I still REALLY like her....

[ThomasB.]

This is my story. When I was in Primary 6, Kimberley, lets just call her 'K' joined our school. At the time we were in separate classes, so didn't really get to know each other. Primary 7 was soon here (I was 11, going on 12) and I found myself in the same class as her, at the same group of desks. I soon got to know her. Thats when my crush on her started, and thats when it went out of control. I would talk to her every day on MSN and Bebo, trying to keep to myself the fact that I secretly really liked her. I ended up telling one of my friends, and then she told K, who seemed surprised at the fact that I fancied her. I think thats when it went completely downhill. She didn't speak to me as much as before, but we were still alright friends. I ended up asking her out on a date, and thats when it went dead. She rejected me :( and I was really upset. She was the first person I thought about when I woke up, and went to sleep. I was obsessed, but i soon (thought that i'd) got over it. S1 (Secondary 1) came later that year and we were split again. I haven't spoke to her like we used to since, but I think that she still wants to be friends. I am now in S2 (13 going on 14) and have started to grow that same attraction to her again. This time we are not as good friends as before, and I think if I was to talk to her, her friends would soon move her away. I wish that we could go out, as I have had a crush on her for about 2 years, and don't know if I can find the courage to talk to her again.

So thats my story, and I still think about her, and am wishing that we could be together :wub:. But it probaly won't happen, as she will probaly be too freaked out if I asked her again, 2 years later. What should I do? I really like her and don't want to lose her to another guy. I need help!!:confused:

[Skeletal-Chic]

To be totally honest, you need to really think about what you want to happen with your friendship with this "K"

Are you willing to loose her as a friend because she rejects you again? (a possibility)
Is it really worth loosing her? This would mean learning to let go of your stronger emotions of love and this slight "obsession" you mention. That isn't healthy and it might just damage your friendship of other relationships.

Another point is, if you've been watching her and crushing on her you might not be seeing her for who she really is. Wearing rose tinted glasses. You might have put her so high that she will never be able to fulfill what you imagine her to be like.

In the end it's up to you. You just need to weigh out the alternatives and makes sure what you plan to do is the right thing for BOTH of you.

[ThomasB.]

Another point is, if you've been watching her and crushing on her you might not be seeing her for who she really is. Wearing rose tinted glasses. You might have put her so high that she will never be able to fulfill what you imagine her to be like.

I haven't just been watching her. In Primary School we were like best friends so I do really know her. We do still talk but I don't talk to her as much as before, probably due to influence from her friends which is what i'm worried about.