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beedubs
May 12th, 2010, 08:57 PM
ok so im really confused. i have a boyfriend who i love very very much. he is my first boyfriend and the first person i came out to. hes my world. but recently ive been feeling kinda wierd. i still love him, but my feelings have kindof changed. im curious about dating other guys, but i told my bf i want to be with him forever (its been 9 months). i do want to be with him forever but i want to try dating other people to see what its like. he is also very dependent and i do so much but dont get alot in return. ive been talking to this kid recently and its been making me reallly curious now. i meen the kid lives far away (like 150 miles) so i dont plan on a relationship, but he talks really sweet to me and makes me feel awsome. i know its wrong to be flirting with someone while your in a relationship but it makes me feel better. idk what to do i feel bad for my bf because he doesnt know how i feel, but idk what is should do.
PatrickZii
May 12th, 2010, 09:10 PM
Most people don't find the person they spend the rest of their life with in high school. Go out, meet new people, try new things. If it is meant to be, it will happen again.
beedubs
May 12th, 2010, 09:15 PM
i know i think it was ment to be, but i want to experiance new people and date, but i love my bf. its confusing, but idk :(
Hollywood
May 12th, 2010, 09:15 PM
If you feel as if you aren't getting enough in return, or you just aren't feeling the love anymore, then maybe it is time to break it off with him. You may think you want to be with him forever, but you usually never meet "the one" until much later.
Also, if you are curious to try other relationships, then it is defiantly best that you end it. This shows that the relationship is getting "boring" and you guys just need to part ways, in my opinion.
Best of luck to you.
beedubs
May 12th, 2010, 09:16 PM
i know but i feel bad, i grew so close to his family, and his mom sometimes calls me son.
Hollywood
May 12th, 2010, 09:28 PM
i know but i feel bad, i grew so close to his family, and his mom sometimes calls me son.
You can't let things like that affect your love life. Just because his mom likes you doesn't mean you have to stay with him. However, in the end, do what your heart tells you. If you don't want to break up, don't. It's all you.
beedubs
May 12th, 2010, 09:30 PM
i know. id also like to stay friends but idk how hed take that. looks like im crying myself to sleep tonight
Hollywood
May 12th, 2010, 09:34 PM
i know. id also like to stay friends but idk how hed take that. looks like im crying myself to sleep tonight
Nah don't do that. Sometimes you just have to look at the facts and give up. My PM box is always open if you need to talk.
beedubs
May 12th, 2010, 09:38 PM
well maybe ill msg you tommarow cuz im going to bed in like 5 min. but heres how i feel in a nutshell: i love him, but i want to experience new relationships, but i cant picture growing old without him. Im so confused idk what to do im crying right now :(
peaceloverugby
May 12th, 2010, 11:31 PM
I think you're just caught up in your first relationship. If he WAS the one (which I don't think exists, but that is btp), you wouldn't feel like it was one-sided. If he was the one, he would be contributing.
PatrickZii
May 13th, 2010, 08:00 PM
Well, you have to choose. You can't have both. You can't love him forever and play the field. Take some time and decide what is really important. doesn't mean you can't change your mind later, but it will help you know what you want, for now at least.
KillerKing
May 15th, 2010, 11:46 AM
I think you can love him forever but you can't be with other people as well.
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