Love Shyness

[NsaneNside]

Has anybody heard of this and does it sound like you. My dad brought this up and said oh <name> this sounds like you. It is not an official disorder, but it is like some side effect of autism, which I was told I have by multiple psychologist/psychiatrists. Here is the link to wiki page http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love-shyness Hope I am allowed to post links.

Its funny because I didn't even realize I had conversed with so few girls...maybe like 3 irl during my high school career (I am senior now).

I just feel like I going to end up alone and its quite depressing. In fact typing this now is making cry. I was also diagnosed with clinical depression at young age.

Its sad because I have been playing off my shyness or not even realizing its a problem (read the whole wiki to see why).

Long story short I guess I am going to end up cold and alone, with fake friends and no one who cares, but just wanted people to see what they thought of this or if there are others like me out there.

I am new to the whole forum thing so I am sorry if I screwed up and posted somewhere I am not suppose to because I believe that this deals with dating, sorry.

[Forbidden Lover]

No, you shouldn't feel that way at all. Just because you have autism, doesn't mean you won't be able to have a relationship with someone.

[steve1234]

I often feel like this, that I will end up alone.

I have never been in a relationship, and I would like to say I have. But, when I think about it, I think being in a relationship would scare me, and I wouldn't know what to do etc.

After reading that Wiki page, I can't believe how much of it is true for me. Its scary!

All of those six points for the "love shy man criteria" fit me!

I was bullied as a child. I grew up in a dysfunctional family, with no sisters, and just living with my mum. I listen to the type of music the page describes.
I do have girls in my friend group, but I find it difficult to talk to them, and find them incredibly hard to understand. All of my friends have either had a relationship with a girl, and if they havent, they have at least kissed/held hands/flirted etc etc.
Well I fit basically everything on the page I dont need to describe it further :/

Maybe I shouldn't have read that page, it has just made me depressed. I really dont need to be worrying about this when I have exams in a week!

[NsaneNside]

Yeah I have never had a girlfriend. I hope to one day.

Thanks for the inspiration forbidden lover.

Hey Steve do you also fixate on a certain girl? Its like that for me I can name all the way back to preschool the girls I liked. It was only one at time and they were all of high natural beauty.
I guess you could say they were crushes, but I never really fully understood that term because that is all love has been to me.

Btw Steve don't sweat it my dad has also been telling me about how people with problems overcome them or at least make the best out of the situation.

[steve1234]

Yeah I have never had a girlfriend. I hope to one day.

Thanks for the inspiration forbidden lover.

Hey Steve do you also fixate on a certain girl? Its like that for me I can name all the way back to preschool the girls I liked. It was only one at time and they were all of high natural beauty.
I guess you could say they were crushes, but I never really fully understood that term because that is all love has been to me.

Btw Steve don't sweat it my dad has also been telling me about how people with problems overcome them or at least make the best out of the situation.

Yes, I usually do fixate on a certain girl. Theres one I really like at the moment. And I can certainly name the girls I liked in the past, and yes they were of high natural beauty. :D
I will say, I don't have this love-shyness thing too seriously. I do fit many of those things on the Wiki page, but I could be much worse.
and cheers for the advice! :)

[Jess]

I know how you feel, I always think I will never find the right boy

[Trackstar29]

Youllg be fine, dont worry

[Hollywood]

Don't worry about finding the "right one" yet, for god's sake you haven't even been alive for two decades. You will find someone eventually, many people don't find the perfect one until their 30s or even later.

You're way too young to be worrying about being alone, don't let it bother you.

[Viral Death]

There is my major problem. No wonder why I cant keep a girlfriend!

[MattHolyman41]

Gilmartin's definition totally describes me.