Do girls "give it back" ??

[ZFX86]

Ok so I do lots of the little special things that makes her feel happy and shows her that I love her without saying it. I was just wondering, is it normal for her not to return? I sometimes send her sweet messages in the morning- she loves them... But she never does anything like that for me.... It would make me feel better if she did - i feel a bit 'short changed' :(

[Sith Lord 13]

Then tell her that. A relationship needs to be fair. If she can't reciprocate, then she shouldn't be in a relationship to begin with.

[Marcie]

That's kinda how life works.. Yes, it sucks but it's the way it goes. (most of the time.)
If you do favors for people I don't expect anything back (I rarely get anything) it's just how it is.

Also as a random note. If you're giving with the intent of getting something back, you're not really giving with the right intentions.

[Maverick]

Also as a random note. If you're giving with the intent of getting something back, you're not really giving with the right intentions.
I disagree with that. You can give with honorable intentions but you eventually get to a point where if you absolutely get nothing back it starts to get on your nerves. Doing things for each other is the only way a healthy relationship can survive.

ZFX, talk to your girlfriend about it.

[Marcie]

I disagree with that. You can give with honorable intentions but you eventually get to a point where if you absolutely get nothing back it starts to get on your nerves. Doing things for each other is the only way a healthy relationship can survive.

While that is true, I still don't think that to give with the intention of receiving something back is the honorable thing to do.

[Darkness]

Ok so I do lots of the little special things that makes her feel happy and shows her that I love her without saying it. I was just wondering, is it normal for her not to return? I sometimes send her sweet messages in the morning- she loves them... But she never does anything like that for me.... It would make me feel better if she did - i feel a bit 'short changed' :(

I have been in one relationship, it was weird, and so I might not be valid to give and answer on this, but yes girls in my experience do try to do nice things for the people they are with.

[Close102]

girls steriotipically like that sweet and almost cheesy stuff. guys steriotipically dont like that kind of stuff. she might not realize you would like that stuff. basically just talk to her about it

[DayBreakArt]

Just talk about it. Communication is key to every relationship. (:

[staying_alive]

I agree with the above poster about not expecting something back. I think you should just accept the fact that she doesn't realize you want it in return. However, that doesn't mean you shouldn't talk to her about it. Don't specifIcally say you're expecting the morning texts, because thn she'll start doing it and you'll know it wasn't genuinely her idea. Instead, just tell her that youre looking for a little more affection. Don't compare your efforts to
hers or it'll just cause an argument. Good luck!

[INFERNO]

For minor little things, I wouldn't worry but for larger things, a relationship is two-way. You may want to see if she's like this to others too because if she isn't, then this may be a hint about the strength of your relationship.

[Strength]

Ok so I do lots of the little special things that makes her feel happy and shows her that I love her without saying it. I was just wondering, is it normal for her not to return? I sometimes send her sweet messages in the morning- she loves them... But she never does anything like that for me.... It would make me feel better if she did - i feel a bit 'short changed' :(

im in the same boat man. i do lots of nice things for my girl but she does nothing for me. ive noticed that with all my friends gfs to. leads me to think all women are selfish these days (our age group) :mad::(

[pixie1234]

:O seriously? its the other way around with me, im the romantic out of us both..... maybe if you do like a really sweet love letter or something and at the end put 'p.s. i dare you to do better' then maybe she would do one back. i did that and then the next week i got a ten page A4 love letter, i only did four on A5 lolz.... maybe she is planning something for you thats taking a while??? xx

[OnTheFritz]

Well I always try to do little things to make my BF feel special usually he beats me too it though and says something to me first though haha

[HillBillyWilly]

Yeah all the girls (even ones i don't know very well) seem to use me too throw away something or buy them a snack or even move them to another place (yes i have had one girl unexpectedly jump on my back and tell me where to go

[cassann08]

maybe just try to drop hints - even making them sound sarcastic like "oh, i'd love a good morning message" Don't make it too obvious though because she may take offense to it. I'm not in a relationship at the moment but I've always seen them as a two-way street - you give a little and you get a little :)