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Iron Man
May 3rd, 2010, 10:38 PM
I have had my sight set on this girl for a while and sometimes I don't think she notices me. Occasionally, she will say hi to me and I think I catch her looking at me in class, not positively sure if she is looking at me. But when I talk to her she always smiles and she isn't one of those fake people that are common. She is like an absolute brain and I am like a pretty smart individual, so that is something in common. I am not that popular in my school (I don't do sports or anything like that, and I am slightly pudgy compared to her fit body) But I am rambling on. How do I get her to notice me, or should I make a move to find out if she likes me?

AllThatIsLeft
May 3rd, 2010, 11:21 PM
Before you do anything towards getting her to notice you as a boy. You should try to get her to notice you as a person.

Engage on a conversation that is both light and insightful to what you are like, without seeming like you're full of it. Usually a little mystery is good, keeps people guessing and humans are curious by nature.

Casual small talk should get you started on that, do not try to make a move just yet. See how she acts and reacts around you compared to other people..

Popularity has nothing to do with this, just be yourself, and see where that gets you. If she likes you she'll drop hints, try to make physical contact somehow. a common one is the touch to the arm. See her positioning when she talks to you, is she slightly turned away, or is she fully tuned to you.

Does she fidget a bit? like lick her lips, touch her hair?
Notice the little things and connect the dots. You should be able to read her signals more clearly.

Iron Man
May 3rd, 2010, 11:25 PM
Would that really work? Because I don't want to come off as a creeper.

AllThatIsLeft
May 3rd, 2010, 11:34 PM
Don't stare! lol just when you talk to her, pay attention to everything she does. I'm not telling you to stalk her, or stare like you're a maniac. Be subtle, don't over do it.

Iron Man
May 3rd, 2010, 11:41 PM
I am just afraid of over doing it. And I know that rejection will only pave way for improvement.

AllThatIsLeft
May 3rd, 2010, 11:52 PM
That's why you try "friendship" before "dating"

Over a certain a amount of time you should pick this up no problem. Stop thinking her as a girl you like, and more liek a person you'd like to get to know.
Do not hint at anything until you have a little confidence, and then do it slowly.