Does he wanna kiss me?

[NeedyTeen]

hi everyone,
so ive been dating this guy for about a month now and he still hasn't kissed me. people have been telling him to kiss me and of course he says its none of their business. id say that too. anyways, the thing is. why wont he kiss me? i feel like he treats me like a friend more than a girlfriend. we were talking about how everyone talks about gf/bf's kissing and he said nonsense. i know hes kissed his ex before! (not now i mean when they dated). which is why i think he doesnt like me because why'd he kiss her and not me? im his gf now just like she was his gf then.
he has openly said (to me and others) that we are dating so it cant be that ive mistaken out relationship. im just confused. i want to have my first kiss already but it doesnt seem like its gonna happen any time soon. :/
any ideas?

[ILOVEYOU]

well my advice would be let it be you the one who approaches for the kiss, sometimes boys feel shy to make the first move, if i were you i would ask him "do you wanna kiss me?".. or something like that in the right time. i hope it works :)

[Art_dude]

I'm sorry hun. One of my old friends had a similar situation. He was a great guy, they had been dating for some time, but it took him a MONTH for him to make a move. Did it ever occur to you he might not be sure YOU like him? Us guys are strange that way - we're shy, and we don't like rejection so we wait until we're absolutely sure the girl likes us and wait for the perfect moment to come but too often we wait too long and nothing ever happens.

Make your feelings known for him and he'll be sure to gain more confidence. If it comes up in your conversation, say something like, "yea, I've been wondering myself when I'm gonna get that kiss..." this way, he'll know that you WANT it, so now it's a matter of him getting the courage to do it. If all else fails, take the initiative like ILOVEYOU suggested. I personally love it when a girl makes those kinds of efforts. It's really sexy! Good luck!

[NeedyTeen]

the other day he asked if i trusted him and i said yes. i saw his face light up. he obviously knows im crazy about him. but sometimes i have my doubts if hes crazy about him..or even just likes me.
ill try and bring kissing into our conversations.

see where that leads me.

[Mattasaur94]

Or you could kiss him?
As Tom (ILOVEYOU) said;
It doesn't have to be his move first, he might just be nervous about kissing you, or he might feel that he doesn't want it to be just from all the pressure of everyone telling him to do it.
Try kissing him yourself, there's nothing better than having a girl who's willing to take initiative and throw the first kiss.
It doesn't have to be passionate, but a kiss on the cheek goodbye or hello, a kiss on the lips when you break from a hug, etc.
Just small things which will slowly increase his confidence. (:

[josh93]

well mabey you shold ask him if he wants to kiss you and mabey he will say yes.

[OnTheFritz]

Well me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 weeks and we havnt kissed yet but I just think hes is shy.Maybe thats the case for you too.He may just now know how you will react.Maybe if you let him know you want to be kissed like subtly let him know it will happen and if its ment to happen it will dont worry to much :)

[NeedyTeen]

i rly dont care if he kisses me or not. the thing is now people put in my head that he doesnt like me cause he hasnt kissed me and hes just using me to get his ex back. now i think thats true.
i cant get it out of my head, howcome he kissed someone. i dont know who he kissed exactly. someone told me they knew who, but i told them i didnt wanna know. it was torture enough thinking he didnt wanna kiss me.

so basically he has kissed someone, i havent. he has experience....i dont. he knows he if the first i've ever been with and that im shy and stuff so he should know i wont make the first move.

i just wish he'd treat me like a gf rather than a friend. sometimes i feel he has me just to tell people he's taken. should i break up with him?

[LoveMe_HateMe]

there could be plently of reasons why he's not kissed you yet. Maybe he doesn't want it to seem like your moving too fast and he's just trying to slow things down abit.. Or as other people has suggested, maybe he's just shy. Or he could even be waiting for the "right moment" and its just come up yet. Take control, if he doesn't do it first you do it :P even if its just a quick kiss on the cheek or the lips it'lll show him you want it.

You said his face lit up when you said you trusted him, I don't think he wouldof had a reaction like that if he didnt like you.

But I don't think you should break up with him. If all else fails, talk to him, open up to him,. tell him how you feel about your relationship, him, and the whole kissing scenario.

Good luck :)

PM me if you want to talk about this (or anything else) more :)

[Dog Desab]

just make the move on him.... im that type of guy too and like my relationships to move slowly but usually i get dumped if a girl doesnt want to take awhile to get to know each other...

[MELL-AHH-KNEE]

well, instead of waiting for him to make the firest move, be the better person and kiss him first, if he doesnt want to he will pull away, and then you will be able to tell if he does or not. i have had this situation occir many a times and each time it gets harder. but dw you'll pull through.

[NeedyTeen]

I don't think id ever be able to make the first move. it's just not me.
its not that i dont wanna wait, it's that why did he kiss his ex's and not me?

also, today i openly talked to him about kissing and i told him ive never kissed a boy and i dont know what im doing rly. he didnt answer he just kept saying nonsense as in this whole situation is nonsense. kind of, its hard to explain rly. but it was obivous from his face and actions that he does not want to kiss me. I even asked him to honestly tell me if hes just playing me and he said no hes changed over the year and that he'll never do such a thing.

ughh i just want him to kiss me...or at least hug me! i find it weird that he kissed his ex and not me! and even if i wanted to make the first move, from what he;s been saying it doesn't seem like he'd want that either.

[Art_dude]

that's very strange... If he said he's 'changed over the year,' and that, 'he'd never do such a thing', you have to ask him why he's with you in the first place... Does he even want to be in a relationship with you? It's totally unfair that he's sending mixed messages, and leading you on up till now. A relationship is about being friends, AND having a romantic, physical relationship kissing, showing affection, sex (etc, etc, etc, depending on what stage you're at in the relationship.) If he can't give you that, which he's explicitly said, than don't waste your time sweety. You deserve better.

[Archer600]

Ur overthinking it just do it it's a kiss...it's not like ur having sex or anything

[LoveMe_HateMe]

i agree with art_dude

(and sorry not repllied to your pm but its decided to not let me send one til my 100th post o.O?! but it let me send them before :S. sorry D: :( )

[NeedyTeen]

No problem PRoach. :)


I am not over thinking it, I know it's only a kiss but why has he kissed someone else and not me. I want him to kiss me, I want to kiss him...if he doesn't wanna kiss me then why should I do it?

It is very strange! and annoying, even if he doesn't kiss me, I jsut want to know if the action is set in his mind. and he even told me a "funny" story of how he got caught kissing a girl.
1: you don't tell your current girlfriend that.
2: you don't tell your current girlfriend whom you've never KISSED that!

How is that supposed to make me feel?? I felt crapy the rest of the day.
I do like him a lot, he's nice, sweet, kind...but my friendship meter is higher than my boyfriend meter with him. >.>

[pixie1234]

hmmm, take action. if you dont ask you wont get. you need to ask him cos otherwise he wont ask you! im afraid you gotta wear the trousers (he wont like it but he will get over it :L) xx

[NeedyTeen]

just when i think we're only friends today he tells me he loves me. dont u just hate when ur mad at them but then they smile and you get butterflies in your stomach again!! lol.

well, from what i heard, he does wanna kiss me he's jsut nervous. that made me happy...like i said, it's not about the actual kissing its about the thought of it. ive also heard hes getting closer to opening up more.

i think my problem is solved...well, until he kisses me at least. but today was pretty good. (: illkeep u posted.