Annoyed and confused,

[xExplosive]

Alright, so uhm---this is my first post ever and I guess I just needed a new forum to come on but I also need to vent and maybe get some sort of insight.
I’m gay, and just recently I got out of a crappy relationship like I got cheated on and shit but it’s whatever, recently I’ve developed this “I don’t care” attitude.

Anyways, my friends friend added me on Facebook. We’ll call him James.
Anywho, we’ve been talking a lot and eventually we ended up flirting a lot and we’ve gone on webcam (just to talk, nothing to talk) and he flirts A LOT (I do too). I was fine with it since he seems like a totally great person and we have a lot in common.
So one day he IM’d me and he’s like, “Oh I feel like such a whore right now”, and I was like “Why?” and he said, “Oh it’s because I really like you and I want you and at the same time I have a boyfriend.”
Anyways, he wants me to come to his birthday party so we can be together for the day and stuff…but now I’m less sure of how much I like him. He’s great, he seems to have great intentions and morals.

But like in that La Roux song maybe it’s, “false love and affection, you don’t like me you just want the attention”.

I guess I’m just confused.
I REALLY like him and I would hate to blow him off because he has a boyfriend, but it leads me to believe that if we were together wouldn’t he do the same to me?

I don’t really want to confront him on it because I just don’t feel like it’s my place to inquire on his relationship. When I have asked about his boyfriend he just gives me like small answers.

[Blood]

Ok, lets take a minute to think about this.

He's already got a boyfriend.
He openly told you this and he still flirts with you.
Basically, he's cheating.

If he wants to get with you, he needs to call off the relationship with his current boyfriend. If I were in this position I wouldn't even consider getting with him.

If he's cheating on his boyfriend right now, what'll stop him from cheating on you if you get with him?

Sorry if I come across as mean, but this is one of those 'tell it as it is' times.

Hope I helped.

[emt.Cam]

Blood made some great points. There's nothing wrong with being friends but you may need to put yourself in "James" boyfriends shoes and wonder how he would feel if he new about this. This could be you if you chose to pursue a relationship with him. Again, there's nothing wrong with being friends but make sure you're respecting that he does have a boyfriend. He's obviously unsure what he wants and maybe space will be best to give him the time he needs to see what he wants and it may be you. If he had such "great" intentions he wouldn't be wanting to cheat on his boyfriend and hurting him. Sorry to be rude but take this slow and understand that feeling may get broken if not mature.

[Trackstar29]

Dont get a person who is cheating on his bf atm, because hes gonna do the same thing to you