Tired of being the nice guy

[tan6er]

Anyone else out there who gets tired of being nice? I think being nice is what all girls secretly want deep deep deep deep down inside. It seams like every girl I know goes out with the bad guy and wind up getting screwed over only to date them again for a few more weeks, get screwed over again, and well the process goes on and on. Is it that hard for girls to figure out to not judge a book by it's cover? (Not all girls, of course) I know looks are always nice but why do they pick the same hot ones over and over because of their "Amazing hair and athletic abilities" (Once again, not all of them) It gets kinda old being made fun of because I could never get a hot girl. Now keep in mind there are 9 girls and 8 guys in my entire grade so there is a little bit of a limited selection if you know what I mean. I've dated nice girls in the past because well they are nice and don't judge on looks either. The phrase "Nice guys finish last" is really becoming a reality. Being nice to people just isn't getting me anywhere. Sure being good looking is always good but why can't people see through that? Anyway, before I rant too much, I just wanted to share my thoughts and see what everyone else thinks about it.

Thanks

[MELL-AHH-KNEE]

well i prefer the guys who dont love their hairmore than anything, some who arent too skinny but arent too fatt, i dont care what they look like, if they are nice to me and show me that they like me for me then they have won me over. so dont stop doing what you do cause if you change for someone else you will never be the same again.
x

[LoveMe_HateMe]

i like nice guys and looks arent everything, like what my boyfriend says "beauty captures attention, personality captures the heart"

don't change to please anyone else, if the girls rather get screwed over then its their loss not yours :)

[Kaius]

I know how you mean. All the girl's I've dated except my current girlfriend have all either cheated on me or left me for someone else. And that someone else has always screwed them over, yet the ex always gives me a hard time for them being "Better" than me. I also hate the generalisations that just because one guy is an asshole must mean that we are too. Though I've had my fair share of bad girlfriends I know I've now met one that's made me see why my past relationships never worked out, it led me to her. Though, although i say that, not all girls are like that and it's often the minority not the majority that are in fact like that. It's easier to understand when you look at it from both sides quite a lot of the time.

[nick]

First off let me say welcome to VT. You might like to consider posting an introduction here (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=38) so that more people can welcome you properly.

Dont try to change what you are, just have faith in the fact that eventually some girl will have the sense to see the goodness in you and to value that very highly. As Aaron has suggested, the girls that just pick the hot guys tend to drop them fairly often too, you cant build a relationship on looks.

[steve1234]

I consider myself one of the 'nice guys', and I am tired of it. I have had a bad experience with girls, a couple of girls dont like me because i'm embarrasing and ugly...well, thats what they said, and these were some of my closest friends, well not any more.
And I hate overhearing some girls saying things like 'yeh his nice but his really ugly'. I know a lot of groups of boys say things like 'that girl is ugly', but the males in my friend group would never judge someone by their looks (well, say it out loud anyway), but the girls in my friend group seem to judge people by their lookds

Anyway, I get fed up with all the 'bad guys' getting all the girls, and me being the 'nice guy' never getting any! . I think most people experience that when they are a teenager. BUT, There are many relationships in my school where it is not all about looks. One guy, who is very popular to say the least, has only gone out with 'less attractive' girls, and he has said it himself...he said he prefers personality over looks, so i have a lot of respect for him.

Although many of us nice guys complain about the shallow girls, It is very similar the other way around. If i'm honest, I only really find the 'hot girls' attractive (I hate saying it). I must say that if i REALLY like a girl, it is because of their looks, but mostly because of their personality.

I think you'll find as you get out of teenage years, people become less shallow. There is someone for everyone.

[pixie1234]

to me it doesnt matter what you look like but who you are. for me someone who cares, is romantic, truely loves me for me ect is great. if they got looks then thats just a bonus! :) xx

[Mike321]

Yeahh same here mate, i've always been the nice guy, and try to be nice to everyone but it seems to have got me no where.
I'm 18 and have never had a girlfriend in my life, i'm just considered a good friend and if i'm honest i'm really shy too so i've never had the guts to tell them.
So i do agree the nice guys do seem to finish last

[Carfreakjack]

Im like u. The nice guy. Most girls will get out of high school and think bad saying "I dated that guy?" but we still get skewed over. But I started going out with one of the hottest girls in the grade. I, the nice guy finally wins lol. It will eventaly work out. Just get through it and it will all work out eventally

[Trackstar29]

Yea i know wutchu mean, it gets annoying sometimes and im tired of it too.

[scuba steve]

Anyone else out there who gets tired of being nice? I think being nice is what all girls secretly want deep deep deep deep down inside. It seams like every girl I know goes out with the bad guy and wind up getting screwed over only to date them again for a few more weeks, get screwed over again, and well the process goes on and on. Is it that hard for girls to figure out to not judge a book by it's cover? (Not all girls, of course) I know looks are always nice but why do they pick the same hot ones over and over because of their "Amazing hair and athletic abilities" (Once again, not all of them) It gets kinda old being made fun of because I could never get a hot girl. Now keep in mind there are 9 girls and 8 guys in my entire grade so there is a little bit of a limited selection if you know what I mean. I've dated nice girls in the past because well they are nice and don't judge on looks either. The phrase "Nice guys finish last" is really becoming a reality. Being nice to people just isn't getting me anywhere. Sure being good looking is always good but why can't people see through that? Anyway, before I rant too much, I just wanted to share my thoughts and see what everyone else thinks about it.

Thanks

nice guys coming last is a reality for me mate and i can't believe that it's come to me after so long, it really does suck that the majority of girls don't realise this until they're like 30 odd:(

[Hollywood]

At this day and age, it is pretty common for the "Nice guys to finish last." However, never change who you are just so you can get in a relationship that will probably end fast anyways. A lot of girls at this age like the tough, "hardcore" guys.

Just stay the way you are, the older you get, the more people around you will appreciate and recognize your niceness.

[Nihilus]

Yea, that annoys me too.

[dmeek7]

omg, i know exactly how you feel.

[UnknownError]

The phrase "Nice guys finish last" is really becoming a reality.

You got that right! :P

[Magus]

I will remain 'nice'. I don't really care about the girls who really end up pregnant from an Idiot(not you GYM boy) - happened a lot; I feel sorry for them, though.

The thing is, I am going to stay like this (with no Gf or bf and stuff) until I become an adult, get a Job, and try to find myself a spouse who is mature enough to try to marry an Intellect and not Face and Body. Whatever the case may be; I need to get my self into shape, and make my friends' brothers go gay for me >=]

[janthem]

yea...im sick n tired of being the nice guy tht the girls like but wouldnt date

[Kahn]

You find the right girl for you. Do not change who you are simply to get a "hot" girl because in the end it will... well it will end. Find the girl that is right for you, that fits your personality. Being a "bad boy" is retarded. You need to treat girls, or women, with respect. It's what they deserve and they should treat you with the same amount of respect. That is how you know you will have a lasting relationship. It's not because you're a "bad boy", it's because you respect your partner and they respect you. I have been cheated on, left behind for no reason, and laughed at for my trust in my partners. I could care less. The only thing that bothers me is that my trust for that person was broken.

Do not change just to get someone good looking. Not all "good" looking girls go for the bad boys. You just need to wait and find the right one for you.

[zoom zoom]

i like nice guys and looks arent everything, like what my boyfriend says "beauty captures attention, personality captures the heart"

don't change to please anyone else, if the girls rather get screwed over then its their loss not yours :)

I like that saying ^.^. But i got to admit its kinda gets you no where when your the nice guy. if you get to nice to the girls around you. you will never be able to ask them out because you will see them as goodfriends or they will see it as that too.