Brother asked me a ? And don't know what to tell him

[Rdsxbaseballfan]

Well my 12 year old brother came to me and asked me about puberty. He's at that age and he told me that he might be curious and wanted to try with other boys. What should I tell him? He's too embarrased to talk to our parents or a docter. Tonight he is having a sleepover and I hope he doesn't do anything stupid. How should I go about handling it? Our parents sleep down stairs and my room is right next to h so I woul be able to hear what they say

[Guitarman]

Well I think seeing as your next door to him you should listen in and if something doesn't sound right run to his rescue :)

[nick]

Tell him about safety, tell him its OK to be curious and doesnt make you gay, tell him what the legal situation is, tell him he can ask again if he needs any more advice, then just give him some privacy.

[chrisB463]

Well alot of teens are curious and experiment, and i suppose this is okay to a certain extent. Just do what nick said :)

[YourFriend]

Talk with him about all the stuff he wants to know, and do not listen to what he or his friends say or do! That would be breaking his privacy, and that is not nice.

[Darkened-Inferno]

I agree.

Just explain to him that it's perfectly normal to be curious and that doesn't make you gay. Let him know that he's at the age where everything begins to change and there's nothing wrong with letting a parent or doctor know what's going on. It's most likely that they see it coming anyways because we all go through it. It was smart of him to come to you before diving into something he wasn't sure about. If he's curious, then that's fine. Just remind him that he isn't gay for it and also, it's okay to want to experiment with friends and other boys, it's just when they say no, he has to accept that don't want to experiment either.

If he needs anymore advice, let him know that he can come to you and trust you, but he can also trust his parents and/or a doctor. But for now, just let him have his privacy; that's what probably is best. This faze in puberty is completely normal and I do hope that your brother comes to understand this soon!

[ray8806]

I agree.

Just explain to him that it's perfectly normal to be curious and that doesn't make you gay. Let him know that he's at the age where everything begins to change and there's nothing wrong with letting a parent or doctor know what's going on. It's most likely that they see it coming anyways because we all go through it. It was smart of him to come to you before diving into something he wasn't sure about. If he's curious, then that's fine. Just remind him that he isn't gay for it and also, it's okay to want to experiment with friends and other boys, it's just when they say no, he has to accept that don't want to experiment either.

If he needs anymore advice, let him know that he can come to you and trust you, but he can also trust his parents and/or a doctor. But for now, just let him have his privacy; that's what probably is best. This faze in puberty is completely normal and I do hope that your brother comes to understand this soon!


I agree with him. He pretty much summed up everything I was going to say for this question. XD

[Jockstrap]

Just as long as it is nothing he regrets.

[phill1]

yes i agree tell him what he want to know and its ok to be curious do not listen to what he or his friends say or do! That would be breaking his privacy, and that is not nice. and dont go in the room he is in with out asking him if its ok for you to enter as he will need his privet time like we all do

[swimmwe guy]

its ok to be curious when you are young i was 16 before i accepted that i was gay

[Mr. Awesome]

Just remember, he trusts you enough to confide on in you, as said before you should let him discover who he is, answer the questions he asks honestly.

There is a reason he came to you and to your parents or doctor, because he trusts you, please do not break that

[CuriousDestruction]

well, personally i don't think you should give him advice about how to experiment but definitely tell him how to be safe if he does want to. It's totally okay for teens to experiment, it's really normal. but sometimes things get... messy. just let him know you're there for him if he wants to talk about and learn about safety while doing this.

[TravM]

Be there for him. If he says he is gay, accept it. You can't and never will change that if you're offended by it. If he has questions, give him answers. That would be the best thing. :)

[Peace God]

Well I think seeing as your next door to him you should listen in and if something doesn't sound right run to his rescue :)
no...respect your brother's privacy
remember that he trusts you enough to talk to you about this in the first place

[randomlyonhere]

just tell him what he needs to know

[greg95]

Well my 12 year old brother came to me and asked me about puberty. He's at that age and he told me that he might be curious and wanted to try with other boys. What should I tell him? He's too embarrased to talk to our parents or a docter. Tonight he is having a sleepover and I hope he doesn't do anything stupid. How should I go about handling it? Our parents sleep down stairs and my room is right next to h so I woul be able to hear what they say

tell him what he can expect from puberty, whats gonna happen, and tell him about your experiences ;)

[BlackBetty]

Give him the advice/information he wants... And be sure to explain to him the importance of condoms.

[Trackstar29]

Let him do what he wants,but if inform him and let him know. Give him info like being curious doesnt make u bi, and everybody is curious

[TheTrueKing]

tlk to him and tell him to not do anything he wil regret later and to take things slow he might not be gay just curious like almost every other teen

[ahmann7]

I would just be understanding and tell him how it is!

[cokeboy]

dude i would just talk to him tell him what he wants/needs to know
ur his brother and its best if u talk to him then just let him find out
on his own.if he likes boys then let him know u support him

[Djlogout]

give him the info. and then let him try.
As a person you must let your brother find his own sexuality

[datbaseballboy24]

Lol yeahh! tell himmm what he should do!

[chilldude]

check on him every 10 or 15 min. or so, and answer all of his question you can....if he is asking these things, he obviously looks up to you, so you should help.

[JJSSHH]

just be open to him, your his brother

[Kaius]

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