Age: how much does it matter to you?

[Dan_UK]

As the title says, how much should age affect

a) a relationship
b) possibilities of starting relationships

and what about the guy being the younger one in the relationship

[Kaius]

To be quite honest age in a relationship is unimportant. But it depends on the people in it. People say e.g 13 is too young to be with a 16 year old, but depending on what kind of personality and maturity they both have it could really alter the way the relationship is looked at and undergone. My girlfriend and i have 3 years age difference, shes 14 im 17 and we're perfectly fine because we're both mature enough to understand the circumstances and the situation we've committed ourselves to be in. It can be exactly the same for vice versa, the younger person being the male.

[cole]

i've never dated anyone but i wudn't wana date someone thats alot older or younger than i am...just wud have different interests and personalities, it wud be weird....

[Aspiringanonymous]

Personally, I don't see biological age being of any importance. Age is only important to the extent that oftentimes, individuals with significant age gaps often have significant differences in pursuits, values, and circumstances that will prevent a relationship from becoming truly strong and successful. Most of the time that is the case, but it is not always.

I dated a 21 year old when I was fourteen. Truth is, the entire time, I felt that if anything, I was the older one in the relationship - I was in high school, he was in adult high school; neither of us had a clue in hell what was going to become of ourselves, were both very mentally unstable, and still lived off our parents (though I was working, he never did). I certainly was very hurt by the assumption by society here that the biological age difference made us automatically a pedophiliac association, and what's also worth mentioning is, none of my other Asian friends - teens and adults - displayed the same reaction. We treated each other with complete respect and equality from the beginning to the end. I broke up with him because I figured that I had better things to do with my time than to fake 'lovey-doveyness', simple as that.

I'm not trying to start an argument against established social values, only to illustrate that there are always exceptions.

[Jess]

Age does not matter but I would not want to date a person a lot older or younger than me

[Hollywood]

It does not matter if the man is younger, or vice versa. That has absolutly nothing to do with chemistry and love. Some people think the man should be older because the man always has the upper-hand, but that is as untrue as the Sun being made of ice.

There's nothing wrong with being the man and being younger. Absolutly nothing, so don't worry yourself over it, if that's a problem of yours.

[solosarah]

I would ate someone much older then me, but doubtfully younger.

[Kitty Purry]

I wouldn't wanna date someone that is that much older/younger than me. The youngest I would date is 13, the oldest 17. :-P

[ModellePrincesse]

age shouldnt effect anything. love is love age doesnt matter. im 17 and my ex is 25.... i still loved him....

[nick]

It doesnt matter that much to me, a couple of years either way is fine.

[-Silence]

For me, I don't like guys younger than me. I am very mature and most younger guys aern't so it never matches out right.

Also for me, age is just a number. I'm not going to let it decide how I feel about someone, and once your out of high school age doesn't really play that much of a role.

[neversaynever]

doesnt bother me

[LoveMe_HateMe]

i dont think it matters really, it depends more on the people themselves, my boyfriend is 19 and im 16 and i swear i'm the one who is the more mature one xD

but age doesnt and shouldnt matter, as long as the couple are happy, thats all that matters ^_^

[OnTheFritz]

Well me and my boyfriend are exactly 10 days apart so I really have no room to talk in this section haha

[DrkZ90]

I've never dated anyone, but the guy I adore is 4 years younger than me, if that helps...

So, obviously I think it shouldn't matter, but the bigger the age difference, the more it depends on the personality of the people involved...

[cassann08]

i think that in high school age is everything to everyone not in the relationship. i had a friend in yr 11 going out with my friend (then in yr 9) and everyone thought that it was too big of an age gap. but once you leave/finish school, age doesn't matter. if you really love the person then it shouldn't make a difference ^_^

[Harley Quinn]

Age for me doesn't really matter when in a relationship, or when starting one, sure I wouldn't like to be dating a 80 year old when I'm 14-15 that to me isn't right. But then again, I wouldn't even consider dating an 80 year old. Age to me at the moment isn't really an issue, my boyfriends 17. I mean, don't really like/date people younger then my by like, 3-4 years, just because that's wrong and not to mention, illegal. Older...eh, sure I don't mind :) "Love knows no age, no gender, no race" that quote comes in handy :P

[Delusion15]

I just use the age rule. it has never failed me

your age/2+7

example 20/2 10 + 7= 17

so an twenty year old can date a seventeen year old without it being creepy


Thank you xkcd

[MaliciousBunface]

^ so an 80 year old person can date a 47 year old person?? without it being creepy? Somehow, I don't think so :P but I'm guessing that applies to younger ages, but still, there are no "rules" you just date who you love. As Siobhan said, "Love knows no age, no gender, no race"...simple as that.

Personally, I prefer older guys 2-4 years older :)

[Scarface]

^ you got it bud :D There is no 'CREEPY' thing as long as the feelings are mutual and you are both mature enough. Love has no boundaries.

[Aceso]

Well, Considering Im only 13 I wouldnt want to date anyone younget than 12...but i could go maybe 5 years older, depending on the level of maturity of the person. I dont think age matters too much, its just frownd upon to like someone a few years older. :what:

[Norton]

kinda both because you never want to be in a relationship where legallity could be an issue.

