Advice On Coming Out

[CantBeTamed]

well for a long time now ive been out to most of my friends and i want to come out to everyone else but im not sure how to go about doing it because my dads family is very homophobic i asked my dad when i was 12 hypothetically what he would say if i were gay he said if i ever turned out to be gay he would get me into therapy and any of the anti gay things he can get me in he even said that he would have me put in a mental hospital he thinks its a disease that you can cure hes strict bible and religion i mean he nearly had a heart attack when i cam home wearing skinny jeans and clothes from hot topic and his family is the same way they hate gays and hate that i have gay friends so im afraid that if i come out what might happen to me and my moms family would get over it for the most part and deal with it i just dont know what to do im just so sick of living a lie and living a double life you know i dont know how to get through to my dads family that its not a disease or anything like that hell im afraid it would cause my gma to have a heart attack if i told her i just hate this so much i dont know how to tell him i wish i could just be like the guy in the show united states of tara and just go up to my dad and just say im gay and my dad just be all chill saying somthing like cool i mean my dad freaked when he saw me wearing eyeliner omg so if anyone can give me any advice i would appreciate it thankx

[Krazymitch]

i think you should come out to your mum first,,,thats what i did,,,and let it rest for a while, and then talk to her and ask her about it. see if she can be with you when and if you decide to tell your dad. and if she will be on your side.

[Forbidden Lover]

Wait until the right time. If you don't think it's time, don't come out. There is no rush to do it.

[CantBeTamed]

to add a lil bit to my thread i might wanna add that my parents dont speak and my mom has a big mouth lol but i mite try telling her first when i see her she lives 4 hrs away but im going to wait and see what others say too thankx for the help so far and i know its the right time im tired of driving myself insane about it

[beedubs]

maybe wait alittle longer to tell your dad. soon you can make your own decisions and live on your own. what ever people tell you its not a disease. if hes not happy with it, you have to be happy for yourself and proud of who you are :D my parents dont really accept me but they are getting over it. but honestly i dont care what they think because this is my life. live your life how you want

[DrkZ90]

definitely, don't tell your dad just yet, wait for you to be able to be completely independent from him given the way you said he is...

[peaceloverugby]

I agree 100% with the above post, wait until you don't rely on your dad for anything, then tell him