please help its really confusing!

[alexmalecheerleader]

ok so i grew up in a Japanese and Country raised family neither one believes in being gay. but i seem to enjoy men sexually more then women
and well when i jack off its more to men then women and idk why i love women they are very sexy and hot but so are guys!!
im a christian and i know being gay is agiasnt the bible so hers my ?s
1) is it bad in the christian religion to fantasize about men? if im a guy
2) how should i tell people if i decide to be bi ?
3) what are your experiences?

anyway i hope you can answer and also i hate to be the cliche oh the gay cheerleader

[Kitty Purry]

One, you cant decide to be bi. if your bi, your bi theres no changing that! and by expeirences what do you mean? :)

[CuriousDestruction]

first thing, the question about whether it's against christianity and everything is ridiculously complicated. people have argued over this for decades. don't ask us. it's up to you to decide. however, personally i think your sexuality should not be dictated by your religion. 2nd, Gosaints said, you don't decide to be bi, you just are or aren't. now if you're question is how do i tell people i'm bi if i think i might be, that's more complicated. 3rd, my experiences tell me that the biggest time-waster as a teenager, other than facebook, is trying to label myself as bi, straight, gay, etc. don't worry about it. you have years to figure it out. for now, go with the flow and love who you want to love.

[Severus Snape]

If your religion tells you are bad because of something you can't help, its time to find a new religion. You don't decide if you are bi, gay, or straight. If you like both men and women, you are bi. That sounds like what you are to me.

[ThomasB.]

If your bi, gay, or straight, you are born that way and a book can't change it. ;)

[Jess]

exactly. if you're bi, you're bi. All this stuff about Christianity against gays is ridiculous

[GeneralCrash70]

All teens are curious about the same sex during puberty, I'm straight, would totally always prefer a woman, but I've always wondered what it's like to be with another guy, not like sex or nothin, but playin with each other... I think that this is alot of the same stuff you're goin through, but I think you'll get over it... Though ultimately, it's YOUR choice...

[Janey18588]

In the bible it only says its a sin to lie with another man ..But it also says god is forgiving and loves all his children ,If being Bi is what feels right then go with it .No point prenteding to be somthing your not because your afraid of what you church /Family think ..If people care about you enough they will acept you for you
If your ever looking for a chat :)

[Uprising]

1)Yes it is because the religion is a bunch of homophobes, yet it isn't wrong if you are, you are born that way nothing can change that
2)Eventually you'll get the confidince. Hell I found this out a year ago and I have only told a few people
3)????

[boy15]

maybe its against the bible but if you are bi dont supress it, be like you are (sry for my english)

[bellais]

im a Catholic and was raised a very traditional Italian way but im bi and i still believe in my religion but in my own way if that makes sense

[Eskimo]

I dont think god cares about it as long as we dont hurt people, that my opinion, I'm typically nice and I dont see how liking guys is wrong.

[1_21Guns]

you don't decide your sexuality.
and it depends what type of christian you are.
it's only roman catholics that are strongly against homosexuals.
there's nothing wrong with you, it's not a disease.
its natural.

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