve and I know I should ''be myself' and i will but i need advice.

[Scarface]

There is no way for us to tell you how to change you're going to find that with time and you're own reflection's upon yourself. It's not just to rush into a relationship just to have a boyfriend, but to have chemistry and a love for a person. Once you do find a boy that you have a crush on you will have a feeling and you will know. Don't feel left out you will find someone. Just don't rush things. I hope things get better

[Severus Snape]

I've only been in one relationship and she ended up cheating with no less than four guys before I found out and never spoke to her again. Being in no relationship is better than being in a bad relationship or being in a fake one. Go at your own pace, not a predetermined speed people seem to think is normal.

[steve1234]

You have probably heard this before, but 14 is still very young. I'm 18, and I have not been in a relationship yet. When I was 14, most people I knew had not been in a relationship before. Most of my friends have only just had their first relationship, and they are 17/18. Out of my friends, I am the only one who hasn't been in a relationship.

You say you are shy, well that might be a reason you haven't been in a relationship. There may be boys who like you, but don't really know you yet so they don't want to ask you out yet. Maybe try socialising more, especially with boys, so that you become more confident talking to boys, and so that boys get to find out what you're like.
I have always been shy and quiet, and I have tried to socialise more, especially with girls. Unfortuantly, it hasn't worked out. I've learned that I actually prefer being a shy and quiet person.
Like my signature says, just be yourself and don't try to be someone your not, like I have in the past. Of course, there may be things about your personality you can change, but only change them if YOU want to, and if you feel comfortable trying out new ways of socialising etc.

Anyway, good luck. I hope my advice has been helpful,
Steve :)

[Jess]

don't worry I haven't been in one too :/

[piggy-wiggy]

i havn't exactly been in one either.. dont stress.. :)
alot of my friends are in relationships , or in and out often.. and i can realte to being guys friends, and they go for my other friends instead.. :)
but i like having guy friends, (generally less bitchy than some of my girl friends) :)
i agree with above, saying you dont want to rush into anything..
enjoy the most out of being single.. i do, even though i'd love to be in a relationship, being single is so much fun.. :) even alot of my friends say that its better being single.. no worries, you'll find the right guy soon enough..
hopefully, we both will.. Jess too.. :)

[XxskatergirlxX]

Talk to people, get to know them. Just be your self and tell them that you like them and you understand if they dont feel the same

[Mitch14]

and anothe thing is that i dont have a cruch on anyone
believe me, sometimes relatonships are horrible. the person who "likes" you might just be trying to get soum1 else jealous, or are even enough of a duech to do it just to break your heart. so dont try to force yourself into liking someone. They might turn out badly, trust me, evry relationship ive had has crashed and burned and left me to feel like shit. sorry, if this doesnt help, but i have to say it, DONT force yourserlf into a relatiionship, or even liking someone if your not ready for it. it will most likely turn oout hurting you...
Mitch

[jaydawg729]

i feel the same way you do. the only difference is that i am kinda fat and that is one reason no one will go out with me. all my friends are always saying how good of a friend i am but when i asked them out, they make up some exuse. i always see my best friends with their bf/gf and i feel bad , and unliked. it should never matter on what the person looks like cause i'm a really nice guy.
sorry to unload all my feelings here

[Modus Operandi]

Honestly, this is completely normal. A relationship will come in time. It's better to wait for a good one rather than rush into one, just to "get it over with".

[Jean Poutine]

want some cheese with your whine

i'm almost 20 and never been in a relationship

suck it up princess

[Iron Man]

How does that make you weird? I haven`t been in a relationship before and I am normal. Middle school relationships don`t last anyway and they just lead to useless drama.

[Eskimo]

^ Agree

[Hollywood]

How does that make you weird? I haven`t been in a relationship before and I am normal. Middle school relationships don`t last anyway and they just lead to useless drama.

I agree with this. Nothing is "wrong" with you. I've been in many relationships. Quite frankly, I wish I hadn't been. It was a complete waste of time, every single one. I know you don't want to hear it, but you are too young to worry about it. Just be happy with your friends, you don't absolutly need a relationship.

[pixie1234]

hunn, there is nothing wrong with you, relationships come with time. i wish i had held off relationships till i was olde rbut hey whats done is done but what you do with whats left is what matters. xx

[Continuum]

It's hard to be without people you're not close with. Without my friends I'm lame and retarded.

[Wtficus]

15 year olds shouldn't be dating in the first place, but I'm sure you'll find that someone

[Jenna.]

I wasn't in a relationship when I was 14 either, but mine was because I hadn't found a good guy yet and I wasn't about to just go out with a random guy to be able to say I "had a boyfriend." So many girls at my school do that and they end up getting screwed over every time. It happened to my friend. So don't think you have to have a boyfriend just because everyone else does, because chances are...that relationship won't last unless it's with someone they have a really good connection with. Just try to live your life and if you meet a nice guy, great! If not, don't stress about it. It'll happen eventually. I met my boyfriend the beginning of my sophomore year and we've been together for almost 2 years because I waited for a good guy.