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Never_Forget
May 8th, 2010, 09:21 PM
Okay, so. 2 of my best friends, a girl and a guy, let's call the girl X and the guy Y. So X and Y. So like, I like Y, I like him a lot. But he likes X, who likes him back. So before we even get started here I'm jealous. So yeah, Y asked out X the other day and despite my selfish hopes, she said yes. I know I should be happy for them, they're both really happy at the minute, but there's this selfiish, jealous little part of me that keeps hoping they'll break up. I feel like crap because of that. I mean, Y isn't even gay, I'd never have a chance with him and yet inside I'm still being a selfish jerk, and hating myself for it. It's not just because I like him either. A month or so ago another of my best friends was dating a guy. I didn't particularly like him, but yet I still kept hoping they'd break up, because I was jealous of what they had. To be perfectly honest, I'm ashamed of myself. If someone wanted me to break up with someone because they were jealous, I'd think of them as a jerk. I'm a selfish, jealous, hypocritical jerk. I can't be happy for my friends because they have something I want. I keep interrupting their conversations, without even thinking about it. There's the part of me that is happy for them and wishes them the best, and then there's the disgusting half of me that I hate.
Rant over.

nick
May 9th, 2010, 02:04 AM
Its pretty normal to feel a bit jealous sometimes, and at least you have the guts to be honest with yourself about it, so really I dont think that makes you in any way a bad person. What is important is that you should try not to let your jealous feelings influence your actions and the way that you are treating your friends. Dont let them see how you are feeling because they would probably resent it and it could turn them against you.

DayBreakArt
May 9th, 2010, 08:40 AM
Feeling jealous is okay but like Nick said, don't let it influence your actions. If you do you could lose both friends. It will be hard for you to get through this but if they're happy and they're your best friends, you should be happy too. Remember they still love you. (: