Help?

[outside_looking_in]

Okay, here's the thing.
Last term my head of year saw my cuts, he's since then organised for me to talk to someone when I go back to school. (This Monday)
Now for the problem. I'm really scared of talking to them.

Has anybody here ever talked to a councillor about self-harm?
If so what was it like to talk about it?
Did they pressure you into taking about it, or just wait until you're ready? :what:
Any help will be gratefully accepted.

Thanks...

[Scarface]

As a counselor myself they are supposed to wait until you are willing to share about the cuts. It Isn't an easy subject to talk about because you describe how you feel about them and It sometimes brings back memories. I'm really happy that your going to be talking to someone about It, it will help you feel better. If you need anyone to talk to or need advice let me know I'm always here :)

[Kaius]

Hi Jade, welcome to VT!

My experienced with school counsellors have been quite pleasant actually. They've given a lot of support and strength when i was at my weakest and my parents didn't find out, not through the counsellor. What they did with me was the spoke to me about my home life, if anything had trigged me into self harm and things. They won't force you to tell them, but they might ask you to elaborate on what you do tell them so they can make a bit of a better picture of you. Obviously they will have some idea because of your school records and things. But at the end of the day these people are there to help you, and will not pressure you into giving any information you aren't comfortable with. You can stop at any time if needed and honestly it was that kick in the right direction I needed to see reason in a way. If you feel you'd like to talk to anyone that isn't a counsellor/teacher/parent then feel free to drop me a pm, I'd be happy to help however i could, be it talking or just listening. Hope this helps :)

[Harley Quinn]

Okay, here's the thing.
Last term my head of year saw my cuts, he's since then organised for me to talk to someone when I go back to school. (This Monday)
Now for the problem. I'm really scared of talking to them.

Has anybody here ever talked to a councillor about self-harm?
If so what was it like to talk about it?
Did they pressure you into taking about it, or just wait until you're ready? :what:
Any help will be gratefully accepted.

Thanks...

I have yes, and I still do. I was transferred through a teacher/HOY.
They don't really force you to tell them about the cuts or anything that's you don't want to talk about, they wait until you're ready and they encourage you along the way, help you with dealing/coping and just talk to you in general. Usually you can talk about what's bothering you or what's wrong and it doesn't have to be about self harm. Along the line though, they will ask about it, and by then you will probably be ready to talk to people/the person talking to you because you feel safe doing so. Buy remember you don't have to tell them anything you don't want to.

[Hatsune Miku]

As for me, I have. I didn't really start talking to her about my cuts until I grew comfortable with her. I'm really shy so it took me a while to open up about things. I used to go every week but now I just go whenever I feel like I need it.

[DayBreakArt]

Opening up is hard to do but once you get there it will be a relief. Trust me. Having someone to talk to really helped me. They don't force you to talk about anything you're uncomfortable with. Don't be afraid to let them in. It's all kept between you and them. I was scared too when I first went but I grew comfortable with her and let her into everything I thought. It's really helpful and isn't as frightening as it seems.

[georgiamay]

i've seen 2 people about my self harm. the first was at school, and she didn't pressure me to talk really, but she didn't help either. the second i saw outside of school, and he was brilliant, he really helped me. i mean, i think it all depends on who they are, and who you are. you need to find someone that you kind of click with if that makes sense :l if the coucellor you see at school helps then great! if it doesn't then don't give up, find someone to talk to outside school, until you find one that you feel comfortable talking to. good luck with it all :)

[outside_looking_in]

Thanks guys. Honestly you don't know how much you've all reassured me.
I'm still scared and nervious about it, but less than I was before.
Fingers crossed it goes okay.

[Nickk XD]

It'll be fine! As a student counselor at my school, the first goal is to always build an unbreakable bond with the counselees (my fancy term for people who are being counseled).

They aren't going to say anything about the cutting to start off, at least I wouldn't think...I know that the first words out of their mouth will not be "so, tell me about your cuts"...

[Emii]

Yes I have. And They can't make you talk if you don't want to. Just sit there and shut your mouth. Even if you think your being mean, Screw It. It's your life.