Trying to be positive, but not working

[steve1234]

I get depressed quite easily, I dont know if thats just because I'm a teenager or if thats just me.
Anyway, almost all my life, I have had my glass half empty (in other words, I just make everything negative). Also, I am paranoid about what everyone thinks of me, and I get embarrased and nervous very easily.
I also think i'm ugly, as I've never had a girlfriend, and girls have never flirted with me (I'm not a loner, I have a large group of friends, but for some reason girls have never liked me). I feel like one of those people everyone feels sorry for. For example, if one of my friends takes the piss of me (in a friendly, joking way), many girls say to them 'awwww dont be mean', which I find incredibly patronising, and its like the girls feel sorry for me.

Recently I have been trying very hard to get rid of the negative thoughts and just be positive. I keep thinking to myself that it doesnt matter what others think, and other positive thoughts. I am trying harder to be more sociable, especially with girls. I am trying not to moan so much. I try to get more sleep so im not so stressed. Im getting loads of advice from different people.
Anyway, I have been trying all these things for about 9 months now, and it hasn't improved my outlook on life at all. In fact, I seem to be much worse.

Any advice? Anyone been in a similar situation?

Thanks :)

[RockstarRocks]

yes i feel basikly the same way i have been sad sense i was 8 and i am now 16 it sucks iv had it for so long i learnt to just deal with it so u can talk to me if u want about it i understand and i do hope u feel better i hate when someone is depressed like me i dont want anyone to go threw this and u will find a girlfriend one day. i think im ugly to but this year boys came up to me and asked me out but it was also a new school. i always have stress in my life i just cope with it but im always sad i hate it but i gess its something i had to get use to just no who u r tell urself u r great there is no one like u there is only one of u them people that dont like u just r not worth getting upset over trust me took me a wile to get use to yea imalways sad about it but i just tell myself the people that dont like me r not worth it and it does help u deal with it better if it doesent its ok there is always other stuff to try ill tell u my life story

my dad died but my mom and dad were divorced he had a new girlfriend she lets put it this way she was crazy. my dad died thinkin i hated him because i stopped seeing him and people at school was mean to me i got called an outcast a dike and im not a dike i got called ugly people r always mean to me even my brother and sister was my sister is nice now but my brother makes fun of my depression i get patanoid to alot to be honest im paranoid wrighting this they could get mad at me for saying this stuff or someone could find out its me.

[SimSailorNick]

Wow, we're almost feeling the exact same thing like 80%. I just find the stuff that i'm happy doing and keep on doing that. Like i love listening to music so i listen to it all the time and i even research on new artists, different genres and stuff. I also like fashion so i try to check out different combos with my clothes, what's the latest trend, etc.

Just find out what makes you happy then keep on doing that and it'll lead you to more things that makes you happy and i hope that'll help you forget about the bad stuff.

[steve1234]

Thanks very much RockstarRocks and WAM nick, some great advice.
Helpful to hear from people in a similar situation.

[RockstarRocks]

i no cause u try to tell people that dont have it and u just feel like they dont understand it and when ur talkin to someone that does its good to hear not that i want anyone sad i dont

[steve1234]

i no cause u try to tell people that dont have it and u just feel like they dont understand it and when ur talkin to someone that does its good to hear not that i want anyone sad i dont

I agree with what your saying. I even talk to my parents but they just think its nothing serious. They mean well, but they just dont understand. Same goes for my friends.

[Hyper]

Maybe you have been trying half empty or maybe you don't know what to try for or what you entirely want..

If you just want a girl.... (which by alone should fix most peoples confidence problems and so on..) you need to be confident, when your confident you don't care what other people think and when you don't care paranoia like ''ohh what are they talking about me, it must be bad!'' disappears as well.

Confidence confidence.. It comes slowly if you have something to do you like, a hobby, a job - something of that nature.. And when you think well of yourself.

Thinking just good thoughts doesn't work, but if your doing something right in a hobby, job, art, music etc and think well of yourself you are far far more likely to believe it and take it as truth.

[1_21Guns]

I've been pretty much in the same situation all my life too, literally switch the girlfriend and girl words to the male versions, and you have me.
Theres not much to be said, your trying your best? and that's all you can do.
you can PM me if you wish to talk sometime, but yeah.

[mdawg27]

I feel you guys completely sometimes you gota find the best way to ease out of your depression it doesnt happen over night but you have to really want to do it.