someone tell me?

[LoveMe_HateMe]

i have the urge to cut real bad but im not in the mood to have to deal with any questions from anyone. does anyone know 0a way of SH without it leaving any marks or at least nothing noticable?

(no its probably stupid but meh.)

[Kaius]

We're not allowed to give techniques on how to self harm, but there are alternatives to substitute it. One would be sliding an elastic band onto one or both of your wrists and flicking it against your skin to substitute the feeling of self harm and is usually used by people trying to keep self harming at bay.

[nick]

Squeezing on ice cubes is another alternative. Just dont let yourself give in, you wont be able to conceal the marks and once you start it will be hard to stop. Whatever problems you have will still be there, the self harm will just give you one extra problem. If you need someone to talk to, or just to vent and rant, let me know.

[LoveMe_HateMe]

already tried the elastic band thing and it doens't really help :/

already have the 'extra problem' gone 11 days so far without actualy cutting, but the need to do, to feel it, is so strong :(

[delta]

but the need to do, to feel it, is so strong :(Then you need to realize that you are even stronger!

[LoveMe_HateMe]

Then you need to realize that you are even stronger!

meh, i'm not :( :cry:

[starbrite5]

You are stronger. After all, you've already made it 11 days! That's awesome. :D
One thing that helps me resist the urges occasionally is chewing gum and popping bubbles. I guess it's weird, but it gives me something to focus on, you know?

[LoveMe_HateMe]

You are stronger. After all, you've already made it 11 days! That's awesome. :D
One thing that helps me resist the urges occasionally is chewing gum and popping bubbles. I guess it's weird, but it gives me something to focus on, you know?

11 days isnt exactly that long, the only reason i've not been doing it is so i dont see the same look on my boyf's face when he found out, and i dont want to dissapoint him.. that's my greatest fear... dissapointing the ones i love...

but i know what you mean but i dont think that'll help me much :|

[1_21Guns]

Hun, bottom line, its worth nothing.
Everyones given you the solution to your problem.
11 days is a flipping long time.
It's not worth it. It's never worth it.
What do you get from it, really? Another scar, another memory?
It's not worth it hun, never will be.
Believe in your own strength because theres more of it than you think.
Stay strong, and don't give in.
You don't make it any further than 11 days, without making it to 11 days.

[LoveMe_HateMe]

Hun, bottom line, its worth nothing.
Everyones given you the solution to your problem.
11 days is a flipping long time.
It's not worth it. It's never worth it.
What do you get from it, really? Another scar, another memory?
It's not worth it hun, never will be.
Believe in your own strength because theres more of it than you think.
Stay strong, and don't give in.
You don't make it any further than 11 days, without making it to 11 days.

I know all that but I'm starting to get to the point where I just don't care anymore. At the moment there is only one person I care about. What's one more scar... I already hate my body anyway so what is another scar really? I never have been able to believe in myself, so I don't think I'll be abe to start now :| Even when I do manage to distract myself, it never works for long and even then it's stilll there, playing in the back of my head..getting stronger, louder...

[1_21Guns]

I know all that but I'm starting to get to the point where I just don't care anymore. At the moment there is only one person I care about. What's one more scar... I already hate my body anyway so what is another scar really? I never have been able to believe in myself, so I don't think I'll be abe to start now :| Even when I do manage to distract myself, it never works for long and even then it's stilll there, playing in the back of my head..getting stronger, louder...

there, you have one person you care about. one person you couldnt stand hurting. one person you love. that one person is enough.
you'll never stop hating your body if you continue to destroy it.
what's one more scar? probably another 10.
what another 10? probably another 20. and so on.
it's a never ending cycle hun, until you stop it yourself.
if you want to stop bad enough, you will do.
so what if it's still there, ignore it. it's just there to hurt you, not help you.
your better than that, stronger than that. and you don't need it.

[LoveMe_HateMe]

there, you have one person you care about. one person you couldnt stand hurting. one person you love. that one person is enough.
you'll never stop hating your body if you continue to destroy it.
what's one more scar? probably another 10.
what another 10? probably another 20. and so on.
it's a never ending cycle hun, until you stop it yourself.
if you want to stop bad enough, you will do.
so what if it's still there, ignore it. it's just there to hurt you, not help you.
your better than that, stronger than that. and you don't need it.

I'll still hate my body even if I do stop destroying it. I started hating it years ago, before I started SH. I know its a never ending cyle... a vicsious cyle, but that's the thing, i'm not 100% sure that I want to stop. The amount of times I've been in the kitchen, especally this past week, i;ve thought what if I "accidently" slip while cutting the veg or w.e. Its kinda scareing me I just keep thinking of ways to hurt myself. But i feel with cutting it lets me feel something other than the emptiness/anger/sadness even if it is only for a whie. That's another thing that scares me is that I feel like I do need it :|

[1_21Guns]

I'll still hate my body even if I do stop destroying it. I started hating it years ago, before I started SH. I know its a never ending cyle... a vicsious cyle, but that's the thing, i'm not 100% sure that I want to stop. The amount of times I've been in the kitchen, especally this past week, i;ve thought what if I "accidently" slip while cutting the veg or w.e. Its kinda scareing me I just keep thinking of ways to hurt myself. But i feel with cutting it lets me feel something other than the emptiness/anger/sadness even if it is only for a whie. That's another thing that scares me is that I feel like I do need it :|

learn to love it then, however cutting isn't going to help that problem, it'll leave you even worse off.
i'm always doing that, if it scares you that much, use it to your advantage. don't do it. you can't help but feel the need to do it, after all, it is an addiction. but you can feel other things without destroying yourself. without hurting others. you just need to find better ways to feel them.

[-Silence]

I used to squeeze ice cubes like Nick suggested. It actually hurts.