what the hell am i supposed to do?

[1_21Guns]

basically it's to do with my grandad again,
I made a previous thread
http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=71296
which contained what he was behaving like around me and other children.
I thought maybe it was in my head or something.
but I avoided him more and more.
that was when he commented on my best friend losing weight.
he sees her in a baggy school uniform, nobody else has noticed it, he just came out with it at random to my mum and my grandma.
she's not even that big to begin with. and hardly noticable.
but he noticed.
me and my friend were talking about him in general today, she said she believed it all but couldnt help but wonder if some of it was in my head, i agreed then snapped and told her what he'd said about her.
suddenly it all became real, it wasn't in my head at all anymore. because it wasn't right.
you just don't say things like that.
but i don't know what to do
do i risk my family, my grandma's happiness all for my own selfish needs, or do i stop it once and for all?
i know if i told my mum and she said anything to my gran it would kill her.
but i don't want him looking at my best friend like that. it's just sick.
catch 22 situation, so what do i do? :(

[nick]

It sounds a horrible situation. What can sometimes happen if you raise something like this within a family is that your family will not want to believe and might turn it against you somehow. That's pretty screwed up, dont think for one moment I'm trying to suggest you have done anything to deserve that, just warning that it is how things can go. So its a big step to take.

It sounds to me as if maybe, well OK more than maybe, he likes looking at kids. The big question is does it stop there. If all he's doing is looking, even though its sick and innappropriate, maybe its not doing any real harm. If on the other hand you think he might act on any of his fantasies that's a whole different ball game and that's when you have to act to protect other people.

[1_21Guns]

It sounds a horrible situation. What can sometimes happen if you raise something like this within a family is that your family will not want to believe and might turn it against you somehow. That's pretty screwed up, dont think for one moment I'm trying to suggest you have done anything to deserve that, just warning that it is how things can go. So its a big step to take.

It sounds to me as if maybe, well OK more than maybe, he likes looking at kids. The big question is does it stop there. If all he's doing is looking, even though its sick and innappropriate, maybe its not doing any real harm. If on the other hand you think he might act on any of his fantasies that's a whole different ball game and that's when you have to act to protect other people.

they probably would all turrn against me, i dont have a particularily strong relationship with them all... i just don't know what to do. i don't know if this is where it ends. what if he's just waiting till i'm 16 and he goes to attack me or something. i just don't know.

[nick]

I suspect that if he was going to try any serious molestation he would have done it while you were younger, not wait until you're older. I would say just keep away as much as is possible but I guess you already do that.

[1_21Guns]

I suspect that if he was going to try any serious molestation he would have done it while you were younger, not wait until you're older. I would say just keep away as much as is possible but I guess you already do that.

maybe he did. i honestly don't know. i cant remember alot of my childhood, and i've always wondered why. i just really don't know.

[SafeAuto]

You can either end this or let it bother for the rest of your life.

Your choice.

[1_21Guns]

i really don't know :/