alright ladies & gents, I need advice!

[Caaaaam]

I couldn't think of the appropriate place to post this, but I think here will be just fine.

so, there's this guy, Nick. Nick is everything I want in a guy, & I can't stand it. no one at school knows I'm bi, except my ex-girlfriend whom I trust with most everything. I don't want to come out yet, but I want to tell Nick ..
I honestly have no idea if he's straight, bi, or curious. he gives off no obvious hints, & we don't talk much, so it's challenging to read him. after months of reading on this site about all the "curious" boys it gives me hope that he his. BUT, all I can think of is the negatives ..
what will happen if he's not?
what if he thinks I'm a freak?
what if this, & what if that, blah blah.
needless to say, I "love" him, & I really wish there was an easy way to tell him.
what should I do? all commentary accepted here! (:
thanks everyone for reading <3

[GeneralCrash70]

Find out more about him through your friends and his friends so you can make an educated deliberation on the situation... Most straight guys might react very negatively to a bisexual guy asking them out or telling him they love him... So don't go into the situation blindfolded, but anyways, I hope all goes well for you dude...

[Caaaaam]

Find out more about him through your friends and his friends so you can make an educated deliberation on the situation... Most straight guys might react very negatively to a bisexual guy asking them out or telling him they love him... So don't go into the situation blindfolded, but anyways, I hope all goes well for you dude...

but ..
if I were to ask around, wouldn't people be like "wtf?"
they would all most likely think I'm trying to get at him or something. I don't know though ..there's a couple openly gay people at our school, but not many. & no one really likes them. I would totally come out if I wasn't so scared of being judged.
& thanks for the advice. I won't go at it blind. he's a really nice guy, but then again I have no idea how he would react to something like that.

[GeneralCrash70]

What about your ex girl, get her to ask for you so it would seem normal, you said you trust her enough, so anybody that hears her ask might just take it in passing and not care...

[Caaaaam]

What about your ex girl, get her to ask for you so it would seem normal, you said you trust her enough, so anybody that hears her ask might just take it in passing and not care...

I doubt that would work though, because why would he answer honestly? what if he's like me? he's pretty up there with the jocks & stuff, so his "reputation" would be pretty ruined if everyone found out he was bisexual. & that's another thing I don't want to happen to him OR have him be afraid of. URG. this whole situation sucks. why can't my life be perfect? hah.

[PatrickZii]

Dude, you gotta be friends with him before springing something like this on him. Just work on friendship and see where that leads you.

[GeneralCrash70]

Because lifes a bitch, lol... There's always a time to take risks, just like if you don't learn how to snowboard, and you wanted to, then you never know what it's like or what the outcome is... I think you could be respected for being comfortable with your sexuality and the fact that you were bold in asking the guy that you liked the things you wanna ask him...

[Caaaaam]

Dude, you gotta be friends with him before springing something like this on him. Just work on friendship and see where that leads you.

dude, I am friends with him. I'm not a dumbass. I've been working on him for more than three years.

[GeneralCrash70]

Well, that sounds like he might be pretty chill with the question then... It's all up to you askin him though man...

[Caaaaam]

Well, that sounds like he might be pretty chill with the question then... It's all up to you askin him though man...

lmao, if only it was that easy ..

[GeneralCrash70]

C'mon man! You're a dude, I know you got balls, so harness that strength and do it! I know you want to man, you seem to be goin nuts over this thing, and either way, it might take a load off ya...

[Caaaaam]

C'mon man! You're a dude, I know you got balls, so harness that strength and do it! I know you want to man, you seem to be goin nuts over this thing, and either way, it might take a load off ya...

but it could explode in my face! don't get me wrong, I'm super outgoing ..but ..cute guy+my reputation+our friendship+school=scared me.

[GeneralCrash70]

Haha, god teenage years suck sometimes... Like I said dude, it's all you man, nobody is gonna force you to do it, but if you're gonna do it, don't delay.. I think you'll be okay man...

[Caaaaam]

Haha, god teenage years suck sometimes... Like I said dude, it's all you man, nobody is gonna force you to do it, but if you're gonna do it, don't delay.. I think you'll be okay man...

I guess we'll see in the end. maybe I'll get fed up with having to sit there, everyday, looking at his bulge in PE class & not being able to do anything about it :yummy:
oh, & weird thing ..he's caught me ..checking him out. & he smiled at me! (:
so misleading, hah.

[GeneralCrash70]

I would take that as a sign... Maybe you should ask in that context, like "do you like it when I stare at your bulge?" or something like that and see what you get out of that...

[Caaaaam]

I would take that as a sign... Maybe you should ask in that context, like "do you like it when I stare at your bulge?" or something like that and see what you get out of that...

I might just do that. except through texting ..
doing something in person like that sucks, hah. I get all shaky & I can't talk.

[GeneralCrash70]

Whatever you need to do man... It's all your plan of action, so carry it out...

[Caaaaam]

Whatever you need to do man... It's all your plan of action, so carry it out...

kay! thanks man.
I sure wish you could see him. he's fucking amazing ..excuse my French.

[GeneralCrash70]

No excuses needed man, I understand...

[Caaaaam]

anyway! more people should comment on this!
come on! (:

[Antares]

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