I may be psycho, but my dad's the one who needs treatment.

[YouKnowWho]

I don't where to put this. But maybe someone can help me understand. Because I'm lost.

He makes me feel like a stupid, fat, lazy, over dramatic whore.

Every time I get the courage to talk about a problem, silly me, I forget he thinks I'm a complete drama queen. I guess rape and molestation isn't serious.

But what do you call living with a man who tells you constantly you need to lose weight, or your clothes embarrass him, or YOU embarrass him for being yourself, or someone who invalidates your feelings and makes you feel like a stupid whore? :(

He mocks me, and controls my life. Literally, I can go into detail, but it would be too long.

I hate being called weak (for being a girl), slow, under-achieving (I'm almost an honor student), tummy-gaining girl with no future other than asking people if they want fries with that.

I hate going home.

[BeautifulDisaster]

Can you move out?

[YouKnowWho]

Not to my knowledge...
I wouldn't know how to anyway.

[Charleigh]

over in england we have council estates or young peoples homes. not mental homes (not pretty!) but homes where there is the warden or some shit and you look after yourself and if you need help call up th warden. you could stay somewhere until you do find a place. i wish i can help :( pm if you ever want to talk :)

[YouKnowWho]

That would be nice. :) But I still don't know what to do. I'll wait until I'm 18, I guess.

He makes my mom feel like crap too. And I know it, because she has no self esteem when it comes to her weight and she's says she embarrasses dad because of her weight (she's not fat!)

Should I tell her she doesn't need his problems on top of hers?

[mrmcdonaldduck]

you and your mom should move out. your father sounds like a complete ass. (no offence.) as far as i can see, that might be the only way to be rid of him. and you should definetly tell your mom that she doesnt need to deal with his shit, especially if she has problems of her own.

good luck mate

[1_21Guns]

Hun, he's probably being like that because he has his own underlying past or has epic insecurities.
My dad used to behave just like yours, except i didn't have serious problems i tried to discuss, I only had to do so much as pronounce a word wrong and i was 'numb'
have you tried talking to your mom about it all?
i'm damn sure your not a stupid, fat, lazy overdramatic whore, i don't even know you. but i'm pretty sure your not that.
i thought i was going to have to wait till i was 18 to get away, then my mum said she'd leave him if that was what i wanted... oddly it's not something i'd recommend agreeing to. but anyway theres me going into useless information :)
just try and rise above the remarks he makes, i know it's not easy, but if you take them to heart they're gonna do you damage, which you don't deserve.
PM me if you wish to talk :)

[YouKnowWho]

Thanks, guys. I'll work on things.
I don't know how to talk to my mom about my dad, but something will happen.
At least he won't be mocking me and calling me names for the next few days because my progress report was good. :ppp
Yayy!

I appreciate you guys, thank you!

[Charleigh]

That would be nice. :) But I still don't know what to do. I'll wait until I'm 18, I guess.

He makes my mom feel like crap too. And I know it, because she has no self esteem when it comes to her weight and she's says she embarrasses dad because of her weight (she's not fat!)

Should I tell her she doesn't need his problems on top of hers?

well jnooffense but your dad has issues. get hel;phunny and if u wanna talk u know wheree i am x

[Atonement]

Technically, its call psychological or emotional abuse. I highly suggest talking to someone to see if they can help. A school counselor, a school nurse, a clergy member (pastor/priest/rabbi etc.), anyone that can help. Remember, your situation is temporary. Someday, you will move away and there will be nothing he can do. And if you're going to talk to someone, I highly suggest doing that first about your rape molestation problems you said you were trying to talk to him about.

[YouKnowWho]

Yeah, he has issues. I'm supposed to get a new counselor for other reasons, but I'll talk to them about my dad.

:ppp