Acceptance? I don't think so.

[Justwondering]

It's been forever since I posted my own thread, so here it goes.. I came to this site thinking that I was a heterosexual, but now I know that I'm gay. I'm okay with it, and accept myself, but it's other people I'm worried about. We all know how cruel high school kids can be. I know I shouldn't care about what other people think, and all that great stuff.. but lets face it.. I do. I am in grade 12, so it's not like I would see most of the people anymore, but still..

Another big thing is my Mom.. she is not very accepting of gays at all.. Earlier tonight we were watching T.V. and there was a show on about prison (I was doing my homework so I wasn't really paying attention, but I'm pretty sure it was Lockdown or something) and there was gay couples that they were interviewing. There was a table with a bunch of lesbian couples, and she said "No surprise they're lesbians, look at them..". So I said to her "What's the problem with that". She responded with "It's offensive". I said back to her "Some people think being black is offensive too". She just sort of looked at me, waited a sec and said, "Yes, but they didn't choose to be black", implying that people actually choose to be gay! At that point I had to get up and leave, because I was just so disgusted by her.

This is only one of many examples.. I don't know how I'm ever going to live like this.. Family is a big deal to me, and losing my Mom would suck..

What do you think?

[DrkZ90]

tell school, don't tell mom until you don't have to rely on her financially or otherwise....

[AllieBama]

Well since you're a senior in high school, and I'm assuming you're about to graduate, I don't really see a reason to announce it to the entire school. If you have some really close friends that you wanna tell, then that seems reasonable, but keep in mind that they might be shocked at first. But if they are truly your friends, and you spend alot of time together, they probably already have a clue that you might be gay (no matter how good you hide it)

As for your mom....well, she's your mom! There's like a 99.99999% chance that you could kill someone and she would still love you. Chances are she will love you unconditionally, regardless of you life choices.

[Severus Snape]

As far as your mom's reaction goes, that is typical of the older generation, just like the generation before them was more openly racist. I think that on a whole our generation is much more accepting of gays (which is why we will be the ones voting homosexuals the right to marry)

I have the same problem. I find that it just isn't worth telling my parents that I like guys because I like girls as well. Perhaps I have it a bit easier than you.

[CuriousDestruction]

you seem to be close to your mom, how close? usually if they really really love you and care about you they WILL accept you if you are gay. even the baby boomer generation. as for school, like you said, keep in mind that you won't see these people again. even so, you can always just tell your closest friends and not the entire school. PM me if you wanna talk.

[ThomasB.]

You'll find that alot of the older generation are very homophobic. I know my Gran is! Anyway, as the others said, you're Mum should still love you no matter what happens. She is probably unsure about what she thinks, but she'll soon get over it. Probably better to tell her after you don't have to rely on her for anything, just incase it does go wrong.

[WaahZombie]

i think there really isnt any reason to tell everyone in your school..
and as for your mother, i would wait if i were you.