i cheated..

[Strength]

me and my gf have been arguing heaps and stuff not really getting along so i tried my best to sort stuff out but then she said she wanted time apart and i assumed she just meant screw you, im braking up with you. so i was hell upset then i cheated on her (hooked up with my female friend) no1 else knows about it so its ok. but then later that night my gf tells me to come over and says shes sorry for pushing me away and stuff then we had sex and made up but i feel really guilty now and im worried someone will findout and tell her.

what do i do?

[Atonement]

Personally, I would get some gonads and tell her. She won't be happy, but explain it. Say you fucked up, and admit your flaws. You want her to hear it from you rather than some gossip down the line.

[Strength]

Personally, I would get some gonads and tell her. She won't be happy, but explain it. Say you fucked up, and admit your flaws. You want her to hear it from you rather than some gossip down the line.

i would tell her but i know shed dump me and i dont wanna lose her. and then she might cheat on me out of anger ( i know im a hypocrite but i dont wanna deal with that)

[Atonement]

All relationships have lies, but this will tear you apart. You seem like a good guy, try to be honest. Tell her you were confused and didn't understand and acting irrationally. Try to reason with her and if it doesn't work, it wasn't mean to be.

[Strength]

All relationships have lies, but this will tear you apart. You seem like a good guy, try to be honest. Tell her you were confused and didn't understand and acting irrationally. Try to reason with her and if it doesn't work, it wasn't mean to be.

i guess ill come around eventually and tell her i just need to think it through. this only happend last night so not enuff time for me to get my head on straight. :(

[AllThatIsLeft]

Before you do anything mull it over, it is essentially up to you to decide what you will do. Sadly you have broke a very delicate connection, and you have to face the consequences at some point.

Depending on the relationship you have with your girlfriend, this might just end badly, or she might forgive you. But considering today's expectations, that is very unlikely.

If you can't deal with the secret maybe it's better to tell her, get that out of your chest, and face the fact that you might lose her.
If you love her, and don't want to lose her... Don't say anything, but if that backfires, it will too end badly.

Truth is, this is a ticking bomb, you can delay the explosion, but when it does blow... Trust and the relationship as you know it, it won't be the same.

[Strength]

Before you do anything mull it over, it is essentially up to you to decide what you will do. Sadly you have broke a very delicate connection, and you have to face the consequences at some point.

Depending on the relationship you have with your girlfriend, this might just end badly, or she might forgive you. But considering today's expectations, that is very unlikely.

If you can't deal with the secret maybe it's better to tell her, get that out of your chest, and face the fact that you might lose her.
If you love her, and don't want to lose her... Don't say anything, but if that backfires, it will too end badly.

Truth is, this is a ticking bomb, you can delay the explosion, but when it does blow... Trust and the relationship as you know it, it won't be the same.

I really dont want to lose her. ive made a very big mistake. she did push me to this but no excuses.

only me and my friend know and i dont think she'll say anything. i cant bare losing her so ill keep it with myself and suck it up and deal with the guilt. i probly deserve it :(

[AllThatIsLeft]

Shit happens. I have a higher tolerance over this matter. To me, it's almost unimportant. But I know that when this does come out, which it will I assure you. It will not end pretty.

DOn't torture yoruself over it, what is done is done there is nothing you can do about it.

[Strength]

thanks for the advice guys..i just feel really bad. seeing her made me feel bad :(

i feel sooooo guilty. how do i stop this feeling >< im never the type to feel bad or guilty about things but this is really tearing me up :(

[LoveMe_HateMe]

I think you should tell her as soon as possible, rather than it being 1 weeks 2 weeks 1 month etc. it'll just et worse as time goes on. Telling her is the only was to stop the guilt. Just tell her everything you've said here, that you've fucked up and don't want to lose her.

Good luck, hope everything works out for you :)

[Paladino]

Being cheated on is the most horrible feeling, trust me, so if she finds out you should really take into consideration how bad she would feel, and as for her cheating on you out of anger if I were you and you think that was going to happen prepare for it because from my experience it kills you inside.

[Atonement]

Showing her that you feel terrible about it will make it seems like you learned your "lesson". It will show that you have hopefully changed and will think more in the future.

[Archer600]

Just tell her...I've fucked up on muchsmaller things and it just comes back to bite u in the ass if she can forgive u then that's good if not then learn to live with it...besides there reallly isn't love in teen relationships not like ur gonna marry her

[Iron Man]

You should calmly explain that you thought it was over and that you had to rebound, not knowing that you were on an extremely short hiatus. She might not like it and you might even break up, but it would be good to break up from being honest instead of gossip. We are all human after all.

[Strength]

just thought id update you guys.

i got it out of her eventually (i always had my suspicions) she has cheated on me and it was before i cheated on her (just fyi) and then i was angry and told her "two can play at that game" and told her what i did but we're still together and idk shes really sad and guilty for what she did but i dont feel bad anymore cus she did it to me :(

[Trackstar29]

The best thing to do is be honest with her, dont lie and keep it in because it will only make your relationship worse. And if she does find out from another person it wont be a pretty sight

[Hollywood]

just thought id update you guys.

i got it out of her eventually (i always had my suspicions) she has cheated on me and it was before i cheated on her (just fyi) and then i was angry and told her "two can play at that game" and told her what i did but we're still together and idk shes really sad and guilty for what she did but i dont feel bad anymore cus she did it to me :(

On a count of that, I don't think you two should still be together. Both of you were unfaithful to one another, just because both of you did it doesn't make it right or "even." But, that being said, if you two can get past that and continue on with a relationship, that's great. Good luck to you, and I hope it works out.

[DayBreakArt]

If you both cheated then obviously something is missing in this relationship. I think that you could get past this but if she cheated it means that something is not there... Good luck with it if you decide to go on.

[Viral Death]

If you want a healthy relationship you need to be truthful. If it involves breaking up then maybe it will help you two.

[tjjaidaa]

Tell her. One of my friends had the same problem and he told his girl and she was a little aggravated but she understood and now there better then they were a cppl months ago. Trust is the main thing to a successful relationship and you dont want that to build up because then the lies might keep on adding on.

[Truth]

She will find out. If someone else tells her, and not you, she will hate you. HATE. Just tell her, bro - and get it over with, you can't just forget you cheated and say you love her without telling her, because if you love her you'll tell her.