More helpp pleasee

[Cristina]

Okay, you may have seen my first thread about a few issues i've had. but here are some more i didnt want to bother mentioning in that thread:

1. about a month ago, i thought i was home alone and i was masturbating in my bedroom. My cousin, who is 11 and a boy, was looking through my door. i thought i saw him, then he hid, then i saw him again, immediately stopped, and called him. He walked in and sat on the bed asking what i was doing. I tried to lie, but didnt know how to cover it up.What should i tell him If he brings it up?

2. My older brother, who was 16 at the time, i was 14 almost 15, was masturbating in his room, which i didnt know at the time. I walked in his bedroom and he didnt hear me and kept on going. I said his name and he opened his eyes, and called me over. i sat down next to him and he was nervously trying to explain how normal it was and whatever, until i admitted i did it too. he felt a lot better, then got the idea of us doing it together. We started, with no touching at all, and we both had orgasms then we left like nothing happened. we never mentioned it again. Is this weird? Is this incest? I want to do it again, but im not sure how to ask or anything.

3. A few weeks ago, i was at a sleepover with 4 other girls. We were all going to go swimming, then starting skinny dipping for fun. we were all enjoying it and i could tell everyone was turned on. Someone suggested we went inside, and somehow one thing led to another and we ended up eating eachother out and fingering eachother and making out, anything of that sort. Am i a lesbian? i've always been curious, but does this make me bi? And i had a boyfriend at the time, Is this cheating?

[Raptor22]

I am a guy, and I understand that I am a guy and this is the girls forum, so this is my only comment.

Dont worry about it Cristina, its all a part of growing up and exploring your sexuality. A casual thing with friends is not cheating on someone. Now what happened with your family members is not incest, its just two teenagers exploring their sexuality. A good majority of teenagers do it, it isn't bad. As far as your cousin is concerned he probably doesnt know what he saw, and he is probably beginning to explore his sexuality himself. Just have fun, dont sweat it. :)

[NeedyTeen]

Its pretty awkward since its your brother and not sister. but if you guys were fine with it, then it's all okay.

and, i don't think you should do that if you have a boyfriend. do it with him.:)

[Hanyo]

Cristina, not sure if you're still looking for answers but...

1. Not sure what your lie was to your cousin to cover it up, but if you didn't really give him a convincing story you could come up with something that sounds mundane like; you were doing a pelvic self examination for cancer and no he can't watch you do it in the future and no you don't want to talk about it anymore... or, you could say you had recently shaved and were just scratching because it was itchier than you expected... or something. Or you could just tell him the truth, but its sounds like you don't want him to know what you were really doing, so I'd stick to a boring answer that somehow sounds plausible.

2. Its a little weird to m-bate with your bro, its not incest yet because you weren't touching each other, but I would advise against doing it again because it could turn into a routine and could lead to incest.

3. Doesn't make you lesbian or bi necessarily. If you know for sure you only like girls, you're lesbian. If you know for sure you like guys and girls, you're bi. If you're sure you only like guys, you're straight. It sounds like you like guys and have interest in girls at least, so at this point I'd say you're bi-curious??
--As far as cheating... I never imagined that kind of situation coming up... Would you think of it as cheating if your boyfriend made out and gave oral to 4 other guys?? Maybe the standard is different since it was girl-girl(s). Cheating I think depends on the point of view of your significant other. Maybe your bf would've liked the idea of you with other girls, and would have encouraged you to continue. Maybe he wouldn't like the idea. Or maybe would've been ok with it as long as he was invited to participate... Sounds like you're not together any more, but I think cheating depends on the point of view of your partner.

If I was in your situation and didn't know what my bf's point of view was, I would think it would probably fall into the category of cheating and confess to the bf and see what he thinks. But then again, I don't see that I would ever be in that kind of situation because I will not have sex until I'm married.

[sara1220]

1. just tell your cousin the truth in terms that he would better understand.

2. I used to share a bedroom with my brother, and we would masturbate together all the time..... i personally feel that there is nothing wrong with it as long as you are both comfortable with it

3. i do things like that with my friends all the time.... i dont think theres anything wrong with it and it doesnt make you a lesbian just for exploring... its part of puberty and growing up to be curious. again as long as everyone involved is ok with it there is nothing wrong with it.