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ktmay96
May 2nd, 2010, 10:18 AM
Just to let you know, before you start, this is partially a rant and this is gonna be LONGGGG. You've been warned . :].

I am sooo DONE with my "best friend" (she calls herself that more than i do; its more a label to me than a true description of what she is). She is sooo annoying, and embarrassing! It's like she doesn't know how to act in public. I am starting to really hate her, and I don't know what to do.

Here's the full story: So, last year, I was new and had problems with self confidence etc. at the beginning of the year, so I didn't have many friends. Eventually I got over it, and became who I am. Yada yada. I changed over the summer, and when I came back, I was ready to be me. So, when this girl, we'll call her S, was not exactly popular, but close (we seem to have legitimate class statuses in our school; UPPER CLASS- this one group of slutty snotty girls (there are 1 or 2 who aren't) and most of the boys. MIDDLE CLASS-the people like S who are not popular, but accepted and occasionally talked to, LOWER CLASS- those who are mainly ignored, and PEASANTS (haha not rlly but i couldn't think of anything else)- those who are not accepted and sorta made fun of) and in a lot of my classes and started talking to me, I was thrilled. I felt like I belonged. But, S's novelty wore off FAST. Eventually, I realized she’s, just, someone I don’t like. She became one of those people who annoy you with everything they do or say. First, she’s irritating. She’s always touching me, trying to tickle me, all that. Now mind you I am a girl and I am straight, so this kinda gets awkward when someone does that excessively like she does, and even B my true best friend (not like S who just CALLS herself that), said it looked lesbian. Now, I am NOT lesbian and I didn’t want people to think I was. So I told her to stop, and even B told her it looked lesbian, and what do you know? SHE DOESN’T LISTEN. Also, she’s really annoying, and just had bad social skills. Like she could easily talk with people, but she sounds just so annoying and immature. Very immature and, dumb, i guess. I can’t find the words to describe her. But the problem is, she became so attached to me that, even now, when I try my hardest to distance myself from her, she doesn't pick up even the most obvious clues!! And she will NOT leave me alone. She HAS to walk with me to every class we have together NO MATTER WHAT. And, it is not allowed in S's rule book to stop and talk to people, nor is it allowed to walk with other people to class, apparently (oh I am sorry S! I didnt know I couldnt have OTHER FRIENDS! Please, forgive me.). She is really controlling.

And, what I like the least, she is a BITCH. She is just mean and annoying. Not gossipy mean, but just irritating mean. She’s a bitch to everyone, but especially to me (funny you’d think she doesn’t like me, yet she doesn’t LEAVE ME ALONE). Like just a simple example, during Science, she was too lazy to get up and get the packet for herself, so instead she takes our friend J's. J is like "S give it back! Please?!" Mostly kidding. Mostly cuz she didn't want to set S off, cuz like I said, S is a bitch. S is like "No, no, no...". Finally, laughing, because it seemed to be all a joke to J (though I don't think so much for S), J gets up and gets another paper. So when S gets up and gets the next packet, I ask her to get me one, and she doesn't. So I take hers, totally kidding. But instead of joking like J, she gets all pissy and says in the serious tone you use with friends when you want to them to know you're really not kidding right then, "Give it back, I'm not kidding. Go get your own freaking packet!" So I give hers back (being the peace keeper of course, as I always must be cuz I dont like fighting and I'm to chicken to speak my mind) and get up to get a packet. Oh, so when YOU'RE feeling lazy S, YOU can be a bitch and take other peoples stuff that they gott for THEMSELVES, and they just suck it up and say nothing, when your NOT KIDDING because you don’t plan on GIVING IT BACK cuz u feel like being a BITCH, but when other people try to do the EXACT same thing you did, probably even more KIDDING than you were, YOU have the right to be a complete BITCH and get all pissed? Ok, I'm sorry, I forgot how much better you were than us. So-rry. MY FLIPPIN MISTAKE! Geez, she annoys me.

I really wish I could just be done with her. I would if I could. But my family is taking a vacation in June and my parents thought it would just be a FANTASTIC idea to invite her along. With out asking me. Great. So, I’m stuck with her for 10 days in June on a Caribbean island after school gets out. So, unless I want to make things awkward, keeping the peace and just holding my feelings in is about all I can do.

I don’t know what to do. Make myself happy and tell her the truth, then just have 10 awkward days in the Caribbean with her? Hold it in until after, then I never have to see her again (we’re going to different highschools next year)? It’s a lose lose situation, and I’m torn.

Kaius
May 2nd, 2010, 10:20 AM
Relationships & Dating :arrow2: Friends and Family

LoveMe_HateMe
May 2nd, 2010, 10:55 AM
She does sound like a totall bitch. Can't you talk to your parents about taking her along with you? If you explain how you feel about her, maybe they'll understand? Couldn't you take another freind with you instead? You say she can't take a hint that you don't want to be around her... why don't you tell her? I know you said you don't like speaking your mind (i don't either) but maybe you should tell her. Tell her over MSN, or text or something...?

Also you shouldn't keep from doing something just to please other people.

That's all i can think of saying at the moment... Hope this helps and if it doesn't, sorry >_< but good luck with it all :)

ktmay96
May 5th, 2010, 10:18 PM
I wish. The vacations already planned, and her plane tickets paid for. So... I would really prefer not to screw her parents over by having them waste money, or just have an awkward situation. I was thinking about telling her that she's just become really mean and everything, but I realized the problem is that we have a really "tight knit" group of friends, sort of. Like she and two of my other friends used to be like best friends, but she kinda dumped them for me (which I think is REALLY annoying and horrible) and they're still friends but they, like me, get annoyed with her REALLY easily. Most of my friends are like that, and she's universally not well like, but me and her 'fighting" would mean she would not be wanted with our group of friends since most people would be okay with her gone, but some of my friends are more attached and would make things really awkward... Ugh.

Yea I know I really should stop doing that. I am such a people pleaser its horrible. :) haha. I'm apparently TOO nice. I don't want to fight or upset anyone. Its so frustrating to me when I won't let myself speak my mind!

It sorta helped. Thank you though, I really needed some input here.