confused.........

[dbrkk]

so i'm really confused here... 3 years ago i was attracted to girls. but then i ended up getting a full blown eating disorder, and screwing up my body. at my worst, i had no attraction to either sex. and now that im recovered (or at least close), i find myself sorta attracted to guys too. i mean im still attracted to girls...but not NEARLY like before. so does this make me gay/bi? im confused :what:

[Iron Man]

You might be bi, you might be curious. The answer lies within what you truly think.

[Andredavid]

It maybe that your bi

[dbrkk]

You might be bi, you might be curious. The answer lies within what you truly think.
yeah i don't really know at this point. i mean, the thought of doing something with another guy is well...umm..unappealing to me to say the least. im positive this has anything to do with my ED.. cuz i'd to compare myself like crazy to other guys. compare waist size, arm size, leg size, etc to the point where i would almost obsess over looking at other guys. if that makes sense. lol

[Tenkotsu]

I do that too, I started comparing myself in 7th grade with other more atletic guys, since I'm kind of thin and very lazy, I don't have the best body exactly =P. I'm wondering if that makes me attracted to guys, because thinking about dating a girl makes me feel like not worth it maybe, or something, I feel that I need to improve myself first =/

The worst part is that now I'm physically attracted to some of my classmates but their bodies are very different one is a little chubby, another one is thin like me (and small and cute :wub:) , another one is atletic and another one has what my body would look like if I did exercise =/, it's very confusing. I think it is also because they're nice people that I want to meet and be friends with, so that may be the case with you?

[BUENA]

I think your bi...but the only way to find out is go out with someone who you LIKE.

[dbrkk]

I do that too, I started comparing myself in 7th grade with other more atletic guys, since I'm kind of thin and very lazy, I don't have the best body exactly =P. I'm wondering if that makes me attracted to guys, because thinking about dating a girl makes me feel like not worth it maybe, or something, I feel that I need to improve myself first =/

The worst part is that now I'm physically attracted to some of my classmates but their bodies are very different one is a little chubby, another one is thin like me (and small and cute :wub:) , another one is atletic and another one has what my body would look like if I did exercise =/, it's very confusing. I think it is also because they're nice people that I want to meet and be friends with, so that may be the case with you?
Yeah, I think I only "like" the guys because I wish I looked like them. Like I really don't want to go out with a guy...IDK I just don't want to. But there is a girl right now I REEEEEEALLLLLLY like :wub: But I've never felt that way about a guy.....soo.. yeah. I guess I'm just under the category 'confused' lol

[nick]

Derek, you sound more curious than bi to me. Recognising that people of your own sex are good looking is not at all the same thing as sexual attraction, and sneaking a look at other guys bodies for comparison is also nothing to do with sexual attraction. Keep an open mind for the time being and see how things go, but nothing you have said suggests to me that you are bi.

[CuriousDestruction]

well i'm glad you are over your eating disorder, that musta sucked. as for being gay or bi, i'd say you are bi curious. i always say this but; sexuality is complicated and ever-changing, especially in teens. If you think you might like guys, try going out with one or something along those lines and seeing how things go. If you don't wanna try such a direct approach, try to visualize yourself in a relationship with a guy and see if it's a nice picture. i know that sounds silly but i can really work if you take it seriously. whatever you do, don't worry about labeling yourself. just go where your attraction to others takes you.