Question about my boyfriend. Im a male btw.

[Lucky5555]

ok. so here is some backround info.
me and him started talking in like december. he is my first real relationship. my first kiss...my first everything. and i love him so incredibly much. and he says that he loves me too. and we both agree that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. ok so. he is 17 almost 18 and graduating highschool in a month. i am a sophomore. and we are both still in the closet..but he is "coming out" when he goes to college...in about 3 months. now we had been dating for three months and a week...and his mother found some texts we were sending about us sucking each others dicks...(we have done so before...but we said it was just us getting caught up in the moment and that the texts meant nothing.) regardless...she made him break up with me. ill never forget it...it was April 6th. and he came over with his mom and our moms talked while he broke up with me. he said he didnt want to. but that it had to happen bc his mom didnt want us to see each other. (btw...our moms knew about us dating and being gay prior to this...) anyway...it was the hardest thing i ever went through and it killed me...he proceeded to do it...and told me we should stop talking for a while...that was worse...bc underneath being my boyfriend...he was my only gay friend and a really really good friend. anyway...it pretty much made both of our lives hell...and 5 days after that...he texted me and said he would text me later...cause we needed to talk...and i was like...ok? so he did. and he said "i dont want this to end and i want you to take me back." it was great i imediatly did. bc i love him and couldnt live without him...and he told me how incredibly sumb he was for breaking up with me...and that he was sorry he did that to me...and that he was so overwhelmingly happy that i took him back. and we have secretly been together for the past month.(like my best friend know most everything...the texts...and stuff.. but she doesnt know that we have had oral sex(and we only did it for like 5-7 min...we didnt "finish or anything) or anything like that...just that we love each other and stuff like that.) (like we cant tell our parents (well ok my mom would be ok with it..cause she was only a little upset about the texts...) but his mom was like no way in hell. but he is going to tell her (i think) when he turns 18 and goes to college.) anyway. i really do love him with all my heart and he loves me...but im nervous about college for him. he will be coming out and he admits that he would want to date. but he would rather have our relationship work first. im just so confused about it. and i dont know how to handle it. like do i break up with him so he can be free to date? do i try and make it work? i want to. i want him to be with me forever. but i also want him to be happy and i dont know if he would be happier dating other people? i just dont know and it is so frustrating and sad. so please please please help me. what do i do?

thanks in advance!!

p.s. this feels sooooo good to tell and talk about..so thank you so much for listening!!!

[nick]

If you love him and think there is any chance that he loves you, rather than is just using you for sexual experience, then fight to keep him. Dont just give up on love.

[Lucky5555]

Does anyone else have any thoughts? Please???

[Scarface]

Love is not a thought it's a feeling. If you know that he loves you as much as you love him. Keep him and hold on to him. You have gone thus far why give up now. Good luck and I hope everything works out for ou :cool:

[Art_dude]

What a great story :) It's always heartening to see in today's world, two homosexual people who stand up for their love, and find a way to make it work in the face of such hardships. You're such a strong person - you should know that!!!

Anyway, I think what you're really getting at, is whether you can make things work in a long distance relationship, and my answer is varied. Some people really know how to make it work - I've seen it with my own eyes. If there really is a strong enough love between a couple, and the distance isn't too far, it can work. But then again, there are those who have the exact same situation, but can't make it work for either personal reasons or just lack of motivation. It seems you are really motivated to make it work and that's a sign of great maturity and a sign of sure success - Just make sure he's on board, and that he has just as much energy to invest in this relationship. You don't want to commit yourself and your energy to a relationship you feel strongly about if the other person isn't equally engaged. But on the other hand I think there is definitely something to say about breaking up on mutual terms and exploring your romantic lives independently. Especially when in your first year of college when everything is new and exciting. There's really no right or wrong answer. You have to ask yourself what will work and what won't. I don't know you, so I can't say what will work for you two. I hope this helps!

[LoveMe_HateMe]

This is going to sound really cheesy but.. Follow your heart. What's it telling you to do?

I think it's great you've found him, he sounds really nice :) they're aren't many people now a days who are like him. I think you should hold onto him and not let go. But that's just my opinion, like i said follow your heart :P

Good Luck with everything :) x

[Disconected]

STAY WITH HIM!!!!!! talk with him how u guys can make it work. just simply talk with him about what ur feeling and thinking so u both can figure out a way to be together. and if u guys both love each other then u will find a way to be together, i guarantee it

[Lucky5555]

Thanks for all the advice! :) more opinions would help. :)