my boyfriend is jealous of EVERY GUY!

[love_linds]

ok so me and my boyfriend have been going out for 1 year and almost 10 months. and my biggest problem (aside from him leaving for the army) is that he acts really weird about every single guy i talk about. he always asks way to many questions and he get really quiet and upset. even though there is nothing to worry about.
i have NEVER cheated on him and i dont plan to, EVER!
it just gets really frustrating because these guys are my friends and he even talks about how he doesnt lik them. and he doesnt even kno them.
some of the guys i hav liked in the past but i dont anymore. and he should respect that. so all of that makes us end up fighting. and its not lik i hang out with guys i talk to them in class or on facebook(and thats cus im bored)

also what is quite frustraing is that he has girls on his myspace that he talks to and hes always looking at girls pictures that hes liked in the past. and he talks about how he still needs to meet these girls at his moms work who said he sounds really hot. he would be worried if i kept saying that. but i dont get worried, i just feel awkward.

wen i ask him about it and say that he needs to stop he says he cant because hes always worrying about me liking another guy. and i think i hav just as much to worry about but i dont worry. because i kno he will never do anything with anyone. but it makes me feel lik he doesnt trust me, at all. and thats wat hurts..

so what should i do...especially since i dont think its really fair how hesing doing that.

[Kaius]

It is quite a normal thing with some guys to be a little jealous of other guys that talk to their girlfriend. There might be a reason for this, such as being cheated on in the past by other girlfriends and fear of it happening again. This would have decreased his self confidence and may come to believe that other people are better than him, I'm exactly that way inclined sometimes depending on what mood im in. It may not be anything to do with not trusting you, it might just be the fact he's set in his ways and because it's not been talked about yet he might just need that extra bit of comfort from you to show him nothing is going to happen. He may just be protective over you and doesn't like the idea of what could potentially happen when he's away with the army. But when I started to read about what he does with the other girls I started to wonder myself. It seems like its one rule for you and one for him. I think your best option is to talk to him about what's going on. Why he's so jealous and why is it that he can talk to these girls but you can't talk to your friends.

[UnknownError]

Its prety normal. But you still need to talk to him about it. Just say how much you love him and how you will never cheat on him. If you do this then he MIGHT calm a little, but I can't promise you he will.

[myapocalypse]

I think, that he probably doesnt feel very confident when comparing himself to other guys. And he is protective over you like kaius said. BUT, it doesnt give him the right to do what you say he does. He will probably stop after you tell him that you want him to, if you have told him recently, it will probably end soon.
All in all, i think its not that he doesnt trust you, i think its more of not knowing these other guys and not feeling good enough about himself. And that he knows that he has to stop, and is trying, but maybe not hard enough.
I bet that if he knew how you felt, he would stop it all immediately. Or at least try his hardest.

Best of luck,
My Apocalypse.