I really want to date her, but...

[Antonioc]

We're great friends and hang out quite a bit. I just think I really want to go out with her? I'm afraid that if I ask her out, it'll go wrong just like everything else I've ever tried (meaning she'll say no, will be too confused to talk to me and have our friendship effectively destroyed). She's one of the few people I can actually trust, and although she's not my best friend, she's pretty damn close.

Advice please?

[steve1234]

Im in a similar situation.
I'm not sure I want to go out with her as I don't think I'm ready for a relationship. But, I really want to tell her I like her. She is not my best friend, but she is one of my closest female friends, and I am scared that if I tell her it will ruin the friendship.
I posted my situation on this forum a few weeks back, where I go a lot of advice (Its called 'Don't Want To Ruin Friendship' if you want to look for it).
I am going to tell her soon, its just getting her alone, as there always seem to be other people around when we talk.

Anyway, I think you should tell her. If you don't, you might end up regretting not telling her. Also, you will never know for sure if she likes you back if you don't ask her.

Good luck! :)

[Jordan...14]

I was in this situation like a week ago and then she went out with someone else. trust me it sucks like a bitch when that happens. so I'd tell her and If she's truly a good friend she'll understand.

[The Dark Lord]

I was in your situation but I just asked her and she said YES!!! If you are really close then surely your friendship will survive?

[Trackstar29]

I think you should just ask her, you never know what could happen

[tjjaidaa]

Ive learned that sometimes "labeling" a relationship can actually cause tension and make things worse. With one of my ex's she would constantly ask me what we are and why dont i ask her out etc. And eventully it go things to a bad point so we ended things. But if you really like her go ahead for it. :)

[xRAPiiDG4MERx]

im in the same situation, with my best friend. i know one of her friends, that im friends with and asked her to put a word in for me :) hope it works. good luck guys and girls

[morris13624]

If it was me I would go for it I mean yeah if she says no then it will probably ruin your friendship or maybe not it depends on how close you guys are. But I look at it like well I am guessing you are in high school and I am graduating from my high school in a week or so and the biggest thing I regretted was I became friends with too many girls and never tried to take a chance. So just saying man if I was you I'd go for it because once you are out of high school you're probably not going to see her except for maybe a summer or two if you come back from college or something like that, and even if you aren't graduating this year or not even next year still because if you want to date her and she says no it is going to take time to get over it and after that time you can go out and look for some body else.

[BlackBetty]

I was in this kind of situation. Needless to say, it didn't work out. I asked her out, thinking that was what she wanted, and it has RUNINED our friendship. Now she won't even talk to me.

TBH, I wouldn't risk asking her out, because it could ruin your friendship and it's not worth it.

[Jordan...14]

I was in this kind of situation. Needless to say, it didn't work out. I asked her out, thinking that was what she wanted, and it has RUNINED our friendship. Now she won't even talk to me.

TBH, I wouldn't risk asking her out, because it could ruin your friendship and it's not worth it.

Who's to say this will happen to him?

[BlackBetty]

Who's to say this will happen to him?

I didn't say this was going to happen to him. I was simply giving my input of how it went for me.

[Antonioc]

Well, I didn't ask her out.
And now our friendship like, fell apart.

It was too much when she found out that I had cut myself over her (thought I wouldn't go out with her, thought she didn't like me, etc...)

We're still friends, but we barely talk.

I really shouldve asked her out a month ago. I'd be so much happer.

[coolkid1]

I'm really sorry. Talk to her and say that you didn't mean to ruin this relationship. She should understand.

[adamwest]

I think you should try and go out with her because if you don't you will always wonder what could have been.

[Continuum]

Get a chance to talk to her, if she really is a good friend, she'll understand you. I'm sorry on what just happened :( Everything cools down, give her time, and at the right moment try to explain. If everything is settled, start from scratch (i.e. ask her out; well, you didn't receive her no yet right? Hopefully, she will accept. :) )

Good luck mate