Wanting a boyfriend...

[Eskimo]

As of lately I've come to except the fact that I'm gay, and I really really want a boyfriend but no one that I know of around here is gay. How do I branch out and find guys like me without joining a LGBT?

P.S. my parents dont know, which is why I can't join one.

[penguin13]

Well, firstly, unless you're a gay dude magnet - you won't find one, especially if you don't act gay. For example, I'm gay but I don't show any signs of being gay, like the common ones people look out for. So they're not going to come to you.
You need to let people know that you're gay and maybe try to get with some guys you think might be, I'm not sure.
I go to the LGBT club here in Ireland and to be honest, I say 75% of the kids parents think that they're at a friends or something. The people in, and who run the group fully respect peoples desire to withhold their sexuality; so you possibly could join one without your parents knowing.
Apart from that, be on the lookout for gay guys around the area or if there's a pride festival maybe.

Best luck to you

[Maverick]

Its really not easy. The only other thing I can think of are gay bars and night clubs. But you've got to wait til youre old enough for that. I really don't recommend using the internet.

I can understand wanting a boyfriend but for your age joining a LGBT group is your best bet. Plus when having a boyfriend there is always a risk of being discovered so be prepared for that

[Kitty Purry]

The only things I could suggest is someway letting people know your gay. Or joining a LGBT club:). Preety much what Cian said:-)

[Haven]

It's really not going to be that easy to find a guy that might like you if you're not out about your sexuality, but sometimes it's definitely able to happen. Some gay guys just know that another person is gay by looking at them or how they act. I guess they just pick up on tiny, little things. Anything from how you talk, what you say, how you walk, etc. can just trigger that you might not be straight. I agree with penguin though, unless you don't act gay, it's going to be extremely hard to find someone.

But hey, you don't always have to be out to find someone. :D My first boyfriend was before any one really knew I was gay. I mean, I told my friend Vicky, but other than that no one really knew for certain. One thing I can suggest is this - as hard as it may be, sometimes we need to tell someone we trust. Someone we know won't judge us, and someone who's just going to be there for us regardless. That's what I did, and despite being scared, she helped me truly a lot. She introduced me to her friend and got us talking, and from there I just trusted him and trusted that we could have some form of a relationship. Sure it might be hard to tell someone, but if you do, just talk to them. Ask them if they know anyone who might be gay, and just talk to them about you wanting to find someone to be with.

"Plus when having a boyfriend there is always a risk of being discovered so be prepared for that."

This is definitely something you should keep in mind. At first it's easy to stay under the radar, but if you have a boyfriend, someone is going to end up seeing you eventually. Whether it be other people, friends, neighbors, whomever. Just be prepared that anything could happen, and at any moment you might have to tell people that you're gay. But until that time comes, don't fret about it. If you find a guy, enjoy the time you have with him. Life isn't about worrying who will judge us or anything like that. It should be about finding happiness in ourselves and those who matter to us. An LGBT group might be easiest, so you could try that despite not wanting to. Just make up an excuse as to where you're going. :)

[PatrickZii]

I have this same problem. I am 14 and gay and definitely not out to most people. Which, of course, makes it impossible to find a boyfriend.

Basically, it comes down to outting yourself and hoping someone approaches you or hiding and not meeting anyone. I feel like most people my age are still trying to find out where they are, "curious" or whatever and aren't ready anyway. Have faith, like me, that we will meet someone someday :)

[CantBeTamed]

LGBT Would Be Your Best Bet I Would Go To Those Groups But The Closet One Is Like 2 Hours Away

[jaydawg729]

does your school have a club? they work the best. mine is called the gsa(gay-straight allience)

[billium183]

w8..ur in the closet, but u want a boyfriend? wud it be like, a secret? and just wait till u come across some1 for you

[Aspiringanonymous]

Old thread, and OP banned, thus :locked: