Skittle in a world of M&M, has it happend to you?

[OhMightyLion]

I don't know if it only happens to me but, I sometimes feel replaced...


My parents are divorced and my dad got remarried and had two kids with my stepmom. When my sister and me go visit him in the summer, (since he lives out of the country) I kinda feel weird going to his house; seeing all the pictures of him and his new family, with the ocassional ones with me and my sister & when we go out to a friend's of theirs party/house,etc. And they greet my dad/his new family all well and stuff and when they greet me and my sister it's all different; makes one feel like a skittle in a world of m&m's =\ I sometimes wonder if he had those other two kids to replace me and my sister, just so he can have a perfect family. The house he lives in is getting small for all of us; it has 4 rooms and we are now 6 people. I keep telling him to buy a new house (since my room is basically his office, and his desk takes up a whole wall..half of the room! my sister would have to share her room with my 4 year old half-sister which will be a pain for my sister.)

When my dad talks to some of his friends and they ask if he is happy that me and my sister are visiting him he sometimes says "Yeah, I can get them to do stuff..". I feel like a slave, maid, whatever you wanna call it when he tells me to wash his car or cut the grass, etc. while he is at work and doens't have to do it. Or even when he gets home from work and feels all lazy and makes us clean or wash the dishes. I thought the whole point of going to see him in summer was to spend time with him!!! Ugh, I hope you guys understand what I'm trying to say...can anyone tell me if you've been through this or something!!

[DayBreakArt]

I understand exactly how you feel. It's horrible feeling like you're only there to do his chores. If you feel this way, awkward and such, do you still want to go? Just remember you have the option of saying no. You can talk to your dad about how you feel but I know it takes courage to do that. I wish I could be of more help and I hope eventually you'll feel more comfortable there.

[INFERNO]

This has happened a few times for me but I never saw anything wrong with it. He's at work, you're at home with nothing to do so rather than have you do nothing at all, he gives you something to do. Granted it's not the most exciting of things to do but if he asks you to mow his lawn and wash dishes, that's hardly making you a maid or slave. When I had to do that when I went to my uncle's place, it was never a thrilling experience mowing the lawn but if I have to do a few boring things every now and then given I temporarily live under his roof, fine by me. He spends x amount of extra money on me for clothes and other stuff, so it's a more than reasonable way to compensate.

[OhMightyLion]

That's the thing, he doesn't even spend money on me! He is, well..let me give examples; 1) he cheated on my mom, 2) he deny's he did it, 3) he lies alot, 4) he doesn't really spend money on me (not saying all i care about is material stuff), 5) when he was gonna get re married he told me 3 days before the wedding, etc.

Once, when i was little I got dental floss and those mini candies you get at an office, for christmas.

And even when he is home he still makes me do stuff (when I've been cleaning the house the whole day) he just sits around the computer and play around. But whatever, I guess your right...I cna't really complain if he asks me to mow the lawn or whatever

[Zackk]

I wouldn't go visit him. Its the same between my mom and I, and i won't speak to her, even though she lives like a minute away, literally. she's a bitch. Just to me though.
She has a boyfriend who has a daughter, and i have a brother and a sister, my sister is older and my brother is younger.
But anyways, my mom decided to take my brother my sister, and her boyfriends daughter to sea world and told me i couldn't go. Like wtf.
then once she told me my dad was dead.
she cheated on my dad.
stole millions of dollars from my dad, no joke.
Made him buy her a new infiniti qx56 a week before they got a divorce.
and she hasnt called to tell me happy birthday in over 3 years.