[Trackstar29]

They say age is only a number, and its kinda true. If you love/like somebody thats how you feel and a number cant break that apart.

[scuba steve]

since during your teens just a few years can be a huge differance so if it's just someone you met and your not completly certain something good could happen me and my mates use the five finger count... your age is the middle finger and you count hers/his age with your other fingers and thumb, so basically if she's within two years of you up or down then your sweet

[dmeek7]

my opinion= age matters ALOT till you turn like..15, and you date someone else in the teens. then older. but if you are like 14 and you date a 16 year old, lots of people will make a big deal about it. in my town anyways

[AllieBama]

My min/max would be 3 years either way....idk, it's more about personality and connection than age, but at the same time, common interests will differ more (most likely) the larger the age gap is.

[SimSailorNick]

a,b) I prefer the same year but a year or two younger or older is fine too. 5 years is too much.

[Severus Snape]

Society is too focused on age differences because it is easier to codify that in lawbooks than it is to individually identify each person as able to date someone older/younger than them. Both physical and emotional maturity need to be weighted. I'm seen some very articulate, intelligent 14 year olds and some immature 18 year olds that act more like they are 13.

I would have no problem dating someone younger if they are mature and physically look a bit older than they actually are. To me most 13-15 year olds look like kids, not someone who looks dateable.

[Delta_301]

Meh... I wouldn't say so too much. I'm a 16 year old boy, There are some 17 year old girls i like and there are some 12 - 13 year old girls i like... people might call me strange for that and hey, I might even get banned from this forum. But to get my point across, no. It doesn't matter that much from my point of view. :)

[Jess]

I would date a boy older than me but no more than 3 years older

[Hatsune Miku]

Im dating a girl whose 16, and I'm 14
Like everyone says, age is just a number, its just how long you've been alive. If two people love each other then they can by all means date.

[ShatteredWings]

i don't go by the 'age is just a number' thing, and I'll use it if i want to get someone off my case who i'm just not interested, but it's not the biggest deal TBH
[that's how i get seniors off my ass when they're trying to ask me out and won't give up..i point out that i'm not even 16 yet]

2 years doesn't bother me, usually (12 and 14 does, because the 12 y/o generally hasn't matured enough.

The 4-5yr age gap in teen dating really bothers me though. That's just too much


Personally I'd have a lot of trouble dating someone younger than me, part from always being the youngest anyway(july bday) and maturity, but older 2-3 years is my limit. I'm not dating someone who's 20 at 15.

[The Joker]

At the moment, I'd probably date by grade. I'm in grade 8 right now, youngest I would date would be grade 7 (12-13). I wouldn't date older than grade 10 (15-16).

[janthem]

i think its funny how tht while we're young, age somewhat matters but as ppl get older they forget bout age difference

[ryker]

I am 13 but I do not date people who are 12.

[The Dark Lord]

Age as a teenager is more important than in adulthood, like it would be weird going out with a 12year old at 17 but going out with a 35year when 40 seems more acceptable

[janthem]

^^exactly my point!!!

[ILOVEYOU]

a) doesnt really matters to me, if i Love the person, i wouldnt care about her age. i guess..
b) obviously i would pick the one who is at my age, or is a few years younger, but the time may come that i like someone who is older than me. .. then it'll be the hard time for me, because i'll never be quite sure to make the move or not.. as i dont know what they would think of me.

[DoveGreySands]

As we're all in our teens things are different to what they will be in our early twenties. I mean to me, atm i think a 2-3 year gap is too much (especially if they're younger). But in the future that is nothing

[Hatsune Miku]

i don't go by the 'age is just a number' thing, and I'll use it if i want to get someone off my case who i'm just not interested, but it's not the biggest deal TBH
[that's how i get seniors off my ass when they're trying to ask me out and won't give up..i point out that i'm not even 16 yet]

2 years doesn't bother me, usually (12 and 14 does, because the 12 y/o generally hasn't matured enough.

The 4-5yr age gap in teen dating really bothers me though. That's just too much


Personally I'd have a lot of trouble dating someone younger than me, part from always being the youngest anyway(july bday) and maturity, but older 2-3 years is my limit. I'm not dating someone who's 20 at 15.

I agree. It mostly about maturity. A 5 year difference, in teens, would bother me, but in adults age is less strict.

[Origami]

Legality is the only circumstance in terms of age; however, as teenagers, a five year age gap would be frowned upon and highly unadvised. The case usually stands that older people would try to "take advantage" of a younger companion, and with such a large gap in age, the circumstances become even more agitated. I'm currently in a three year gap relationship, I myself being seventeen dating a fourteen year old girl. Even with that lesser gap, the paranoia of her parents obviously remains steadfast. It creates a lot of tension on the relationship because she's with an older guy and obviously they're afraid to let her be with a hormonal teenage boy because, well, we all know how the stereotypes go. Age really doesn't mean much outside of the face of law; however, I agree with all of the above statements in the fact that maturity will play role as the primary factor. It is, undoubted, that the younger will have to be more mature for their age, and the older would have to be mature enough to handle a relationship with a younger person as to respect them in the manner which is the norm. I'm not sure if this will be any bit helpful, but oh well.

[aekid]

I think it would be weird to date someone who is a lot older or a lot younger then you. If its 1 or 2 year age difference that would be okay though

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