is it weird for a guy to be submissive to his girlfriend

[Delusion15]

I have been dating my girlfriend for two years now :wub: and everyone I know tells me that I am submissive to her. This seems weird to me because usually i like to be in charge.

I like being in positions of power but when i am with her i kinda like it when she tells me what to do. Its not like she orders me around but it seems like she makes all the decisions and to be honest i am fine with that mostly. It seems strange because usually I thought that IF one of the people was dominant it was usually the man.

What about you guys is this strange or have you been in similar situations

[LoveMe_HateMe]

To be honest, I don't think its strange, in the end its what your happiest with... Its not really anyone else's business :) but my boyfriends mate is over 6 foot and his girlfriend is half his size and she's the one who "wears the trousers" as they say. So there's nothing wrong with it :)

Hope this helps :P

[pixie1234]

dw about it, although my bf dont like to admit it i wear the trousers :L quite often the girls do like to take the weight a little 'cos if we dont we feel its gunna go nowhere.

dw you are not the only couple like this. xx

[Trackstar29]

I guess thats okay, but just dont be to in charge and comanding.

[Hollywood]

There is nothing wrong with being submissive. That being said, I don't believe that relationships should be lopsided "power-wise." You should both have equal say and neither of you should boss the other around. However, if you are happy with that, then it's completely fine.

[Tankinx91]

There is nothing wrong with being submissive. That being said, I don't believe that relationships should be lopsided "power-wise." You should both have equal say and neither of you should boss the other around. However, if you are happy with that, then it's completely fine.

Unfortunately that's never the way things work out. haha.

[Art_dude]

You're fine. It's completely normal for a couple to identify with certain positions of power in different areas of your relationship. For example, with my ex, she was someone who took the initiative to make decisions, drive, choose the movie etc. Meanwhile, I was someone who fit the role of keeping the bigger picture together, getting work done, and choosing the takeout :P That doesn't mean that if I objected to something she would 'dominate' me. It simply meant that because of her outgoing personality, she dealt with certain aspects of the relationship better than I did, and vice versa.

When it starts to get to the point where you feel your submissive to her every whim, THEN you should be concerned, but gathering from what you said, it sounds like a normal healthy relationship to me :)

[AlwaysConfused]

ive been in a similar situation but it was to the point where it was like she wanted me to get down o my knees like im her slave or sumtin. it didnt end well.

[PatrickZii]

Allowing her to make decisions isn't necessarily "submissive" and I see no problem with it.

[HillBillyWilly]

I like to have girls tell me to do something sometimes, but not in a bossy way, and i do get my say too.

As in:

would you pleease go get me the pencil i dropped? (implying it would make them very happy if I MYSELF did it)