Do you think we are strange becaue we don't want sex?

[peter1994]

There's a guy at school, same year but different class... I'd never even spoken to him until about 2 weeks ago, then he spoke to me in the library, offering to show me how to do a calculus problem. (I was kind of shocked because his image doesn't fit with being good at maths - he's a cute-face brawny sporty type.) Then he came round to my place that evening to go through the term's maths with me, because I was really struggling. It got late and he stayed over, which meant sharing my bed. I felt a bit scared because I'd realised I fancied him quite a lot, and I was certain he'd be straight. Except it turns out he isn't. We took quite a long time to do it, but we ended up naked in bed, cuddling and kissing. He's stayed over 4 more times in the last 2 weeks. Last night he told me he loves me. The thing is, neither of us want to do sex. We both love the skinship, the kisses, the intimacy, the showers we take together, masturbating together, etc. but we're not interested in f*cking. Is this weird?
Actually, I'm still having trouble reconciling what he's really like (soft, sweet, vulnerable - he cries sometimes - and stunningly intelligent) with his public image (he's black, as are all his mates at school, and with them he's a macho dude and pretends to be not interested in school study).

[nick]

Its not wierd, it may be that you dont feel ready for that step, but its also true that some gays are just not interested in anal sex. Just be yourselves and do whatever is right for you.

[Skeletal-Chic]

yeah, your probably both not ready to go the whole way. I know that I'm not but that I would be willing to do the things that you mention above. You're not weird, no, you enjoy the intimacy of each other but you're just not ready to take the next step. It's actually quite a mature attitude rather than "I want sex now, so i can brag" etc. :)

[Teen Music Lover]

If you feel that it is ok, than it is ok.
don't form yourself to stereotypes. Dont think that gays are always into sex and want it all the time, they are normal. Im straight, 16 and i have never had sex. Not willing to take that step yet!

[Trickster]

Lol not at all. There is a saying "an orgasm is what you feel in your body not your penis"
So you are being intimate and close and romantic. You two are more in tune with your bodies than just sex. Its called intimacy.
Your not being weird, your taking it at your pace. If you ever want sex then itll come but never rush yourself. Especially if you care for eachother a great deal

[dhjgfdgrrr]

Not weird at all...i think its sweet! :)

[Iron Man]

It isn't weird at all. I think it is good that neither of you are rushing into anything.

[Mattasaur94]

I don't think this is weird either...
but, in my opinion, having sex and making love are exceptionally different.
Just take your time, if you love each other, or like each other, make love when your ready, I'm relatively sure you don't want your first time to just be sex...
Remember, it's something fun, a way of expressing love (making love) where-as just having sex is, well... Just having sex.
To me there's a difference.
Do it when your ready, and when he's ready.

[Brandon16]

This is how I feel to I don't have the desire and am perfectly fine not having sex

[Kaius]

This is a bit old, don't bump please. :locked: