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Greggy
April 19th, 2010, 04:36 PM
My dad.... I really have no where to begin, he's never really been a good dad. Couldn't ever support our family really, is very selfish, and pretty much everything in a person that I hate.

How it started: The drugs, it was definitely the drugs. They can ruin a family, not just the person who does them. I remember my mom crying sometimes at night, where she'd check her bank account, and hundreds of dollars would be missing, that my dad took for drugs. Leading us to hardly ever be able to pay bills on time, or at all. He is off of most of the drugs now, but he's still on some, and it's still taking a large amount of the money mom MOM makes, since my dad does not have a job.

The abuse from my dad, is way less severe than it used to be... I've been strangled, hit, and even had a knife held at me, all from my dad. I've tried to do things about it, but my mom won't let me help, she says he will change, or die soon, but I just keep waiting :\

Me and my dad still fight every now and then, it's usually just words. He knows that I'm just as strong as him, if not stronger. (Drugs weaken your body severely) But him and my mom fight more often.

My sister, lucky her, she's never had a finger touch her. Which I guess is good, I'm just really jealous.

As for school, sure, there are those immature people who say things, I don't really let it bother me. Yeah, I'm a little overweight, perfect target for bullying, and getting made fun of. But I really don't care what they say. So, it doesn't bother me.

That's pretty much it, without me going into some rant and shit about how much life sucks and such, because my life certainly does not suck.

1_21Guns
April 19th, 2010, 05:40 PM
It's good that you don't care what those bullies say, because they're only targeting you because they have insecurites about themselves.
Your fathers abuse is probably not something that can easily be dealt with, and i'm sorry that you have to be put through that.
Your mom might be scared he'll hurt you or maybe even her, which is why she doesn't want anyone to stop until he goes.
I'm sure you'll come out of this in the end, and your life can be okay again.

Mike321
April 20th, 2010, 02:42 PM
Sorry to hear about your situation, but its good that he hasn't touched your sister and that you are ignoring what the bullies say. I was bullied myself for about 8 years.
Like Natalie said your mom won't let you help you because she is probably scared of what your dad might do.
You'll come out of this a better person when its all over

Greggy
April 20th, 2010, 11:30 PM
Ha, It took me over a day just to read the comments to this. I spilled out things I don't even tell friends in there. Wasn't quite ready for other people's reactions. Thanks for the support you guys.

lagiacrus
April 21st, 2010, 03:54 AM
Hey man, dont worry we are all your friends and we will always stand by you and help you. You are a part of the gigantic VT family now. =D

1_21Guns
April 21st, 2010, 10:18 AM
Hey man, dont worry we are all your friends and we will always stand by you and help you. You are a part of the gigantic VT family now. =D

I second that :D

KodieBear
September 28th, 2010, 09:33 PM
first off, im sorry to hear about your situation. its a horrible thing for parents to be less mature about things than their own children.
second, i sort of know where your coming from. my dad has really bad anger issues that he tends to take out on my and my sister..more on me than her though. everyday my dad comes home from work, mad as can be, and yells at my sister for "screwing up" at something she had nothing to do with. then he yells at me telling me "i'll never get anywhere in life," and that "im no use" to him or my mom.
it used to be worse though. when i was in elementary school my dad would be the nicest person you could see then not a minute later, he would become a walking nightmare. on one instance i was at my cousins house and we were playing board games just for the fun of it. he beat me all the time and i called him a jerk, the outcome ended with me being hit by my cousin so i hit him back (what little kid wouldnt be mad for that?) and stormed out of their house, my dad following close behind. i new i was in some deep sh*t when my dad came outside. the first thing he did was slap me. i tried to run away but what did he do? he grabbed me by the shoulder, threw me against the fence and yelled at me till i literally peed. i went home that night cut, bruised and soaked in shame. that was once of the worst days of my life but i try not to let it get to me..we havent had a real conversation since (im now in 10th grade) and sure i got bullied, and it made me extremely insecure. i never had real friends because of it. when high school came around i realized that some people cared so i opened up a little. now i have friends even my dad would be jealous of.
so my point is, just talk to someone who will care. friends, family members, teachers, who ever will listen. in the end it will be okay :)