I want to help

[markayy]

Hey :) Im new here, but i've been visiting this forum quite alot over the past couple of weeks
Anyway, i have an amazing girlfriend, she means the world to me, but i found out today that she had cut recently
I knew she used to do it, but i thought she had moved on.... Apparently not
She showed me her wrist today, and it wasn't too pretty.
She told me that after she did it, she immediatley regretted it, which is fair enough
But i told her that i was worried about her, and that i loved her and would hate if something bad happened to her. I then asked if she would throw away the razors, and this is where i began to worry
She told me that she didn't want to get rid of the razors. She tells me that she hates doing it, and she's only done it once in the past 12 months, but she still wants to keep the razors
I begged her ( not literally ) to get rid of them, and she told me the only way she would get rid of them is if i did it for her. ie, coming to her house, and physically taking them away from her.
At first i thought, well, i wont be at her house for another week or so, what if something happens and she decides to cut again. But she proceeded to tell me that she has her razors with her 24/7
And that was the last time we spoke, i told her that i needed to go and take some time to think

So guys and girls, what should i do to help?
Thanks :)
Mark
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[MadManWithaBox]

Well the most crucial thing is not to push her too hard. If you try to tell her what t do, she'll resent you for it. Just be there for her, be there when she needs another human being, when she need someone talk to, and someone to comfort her. Thats the best you can do.

[LoveMe_HateMe]

Like the guys above me said. Just be there for her when she needs you and don't push her to get rid of the razors. Just keep an eye on her. Talk to her as to why she does it, like how she's feeling for her to have the urge to do it. Then you can easily see by her mood if she needs/wants to do it and then you can distract her.

Hope this helps and makes some sort of sense.. Good luck :)

[Mike321]

As the other have said, the worst thing you can do is put pressure on her, just let her know that you will be there for her and support her.
That was she knows she can talk to you about it if she wants to

[Amyxoxo]

Well what you have to do is stick by her.
When I told my boyfriend he broke up with me, he said that I needed time to get better but there were two things that he didn't understand.
1. I wasn't ill!
2. I didn't want to stop therefore I wasn't going to.

If she wants you to take the razors, TAKE THE DAMN RAZORS!
Just stick by here, you are all she wants at the moment. If she loses you ... well.
Amy x

[Mattasaur94]

It can also depend on why she does it.
But, as the three above have said, don't push her away. Don't judge her. If someone insults her for it, obliterate them. If you love her, then you two can get through this.
It's not as simple as just throwing out the razors. It's easy to buy more. =/
Talk to her. Let her come to you when she has a problem.
If she has a problem and she can't talk about it, just hold her tightly and say nothing.
Don't keep her waiting too long.
You can usually tell when she might have urges, distract her, find something else you can do with her thats constructive, or something that she can do to remind her of you that will distract her.

(: Good luck!!
I hope she can over come it.
But it does come down to if it's just addiction, urges, emotional or recreational...

[markayy]

It can also depend on why she does it.
But, as the three above have said, don't push her away. Don't judge her. If someone insults her for it, obliterate them. If you love her, then you two can get through this.
It's not as simple as just throwing out the razors. It's easy to buy more. =/
Talk to her. Let her come to you when she has a problem.
If she has a problem and she can't talk about it, just hold her tightly and say nothing.
Don't keep her waiting too long.
You can usually tell when she might have urges, distract her, find something else you can do with her thats constructive, or something that she can do to remind her of you that will distract her.

(: Good luck!!
I hope she can over come it.
But it does come down to if it's just addiction, urges, emotional or recreational...

Thank you
I'll do what you said
Btw, i wasn't really forcing her, she was the one that offered to get rid of the razors :)
It means alot that people are actually taking interest in our situation :)

[Mattasaur94]

Thank you
I'll do what you said
Btw, i wasn't really forcing her, she was the one that offered to get rid of the razors :)
It means alot that people are actually taking interest in our situation :)

(:
Yea, I think it's great that your standing by her.
It's always scary, when your not sure if you boyfriend/girlfirend should know about scars and cuts... Everyone responds differently and some people don't give you the time to explain why they are there, and more importantly, why more keep appearing.

Also, just make sure you don't put yourself through too much.
Alot of this has been specifically about her, make sure you know where and when you've had enough, everyone has thier limit, don't push yourself too far past it, otherwise you might give up on it. And that's not what I think she wants to happen...

And welcome to VT, someone will always listen to what you have to say. (: