I'm new and i want to stop so much

[xgeekyrocksx]

hello. im new on VT and your forums have helped me alot, even though i dont talk to anyone on here? x
I've been hurting myself for a year or so now . But i guess all i realy want is to stop. About two moths from when i first started cutting my mum saw the scars. She didnt take it well and told me i was hurting her by doing it. That i made her feel like a bad parent.And she made me promise to "just stop".
I promised but i couldnt do it.
After that, my friend noticed the cuts/scars and i began looking after them more. My friend was nice, but she wanted to see the cuts and kept talking about it. She, like my mum, told me that i had to stop. I know that but all of the times have tried i just get realy down, i cry more and start saying things i dont want to. And then i cut more. It's like it doesnt end. i Just want to stop cutting tbh.
thank you for reading and if anyone has any suggestions then thank you for that to xx

[Amyxoxo]

Well the least that you can do is try to stop.
Tell your mum or your school that you want to stop and they will help you get over it.
They will probably send you to a councilor and they will help you.
I know that it sounds obvious but sometimes it isn't xx

[piggy-wiggy]

keep trying to stop.. (: no matter how hard it is.. anyone on here will help.. you can pm me if you ever want to just talk.. :)

[Asylum]

hey hun... i know how hard it is what you are going through.. but you've got the frst step in ending it down, thats the want to end it. there is a light at the end of the tunnel, yu will stop, however if you can't do it on your own get help. i know that thought is really scary... turst me i know.. my parents didn't take it well at all... but think of it this way... the end progress. think of the day where you won't be trying to hide cuts and not feeling like you have to anymore.. don't give up hope, you can get through this. even if you must ask for apsycologist or counsler. the main key of stopping i find is don't give into the urges at all.. throw the temptation out, call friends. when your angry or strssed at yourelf try - exercisign, running, punching a pillow, dancing, playing dark music on an instrument like Requim for a Dream. if you are sad- eat perhaps choclate or something yo like, call friend, write it out on paper, write a poem, a song, if numb try pourng cold water on yurself (this helps me a lot) do this until drenched because tahts what you'll be focusing on. or you can feel clothes inconspiciously by fixing pants, pulling down shirt, running hands through hair, playing with hair, tieing shoe. another key focus is distraction. keep yourself busy when you get an urge. don't give up on yourself, don't tell yourself i can't stop :( i won't be able to, because you are setting yourself up for failure, and you CAN do this. yu can beat Self Injury. the longer you go without it,the easier you can avoid urges. i know the first few weeks are goign to be hell with not giving in... but you can do it, just dont' give in, of course easier said then done, but you can do this... you must focus on the positves, and play happy music to cheer you up. take a negative situation and turn it into a positive, for example you had a bad day... parents screamed at you... well think of what good hppened, hmm well today my hair looked okish. well thats a plus. it'sthe little stupid things that add up in the end of the day that go unnoticed. there are good and bad parts of every day,try to focus on the good. oh and if you cut becaus of anxiety or hallucinations also works for goign numb too, look around where you are pick an object, focus on it, describe it in your head, for example i have a yellow pock a dotted pillow, it has blue dots, and it's not that soft, even if you can't feel because you are numb, it helps to try to remeber feeligns. for feeling sad like i sai just focus on the good, and talk to people, distract yourself. do stuff that makes ou happy, listen to upbeat music, negative music an negative stuff on the television does subconciously affect you... so when feelign down froce yourself to watch a comedy, or lsiten to happy music, i listen to Jpanese music because i want to mve to Japan when i'm older so i can be awy from paents and when they scream at me, i turn on kanon wakeshima, and remeber its not always going to be like this... have hope. feeligns last momentaily, scars last forever. make up can hellp cover up scars, however if you can't stop on your own get help hun... it's realy worth it in the end isn't it? also another thing i'd like to add, think o all the people who love you.. .your not onyhurting yourself your hurting them too.. and don't hold onto passed things... you must mve on from them, they are in the past, forgive and forget, or remeber, but don'tlet it affect you, the stuation is done and gone, and its not worht holdig onto. good luck... i know you can do it. your on the road to the end, and you will succeed. i'll be praying for you,PM me if you need me :)

[Mike321]

Stopping is one of the hardest things to do, as with any addiction
But it is worth it in the end and if you really want to do it this time, dont give up on it, no matter how hard it gets.
Could you talk to one of your best friends about it or just someone you really rust, it makes it alot easier if theres someone close to you who can support you and help you through it
From past experiecne it is easier with someone else knowning, it takes some of the pressure off you and gives you more support with stopping.
Feel free to PM if you need to talk

[xgeekyrocksx]

thank you for being so nice x
and im going to try and do what all of you said
i'll be more positive and im going to stop someday.. i will :)
thanks xx